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Re: Lodger...Wrong Choice? Help Please

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  • silvercar
    silvercar Posts: 49,680 Ambassador
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    Leave a note before you go. You will have a better holiday without the thought of having to give this guy notice on your mind.
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  • Amy78
    Amy78 Posts: 60 Forumite
    Probably
    but as he does not seem to be very mature and took badly the fact i told him i'd like his GF to come less often than 4 or 5 time a week maybe i just better tell him when i am back so that i am sure that he wont throw a party when i am away :)
  • poppysarah
    poppysarah Posts: 11,522 Forumite
    Amy78 wrote: »
    Probably
    but as he does not seem to be very mature and took badly the fact i told him i'd like his GF to come less often than 4 or 5 time a week maybe i just better tell him when i am back so that i am sure that he wont throw a party when i am away :)

    Tell him you're only staying away one night - and then ring every evening and say you'll be back tomorrow. He'll keep on his toes if he doesn't know when you're coming back.

    AND GET RID OF HIM when you get back!
  • Amy78
    Amy78 Posts: 60 Forumite
    definately :rotfl:
  • ampersand
    ampersand Posts: 9,676 Forumite
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    Amy, you can't be sure of this at all - and you're likely to be out of pocket from those bills anyway. Now you are seeing another side to his behaviour. Immature at 35 and left 'home alone'?.............I just wouldn't do it, Amy.
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  • ampersand
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    DKLS wrote: »
    Tip for your next Lodger if you still fancy sharing your home.
    I get mine from the local hospital, I advertise on the staff notice boards. Mainly as medics seem to be a better quality of lodger.

    The last one I got was a Malaysian Consultant, who was perfect, he worked long hours, and when he wasn't working he was studying. He was house-proud, paid his rent on time, caused no bother and cooked the meanest Malay Curry :D.

    The phone bills were huge, but he was the one who sorted the bill and paid his share on time. I was sad to see him go.
    Yet we remain friends and I have an open invitation to stay with his family in KL.

    Will be looking for another at the end of January. OP go for a quality lodger with standards, make the rules clear from day one and you should find it can be a positive experience.
    ###########
    Just a thought for your next lodger - show him/her Martin's International Call Checker to help lower the 'phone bills.
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  • poppysarah wrote: »
    Tell him you're only staying away one night - and then ring every evening and say you'll be back tomorrow. He'll keep on his toes if he doesn't know when you're coming back.

    ooooh you're evil.
    I'm adding that to my playbook.
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  • What did the tenancy agreement say (there was a tenancy agreement wasn't there ?? ) . My understanding (but check...) is that if renting a room out in your own home you can give notice (eg a week) then change the locks (I mean the front door). Don't chuck his stuff out - he has a right to it. You may need to store his stuff if he disnae take it...

    See what your Landlord's association/Solicitor/CaB advises

    Cheers!
    Wisdom is the daughter of experience
  • Amy78
    Amy78 Posts: 60 Forumite
    well to be honest he is now avoiding me like the plague
    i told him Hello when he came back yesterday i did not get an answer
    he locked himself in the bedroom
    very mature
    i wanted to clarify the situation and ask him to pay the bills before i left and also give him his notice i did not succeed
    he totally ignored me
    well if i dont manage to talk to him to ask him to go then i will write him a letter to tell him to go
    it is so pathetic i have never seen that
    he is angry at me cos i told him coming 4 to 5 nights drunk with his GF during and not respecting the fact i work in the day is a no no and he this has to stop as this is not what i agreed to start with. deal once visitors in week ends.
    well he knew the rules to start with so if his situation changed and he imposed it on me i had my word to say especially as i could not get sleep in the week.
    should i feel wrong well i don't
    it is like kindergarden so hillarious to see someone behaving this way
    well you dont talk then i will write you to ask you to leave simple as that
    my neighbourg told me it is because he feels i will ask him to leave so he is buying time by avoiding me
    well wait i am back from holidays on the day i am back you will get your notice
    simple as that
    if he has not left when i am away which is always a possibility who knows
  • ampersand
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    Dear Amy,
    I think there may be few quite acollective sighs as we read the latest of your unhappy dealings with this man.
    The advice has been largely unanimous; you know what is necessary.
    I really think tthink the protection of your EMPTY home in your absence is the priority now, so will leave it at that.
    DKLS's advice regarding another lodger from local hospital staff is good.
    I'll wish you a happy break now and check how things are on your return.
    Joyeux Nöel.
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