Re: Lodger...Wrong Choice? Help Please

Amy78

Merci beaucoup
i will ask him to leave that is sure
thanks to you all and i wish you all a merry Christmas and happy new year

poppysarah

Please come back and update us when you're back too.

Amy78

Hi Everyone
i am back
when i entered the flat it was very dirty and nobody even broomed the place and lot of other things dirty no big deal I cleaned again
and hey i finally got the money for the bills Hourrrahhhh and rent late
since i came back i have not seen him, i hear when he and she are there but they obviously avoid me. As i still have not manage to tell him face to face to go as he avoids me well i have written him a letter of notice telling him to be out by 31/01/09 or 01/02/09 at the latest.
i will put the letter on his bedroom door tonight and to have the room cleaned for inspection.
hopefully he will not knock at my bedroom door and have an argument with me.

poppysarah

Did you have a friendly neighbour who could be on hand if needs be?

You've been very generous with so much notice - I hope he rewards your kindness with polite dignity and leaves without any fuss.

And keep us well informed!

madmalteaser

I'm slightly confused, what happened with the OP's situation?

neas

sure this isnt a wind up?

if you were so scared of him being violent he'd have been out lickadee split with most people..

kessik

Do you know what, I've read through this thread and I'm not convinced this situation is for real now either. Amy doesn't owe this lodger anything and seems to be finding lots of reasons now not to evict him. I would be scared witless, and feel a real cow to boot at the thought of throwing a lodger out but for my own self-preservation I'd force myself. Especially if the situation is as bad as Amy says. Plus I think I would've gone to my folks and friends for help nd moral support first before I started emailing on a forum.

Amy78

well first i only came back sunday and he was not there, he came back at midnight with his girlfriend so wrong time to tell him to leave
yesterday i was waiting to talk with him face to face and he came back late from the pub again and i was in bed
if i can not see him face to face i have to tell him a way or an other so i wrote the notice letter and it will be on his door tonight as i really do not want him to shout at me
now i give him 3 weeks notice so he can not tell me anything or complain and in the meantime i will be in my room so that i dont see him
i really want to avoid any arguments
it is clear he was avoiding me before my holidays now as he knew i would think about him staying or leaving. The decision is now made he s got to go
to do so he will get a letter as he still avoids me
even to give me the rent and make me sign his rent book he avoided me and let it on the table and sent me a text via mobile phone
so as i want him out i wrote the letter but he will be out hopefully without arguments and shouting
i am a scared of the way he will react this is why i think a letter is best so i do not see him and he can not shout on me.

and Kessik i went to my friends before writting on a forum but they are not landlord so i did prefer to ask people who have lodger to see if i was making the right decision and now i know i am

kessik

Point taken Amy. It's a real shame this has dragged on so long because your lodger probably has the impression that you're not really serious about getting him out - after all he's tried to sweet talk you before. It would've been better to have been firm right from the start. But I do appreciate that isn't always easy when you've been intimidated.

Amy78

I do find it very hard
when i went away i said to my mum i know he has to leave the flat but i do not know how to tell him as i don't know how he will react.
and if he shouted at me when i told him he was awaking me all the time and his girlfriend was there all the time too which was not the deal imagine how he will take the fact i ask him to leave.
i wanted to say it face to face fearing the reaction but as he avoids me then the only choice i have is the letter which is typed and ready in the enveloppe
i wonder how it will go tonight when he will find out the letter
i did not say why i wanted him out i just said due to personal circumstances as i really don't want him to argue with me or sweetalk me again saying it will change and so on ....
i dont think i have to justify why i want him out. i told him many times before he did not care so now play time is over