Re: Lodger...Wrong Choice? Help Please

Amy78

well he let me know sunday that he would leave wednesday so 4 days before he leaves but that is 17 days before date i told him to leave and he wants the 17 days back

housesitter

You know, having a lodger is about give and take. You take the money off them and in return they expect to be able to enjoy the place.
I previously was a lodger with someone who was unreasonable. It decended into staying at opposite ends of the house.
She wanted the money but really wasn't willing to share her house with someone.

Now further down the line, that experience has taught me to give my lodger a lot more room for breaking the rules. He smokes in his room which was always a big no and he knows it, but to be honest, it's really not worth the arguement because after all he is paying to live here so that I also can.
I'm no saint. My clutter is around the house in main places and he does have a !!!!! or two at me for doing that, and he's probably right.

This is a long thread, and the brief bits I've read you really do remind me of the general pettiness I had to put up with living with her those years ago.
You don't strike me as capable of having someone in your house who is neither a friend or lover.
Think very carefully about re-letting a room.

Amy78

housitter it is the 1st time i have a problem with a lodger
my previous lodger was absolutely fine he just moved out as going to live in the uk and when he left i arranged a leaving party for him and i miss him dearly.
if the person is responsible i am fine now if i turn out to be the maid and my floor is damaged and every single agreement we had is not respected there is a problem and i dont think i am in the wrong. i rented a room to 1 person and not 2 but when i said that he said ok then he did not respect that and when i told him he took it badly so if you know the room is for 1 person dont try to make your GF move in little by little. otherwise just dont contact the person who place the add with mention no couple.

shaven-monkey

Amy78 wrote: »

well he let me know sunday that he would leave wednesday so 4 days before he leaves but that is 17 days before date i told him to leave and he wants the 17 days back

So, you hold a deposit from him which may cover the damage to the floor (whatever that is) and you'll send the balance back to the forwarding address he will provide you once you've dealt with any damage or costs caused by his lodging.
Give him the 17 days overpaid rent back after he has cleaned and vacated the room and handed back the key. Change the locks.

If you aren't holding a deposit then hold the 17 days rent until all expenses caused by his stay have been accounted for.

There's 2 discussions going on here it seems. One is "what to do" the other is "am i a bad person for doing this"
It's the internet, it doesn't matter what other people think of your actions because we'll never meet you.

If you want validation then I can authoritatively say you are not a bad person, you are a unique and beautiful snowflake. Now get on with it.

Amy78

i think at the moment i justify myself when i should not
but what concerns me the most is :
- should i give him the 17 days back if he leaves before the date i asked him too. as i though the notice was there to protect landlord from losing rent too.
- and the fact that he decides to leave before floor company comes to inspect why floor damage.

i dont want to be a b..ch and understand he needs deposit back for the new place. but then should i lose the rent if it is his choice to leave before date?

m1ntie

Amy78 wrote: »

i think at the moment i justify myself when i should not
but what concerns me the most is :
- should i give him the 17 days back if he leaves before the date i asked him too. as i though the notice was there to protect landlord from losing rent too.
- and the fact that he decides to leave before floor company comes to inspect why floor damage.

i dont want to be a b..ch and understand he needs deposit back for the new place. but then should i lose the rent if it is his choice to leave before date?

I dont mean to be rude, but for gods sake have a bit of backbone, make a decision and stick with it. All this shall I shant I nonsense is completely unnecessary, this whole matter could and should have been sorted out before Christmas.

poppysarah

You can't give him the money back until you know how much you have to deduct. Assume if you did you would never see him again.

cte1111

I wouldn't give him back the rent that he has paid, if he chooses to leave early that's his choice, but he can't expect a refund. I probably would give back the deposit, unless you can definitely show that it is him or his guest who has damaged the floor, in which case would hang on to it until you have a quote, then refund less the damage.

Letting agencies that I have dealt with hung on to deposits like this, so think it is fairly OK to do so.

cave_2

Amy78 wrote: »

not sure it is him as he said it is not. and i wont know for sure until company comes to see what could have caused the floor to be this way.
and in a way i gave him a month notice to make sure i would not lose the rent he had to leave on 01/02/09 and now he does not respect the contract and expect part of the rent back.
he did let me know he was leaving 4 days prior to date he is leaving so should i give him part of the rent back when i gave him a month notice cos for him he is accomodating me by leaving earlier?
if i tell him tomorrow i keep his deposit until friday that floor companies comes we are in for a huge argument so i don't mind giving him deposit back minus bills but keep the rent so that i can pay part of the repair of the floor with rent money as floor needs to be changed in the corridor as totally ruined

To be honest, it's only a couple of days rent, is it worth getting into an argument over? What's important is that you DO NOT GIVE HIM BACK HIS DEPOSIT until it pays for any damage he has caused (i.e. the floor, and anything else you find). This includes bills, repairs and cleaning (if you find he has made things damaged by being dirty).

Get him out asap

cave_2

Ignore creamy. Creamy has 14 posts, and has posted the same link in every single one of them.

He's not very bright, bless him.