The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

GreyPilgrim

fayjmck wrote: »

Chocolate is a bean and orange is a fruit - so surely thats 2 of your 5 a day - sorry..........will stop being silly now.....

Be really careful with that logic.....I always told myself that a large bottle of red wine must surely count as 2 of my five a day.

Well it's made of grapes, innit?

jo1972

Well I'm currently eating a picnic, loads of fruit and nuts in there so I am positively healthy!!

Finishing it off with a decaf dowe egberts and a film that I should be able to stay awake for

Hope everyone's ok?

Fay, did you get the coffee?

xx

GreyPilgrim

Ah, you just reminded me...I bought some white tea with essence of pomegranate yesterday and I haven't tried it yet..

(*flaps like a big girl and heads downstairs to make some)

GreyPilgrim

GreyPilgrim wrote: »

Ah, you just reminded me...I bought some white tea with essence of pomegranate yesterday and I haven't tried it yet..

Did I really just say that?

My Viking forefathers must be spinning in their longboats right now

eselt

Hi all- hope everyone is warm and toasty tonight- very icy here, have set the alarm but not hopeful of getting to work tommorrow.

Fay- don't get despondent about PhD- I did mine part time (6 yrs) and finished in 1996. I think the first reading year and research review took more time than anything else, sorting out methodology and writing up rationale for methodology took about 6 months, then data recording, results and analysis of results was a breeze because that was my own work and I knew it like the back of my hand. Getting the 12 chapters together (you might have more!!!) into final thesis format took about 10 months, then viva's then finished . I found my supervisor was absolutely crucial, could never have done it without him- he proof read everything and helped me make corrections, challenged my discussion and analysis and prepared me for a difficult and thorough viva (Exeter University). You will do this, its a process, in isolation lots of the time, but if its your passion that will get you through. Best of luck.

Best of luck everyone- take care.

budget_babe

Hi everyone, :hello:

Hetty Wainthrope here, been investigating, good news is Polaroid posted on another thread yesterday but no Bhb posts since the 25th January. Getting a little worried!!!

Winebox another afd so thats 3 for me please, hope you are ok? Take care and hugs xxx

Fedupski thinking of you, please take care hugs. xxx

Glasgow Girl my Allen Carr book dispatched today, hope it arrives soon. Take Care xxx

Lillith Hi and welcome, good luck on the cutting down. xxx

YM sorry to hear what you are going through, take care, hugs xxx

Dear Lurky, yes it is about time you showed your face so to speak, don't forget that the lovely Esther said she will post more as well. Take Care hugs to both of you xxx

So signing off now feeling very tired and upset to be honest, can't quite pin down the reason why? Probably lots of things really, at least I'm not reaching for the red wine now. So I'm feeling pleased about that, realised the answer does not lie in the bottom of the bottle. Guess its time to look inside the inner me.

Love and hugs everyone, keep safe and well.
BB xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Pauper_Princess

Gosh this thread moves fast!!!!

Thanks to everyone else who said Hi, I've just realised I've not thanked you - oops. Thank you all anyway

Feeling veyr very low today. I drink to forget usually rather than drinking to be happy and jolly and I have FAR too many triggers for my unhappiness. Today was a "trigger" day and came home from work and cried for an hour!!! OH was really good and came straight home without going to Asda - he even skipped football cos I was so upset!

The ONLY things that have stopped me drinking tonight are -

a) the thought of driving on the bloody ice roads at 7.30 tomorrow morning, still over the limit, and

b) posting on here that I'd failed on day two!!!! :rolleyes:

So a SOBER night tonight, after all that. Although have eaten way too much including 4 packets of crisps, ah well.

Hope everyone's doing well, you all seem t o be very good at this. I can feel my enthusiasm waning already!! And I can associate so much with the sober/boring bit - Friday and Saturday night will be where it all unravels I'm sure...

