MSE Pregnancy Club IV

cheeky_lil_monkey

Hi....I'm not pregnant yet (hope no one minds me dropping in), but we're thinking of starting to get pregnant soon!!!! We've been married 2.5yrs and have always wanted kids.
The only thing that would put a stop on things (well, that we have any control over anyway) would be that we only live in a 3yrd old 2bed flat. We did try to move, but there's been loads of 2bed newbuilds for sale for this past yr around us, so selling didn't go well. We've decided to stay put for a bit - anyone of you wise women (I've been lurking for a while, lol) feel we should hold off until we get a house? Ideally, I'd prefer to - but with the current situation, know it could take a number of years....and I ain't happy with that!!

My main question (yes, aside from the one above) is whether there's anything you wished you'd done before you had kids as I know once they arrive the whole world gets turned upside down and for the next 18-21yrs you life is not your own

I *really* want to be a SAHM and we're hoping hubby will be able to support us. We are lucky to have no debt besides our mortgage and we're 27&28. We feel ready. Just looking some advice - words of warning or wisdom - from you guys, who have miles more experience than me!!

Caz - I'm sorry to hear things are rough, I've never been in your position and can't imagine how you are feeling - never mind with all those pregnancy hormones. I really hope everything works out for ya.

searching_me

caz- hugs to you darlin ... we're all here for you xxx

skintchick

elle_gee wrote: »

I didn't search for it, but isn't MA £117.18 per week now too? Would assume that it'll go up to the same as SMP/SPP too. Will see what I can find out...



Sounds very bling! Where did you go on honeymoon?

I hope it does go up as well but there's no guarantee I guess.

our honeymoon was in Rome and then Venice, all very lovely.

mrsmortenharket wrote: »

Has anyone suffered with depression?

I have been off work for amonth. Due to go back for 2 weeks & then MAt Leave starts.

Am considering not going back.

I am not better. TBH, if anything worse.

Or am I the only miserable old trout?!

Lisa x

I have had cyclical depression since I was six. I'm mostly well right now but have had times when I've been really bad. Sometimes it is better to keep going, sometimes not, it depends on you. Are you on meds? Are you having counselling? What does your GP think about going back?

My GP refused to sign me off work as he felt I would be better carrying on. I still think he was wrong but it didn;t kill me being there either!

If you haven;t got a copy already please read this book:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Climbing-Out-Depression-Practical-Recover/dp/0745922481

it's brilliant. x

Sami_Bee

cheeky_lil_monkey wrote: »

Hi....I'm not pregnant yet (hope no one minds me dropping in), but we're thinking of starting to get pregnant soon!!!! We've been married 2.5yrs and have always wanted kids.
The only thing that would put a stop on things (well, that we have any control over anyway) would be that we only live in a 3yrd old 2bed flat. We did try to move, but there's been loads of 2bed newbuilds for sale for this past yr around us, so selling didn't go well. We've decided to stay put for a bit - anyone of you wise women (I've been lurking for a while, lol) feel we should hold off until we get a house? Ideally, I'd prefer to - but with the current situation, know it could take a number of years....and I ain't happy with that!!

My main question (yes, aside from the one above) is whether there's anything you wished you'd done before you had kids as I know once they arrive the whole world gets turned upside down and for the next 18-21yrs you life is not your own

I *really* want to be a SAHM and we're hoping hubby will be able to support us. We are lucky to have no debt besides our mortgage and we're 27&28. We feel ready. Just looking some advice - words of warning or wisdom - from you guys, who have miles more experience than me!!

Caz - I'm sorry to hear things are rough, I've never been in your position and can't imagine how you are feeling - never mind with all those pregnancy hormones. I really hope everything works out for ya.

things I/we didn't get to do before having a baby - finish renovating our house and get married - thats it!
i don't see any reason for you to not start ttc'ing now, you've got a spare room that can become a baby's room so hop on that man of yours

skintchick

About slings:
my mate Karen runs this company
http://www.slingeasy.co.uk/
and is going to give me a sling when I have the baby.

Sami_Bee

Ladies, I'm watching dancing on ice *yey* :j
Look at holly's bump its grown soo much since the end of x factor!

skintchick

Sorry - I'm posting a lot!

I have a question. We were browsing cots and have realised we don;t have room for one in our bedroom really. I thought the baby could sleep in a moses basket on a stand but is that OK and up to what age can they do that? Is there something between a moses basket and a full-on cot?

astonsmummy

Skintchick, what about a crib?

skintchick

astonsmummy wrote: »

Skintchick, what about a crib?

Sorry to be thick - what's a crib?

chalky_bertie

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Bertie: Don't worry it happens all the time is that your cute rabbit in ur avvy?

Yes but he died a few years ago but I don't want to take him off and replace him with Guinness our newish dog.

Now then, I asked a question about a pram and people said that you can't keep a baby under 6 weeks in a car seat (one that bends the babies back) so do we need a lie flat pram for a few weeks. That seems a bit of spending just to keep them in for a few weeks / months and then buy another one for after that time limit.

Also can anyone recommend a book for me and the wife as we have got no idea of what to do when they are born and what different stages they go through. (eg. how many nappies do they use in a day?)