MSE Pregnancy Club IV

Triggles

Aw Mel! Hope you can get some rest and are feeling better soon!

angela6834

Have an early night mel once the kids are in bed.....its awful when you feel like that x

cazscoob

i knew this wasnt going to be a good day for me but i didnt think it would be as bad. OH has announced that he doesnt think this is working and thinks it would be better to split up. i am so gutted have been crying all day and cant stop, writing this has set me off again so please bear with my ramblings???

i am so at breaking point i dont know what to do or where to turn. things havent been good since new year but this was the last thing i expected and now i just cant handle it. why me and why now of all times??? i really just want to curl up in a ball and never wake up right now. he wants to stay good friends and keep things normal for kids but i cant even bear to talk to him at the moment, my heart is broken??

to fill you in i was very stupid and had an affair 2 years ago after my nephew died. it didnt last long (a few weeks) but at the time i was so misrable and felt that OH was never there for me. it was with one of his friends and i was the one who told him. we agreed we wanted to be together and give everything 1000%. we decided we would have a baby (charlie) and i fell pregnant straight away. things have been good and we have had our ups and downs. he says that he cannot deal with it and thats whats wrong?? i have been through 2 years trying to help him deal with it and move on. we moved to a village away from everyone and everything and this was our new start. am feeling so sick and just lost dont know how else to explain it?? sorry i just dont have anyone to talk to about this right now

redmel1621

Thank You everyone...

I will try to get an early night, I have just made a nice hot cuppa and am dunkin bourbons into it!!! Need to check how many Syns (slimming world) they are

ds2 was complaining of his trainers hurting him on the way home too, so I suppose I will have to nip to town and get him a new pair tomorrow:( hmmm actually I may have a look online first, might be able to get them cheaper AND delivered!!

Mel x

redmel1621

oh caz I am so sorry to hear this, is there anyway he will reconsider. Could you maybe try marriage counselling or something to help him get over it. It seems a shame that you are now pregnant when he has decided this.

Hugs
Mel x

astonsmummy

cazscoob wrote: »

i knew this wasnt going to be a good day for me but i didnt think it would be as bad. OH has announced that he doesnt think this is working and thinks it would be better to split up. i am so gutted have been crying all day and cant stop, writing this has set me off again so please bear with my ramblings???

i am so at breaking point i dont know what to do or where to turn. things havent been good since new year but this was the last thing i expected and now i just cant handle it. why me and why now of all times??? i really just want to curl up in a ball and never wake up right now. he wants to stay good friends and keep things normal for kids but i cant even bear to talk to him at the moment, my heart is broken??

to fill you in i was very stupid and had an affair 2 years ago after my nephew died. it didnt last long (a few weeks) but at the time i was so misrable and felt that OH was never there for me. it was with one of his friends and i was the one who told him. we agreed we wanted to be together and give everything 1000%. we decided we would have a baby (charlie) and i fell pregnant straight away. things have been good and we have had our ups and downs. he says that he cannot deal with it and thats whats wrong?? i have been through 2 years trying to help him deal with it and move on. we moved to a village away from everyone and everything and this was our new start. am feeling so sick and just lost dont know how else to explain it?? sorry i just dont have anyone to talk to about this right now

Oh gosh hun, I dont know what to say!
Keep posting though coz you will at least find a tiny bit of comfort from the girls on here.
I dont really know what advice to give, i'm crap at anything to do with relationships
I'm so sorry....

cazscoob

dont know what to do or say myself??? feel like an idiot sitting here in tears but i dont know what else to do??? he kept saying he wanted to talk but i just couldnt say anything????

oh well 5 weeks to go you think he could have picked his timing better eh!

redmel1621

cazscoob wrote: »

dont know what to do or say myself??? feel like an idiot sitting here in tears but i dont know what else to do??? he kept saying he wanted to talk but i just couldnt say anything????

oh well 5 weeks to go you think he could have picked his timing better eh!

Have a good old cry (you are not an idiot for crying) and then maybe see if you can talk to him. He may be able to explain himself a bit more and why he's chosen now to want to split up!!

Mel x

scottishchick27

cazscoob wrote: »

dont know what to do or say myself??? feel like an idiot sitting here in tears but i dont know what else to do??? he kept saying he wanted to talk but i just couldnt say anything????

oh well 5 weeks to go you think he could have picked his timing better eh!

Oh hun, I'm so sorry to read that. (((((((Hug))))))) I was lurking and didn't want to just read and leave. Maybe he's just got cold feet with the baby been almost due. Hopefully he'll change his mind soon.

ladybirdintheuk

Oh Caz! What a thing to tell you at this stage! You're not an idiot for being in tears, I think that's a completely normal reaction. I agree with redmel, that a visit to relate (or whoever you have local to you) would be a good idea if he will agree to it? Make sure that he knows that you still love him, and want to keep working at it.

Is he still there, or has he wandered off?