Who was the person with the whiplash - I'm thinking Fed Up and Skint but I don't know if I've just made that up? Sorry about your whiplash - sounds horrific. You mentioned you have two dogs - is it hard work? We are going to meet two on Saturday at a rescue in Lancaster :j after losing our pooch in September. Dog was our substitute baby so we need another now I think but I think two would be more interesting. OH just thinks I'm bonkers :T

Thanks all,

PP x

fedupandskint

Pauper_Princess wrote: »

Hope everyone's doing well, you all seem t o be very good at this. I can feel my enthusiasm waning already!! And I can associate so much with the sober/boring bit - Friday and Saturday night will be where it all unravels I'm sure...

Who was the person with the whiplash - I'm thinking Fed Up and Skint but I don't know if I've just made that up? Sorry about your whiplash - sounds horrific. You mentioned you have two dogs - is it hard work? We are going to meet two on Saturday at a rescue in Lancaster :j after losing our pooch in September. Dog was our substitute baby so we need another now I think (we can't have a real baby - the cause of today's "trigger") but I think two would be more interesting. OH just thinks I'm bonkers :T

Hi PP, yes it was me with the whiplash after a crash yesterday, still achy and stiff. I have an old dog who is 17 shortly and a young 2yr old rescue dog. They are great together and they are my 'boys' too.

AFD for me today too to take me to 3/3.

PP, I found this hard myself last month due to various issues and set a target of 21 AFD and managed 14. At the end of the month it made me think if I hadn't done this challenge I might have only had 7 AFD out of 31. In the end I was pleased and ready to try again this month. I also found I ate many bags of crisps and things that are bad for me to eat.

This month I feel more positive about being AF for 19/28 days. I really missed drinking much more than I thought I would last month and this surprised me as I do not count myself as alcoholic (then I got fed up with the long debate about this on here at this time). I think it takes time to get used to not drinking and let go of the part you let it play in your life. It is up to you how much you let it back in to your life and what part you let it play. I wonder if one day I will be AF completely like mollypolly and eselt (the names that spring to mind)? Time will tell how much I change my thinking and behaviour about drinking in the future.

Take care PP and try and hang in there

Thanks to everyone else for their kind words and thoughts about my whiplash (I'll stop going on about it now!)

glasgowgirl

PP - thanks for your latest post and your honesty. Hang on in there, you've done brilliantly already through joining and sharing your feelings. The triggers you described can be really hard to resist but you've done it tonight - for whatever reasons - and that's the important thing.

Also had a c**p day at work and another friend just had a baby and sent round the pics. I'm single and would love a family, so altho truly delighted for friend, it's hard not to look at my own situation in comparison (and I hate myself for doing it) and feel down. 3 weeks ago I would have been reaching for the wine to "feel better" about my life.

Couldn't stay AF without this forum - finding it has been a blessing.

Pauper_Princess

Oooh fedupandskint - was your crash because of the weather? I HATE driving in these conditions, I'm a dead nervous driver at the best of times :rolleyes:

Gosh 17 and 2 is a big difference :rotfl: Though must admit, we are looking at two x 2-year-olds and two x 8-year-olds at the moment (not all 4 I hasten to add!!) so that will undoubtedly cause problems in future with one being on their own but I shall worry about that in a few more years!!! Not yet.

I'm not sure I'm going to make my 14 days. Perhaps the bad weather will keep me off till the weekend but once I know I don't have to drive next morning I'll be slipping I think. But as you say even 3 or 4 out of 7 is better than 0 out of 7.

Am off to bed now before I get any more maudlin :rotfl: :rotfl: (now you see why I drink!!!!)

Hope you feel better soon x


Edit - glasgowgirl (I belong to Glasgow too, in my heart anyway!!) you posted as I was typing. We can't have children and that was today's trigger - was working in a place where I was working 6 months ago when I got the text to say my nephew had been born. I made myself go and see them that night but I couldn't handle it, had 4 days off "sick" and drank till daylight every night. Being back in that place brought back all those memories (had to go back after my "illness" to finish the job) and made me cry all over again. I know EXACTLY how you feel x