The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

Miss_Piggy_2

Morning all

GC Well done on coming back on and replying to us all. :T

Stereosteve Congrats on posting. I empathise with a lot of what you are saying. When I was 24 I got a job about 60 miles away from home so, in rather a rush, I moved into my first flat on my own. The job was pressurised (managing a small estate shop - bit like a spar). Drink played a large part in my life then. My situation did change....through a breakdown. I wish I hadn't let it get that far. It was a VERY painful time. Only you know what you want /need to do. But getting a hold on the drinking is a good step...drinking will only depress you. Well done on joining us - why not join in with the Alcohol Free February challenge. You can set your own amount of target days?

As for me. Well.....I'm frazzled! Little boy STILL not sleeping properly and ends up in our bed. Today I feel hungover and I haven't even touched a drop!! Bah!

Winebox 6 for me please!!

Today is VERY icy and snowy here. We are planning on taking little one out on a sledge to the shops. Then if it thaws a bit later as predicted we may actually get out to SEE someone !!:rotfl:

Hope you all have good Saturdays....catch up later!

Miss P
xx

the_rugby_coach

graemecarter wrote: »

I want people to succeed, as I don't want people to go to the depths I went to. I just care about you lot, even though I don't know you.
And blaming me for leaving the thread is a bit silly and childish really. Though if it makes you feel better and keeps you off the booze, you can throw as much !!!!!! at me as you like. :T

Thanks GC I think we all know that you mean well, I am sure none of us want tho throw !!!!!! at you....but you may have got some a couple of times over the last few weeks :eek: .

I guess what I'ld like from someone who has been to where you have, is your experiences, cos they are gonna scare me one hell of a lot more than any amount of tough talking

For example like recovering alocoholic:

RecoveringAlcoholicWelcome newbies. Be aware that this is a very fast moving thread!

Guess that it is an appropriate time to post my personal experiences.
I lost my marriage, family, house, job and health,
I now do unpaid voluntary work.

Alcohol can and does wreck lives.


Cheers all, have a good day

TRC

yellowmonkey

Morning all

4 for me please WB.

There have been some interesting comments of late and I must say that GC does talk sense but even if I agree with his posts that does not make me an Alchy. It makes you think though and perhaps I am scared to admit that I do have a problem hence coming on to a forum where I can talk freely and keep my identity secret helps me face the fact that I struggle with moderation.

I think people struggle with the label of alcoholic as they think of the winos on the park bench and to be put in that group is somewhat frightening.

Whos knows perhaps I am an alcholic but I am not ready to admit that yet and until I do then drink will become a problem. I only gave up smoking when I decided I was ready to do so. I do not take umbridge though when someone states that fact as everyone is entitled to their opinion and I believe GC means it in everyones best interest and I also hope that no one leaves because of it.

I am on here for ME and I will continue to cut down on my intake until such a time that I need to evaluate that fact.

Sorry for the long deep post but needed to get that off my chest

We are all different and we will get various things out of this thread (as I have soo much already ) so lets all have fun as we do it:T

Hope to keep up a bit more frequently but may be tricky as I have an important event soon but will post when I can.

Now lets all have a great weekend

ym

biscotte

Life on Mars was great - fantastic ending (I am two years out of date, I know) but it needed more kissing I think!

Welcome Stereo Steve, sounds like you are in difficult time of your life at the moment and this thread is a great place to post and get support.

therugbycoach, I identify a lot with your first post - since posting on this thread I've started to understand alcohol and it's role in my life a lot more and I know I lack willpower but I don't think I'm physically addicted. in the same way, I lack will power when it comes to nice food and choklit so I'm a few pounds overweight and a bit middle age spreading. So, I follow Slimming world *yes, green and red, folks* to keep an eye on my weight and I guess I use this forum for the same reason with alcohol.

I have had a strong physical addiction to smoking and it took me 20 years and numerous attempts to quit. I couldn't function in the morning without that first cigarette, would walk a mile in the snow to get a packet if I'd run out, terrible craving and withdrawal, Horrible and I hated that addicted bit of myself. I know I cannot ever have another cigarette unless I want to be back at square one very quickly, so I really can see how it is the same for many folk who have battled alcohol addiction. This type of physical addiction IS an illness. Personally I just don't see that in my relationship with alcohol - I did wonder but now I think my head has decided that moderation is the thing (in the same way it was a decision in my head that finally meant I could stop smoking).

I don't want to feel guilty posting that I have had a drink but I have done recently as I feel the thread has been more 'giving up' focused - and rightly so if that is what the majority of people need and want, so I know that it is my problem to deal with.

I want people to succeed, as I don't want people to go to the depths I went to. I just care about you lot, even though I don't know you.

GC this is a lovely thing to say. Helping people to succeed may take different approaches and methods, though, depending on the individual and 'I think he does protest too much' is not necessarily true.

BTW GC looking at your signature, are you American/Canadian?

Have a nice day everyone - it's miserable, cold nd raining here so somehow the housework seems a good option.

Pippilongstocking

Morning all - hugs Steve -really thinking about what you said - somehow it sounds like you need to get from work to gym to sleep without the bit inbetween being so full on. The stress you sound under is enormous - ever thought of speaking to your doc for some help? If you are far away I guess it might be good to speak to someone who just doesnt know you? Or would that be worse? Hugs anyways xxxx I know what its like to be 100's and 100's of miles from any friend or family xxxxx

6/7 for me WB - had some wine last night - its the first I have bought in ages was out shopping after t time, so go figure - but AS I am letting myself have wine at weekend if I want it - then I am not beating myself up today.

My head however is doing it for me - making me wonder why I bother at all - hope you are all good.

yellowmonkey

Hark at me.

Too wrapped up in my own importance I forgot to say Hi Stereo Steve



ym

barshamhillbilly

Morning All

Hi Stereo Steve :hello:

All is well on the mad BHB household, we are 'On Target' in our reduction :cool:

Hope everyone has a great weekend.

BHB

Lurkio

Morning all


Still on 4, wb. Had some beer last night and feeling carp on it this morning........ good job I was tired so fell asleep rather than finish it all :eek:

Welcome Stereo Steve :hello: Any relation to Seasick? :rotfl:

graemecarter

biscotte wrote: »

BTW GC looking at your signature, are you American/Canadian?
.

Fortunately not, I am from London my dear

Though lived in various countries for a lot of my adult life, so I probably have taken on some North American mannerisms, as the USA seems to be the dominant Western culture abroad.

budget_babe

HI Guys,

Sneakily logged on but I am at work.

Just wanted to say: welcome and good luck Stereo Steve, I am sure you will get the support you need on here. Take care and hugs. xxx

I also wanted to say that: The Commitments is one of my favorite films. There is a line in it which Jimmy Rabbit says which is:

"SAY IT ONCE, SAY IT LOUD":

I AM PROUD TO BE PART OF DEAR LURKY'S 2009 ALCOHOL FREE CHALLENGE.

I just think we all need to refocus on February and move forward with a positive attitude.
As Esther says: give a little love and it come back to you.

SO HERE'S TO FEELING THE LOVE.
:heartpuls :heartpuls :heartpuls :heartpuls :heartpuls

Ok getting off my perch now.
Love and hugs. BB
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