Pros and Cons of having a second child?

Triggles

You should be greatful I am working hard to pay your rent.....

I'd say right about now, the only thing I'm grateful for is that you're not my DH or parent. Good grief. Oh and note the correct spelling of grateful - if you're going to be insulting at least spell it correctly.:rotfl:

Glen0000

Triggles wrote: »

if you're going to be insulting at least spell it correctly.:rotfl:

I am dyslexic, but thanks for the heads up and for laughing at someone with a learning difficulty.

Gingham_Ribbon

Glen0000 wrote: »

I beg to differ. Teachers, police, firemen all middle class professions. My mate is a plumber and earns £70k so again more of a middle class profession thesedays. I doubt very much these people would earn so little to be able to claim tax credits (maybe the nurse).

Who is this joker? :rotfl:

Starting salary for teachers and firefighters is between 20 and 21K. Police get around £1000 more.

Child tax credit is available to anyone with children who earns less than around £60,000 per annum.

Pigeongirl

:rotfl: Thanks for all the replies. I didn't realise it was such an emotive subject!

The thing is, as much as I love my son I have found motherhood SO much harder than I thought! I have had depression since he was born; it has only started to ease this year (when he started preschool lol) and the idea of feeling so low again fills me with dread. I'm not sure I want to go through pregnancy, the agony of birth and then possibly wreck my mental health by having another baby but other people seem to find it so easy. I wonder if I shouldn't be put off by the bad experience I've had so far and just go for it.

I sometimes think Im not a normal woman since most other people seem to be able to have children without a worry.

Triggles

I am dyslexic, but thanks for the heads up and for laughing at someone with a learning difficulty.

Oh puhleeze. Like I'm supposed to know that you're dyslexic. I think it's a serious case of "can dish it out, but can't take it." And I know a number of people with dyslexia that can spell just fine. It doesn't give you a free pass to slam others without any justification.

Obviously a holiday troll.... I refuse to be drawn any further into a battle of wits with an unarmed opponent. :rotfl:

PeskyPenguin

Please do not feed The Troll (AKA Glen) and just be thankful that he has stopped breeding at one.

Gingham_Ribbon

Pidgeongirl, we'd love more children but my husband had the snip when our youngest was 4 months old because of the toll it took on my health getting our 2 here.

But it was hard getting the first here and we risked it to have 2. There are no right answers. You have to do what's right for your family.

What I will say is that the strain on our oldest while I was ill was significant.

Gingham_Ribbon

Edit: it was exactly the right thing for our family to do though, and although I'd have liked it to have gone more smoothly, I don't regret a second of it. Our boys ADORE each other.

tiamai_d

Pigeongirl wrote: »

:rotfl: Thanks for all the replies. I didn't realise it was such an emotive subject!

The thing is, as much as I love my son I have found motherhood SO much harder than I thought! I have had depression since he was born; it has only started to ease this year (when he started preschool lol) and the idea of feeling so low again fills me with dread. I'm not sure I want to go through pregnancy, the agony of birth and then possibly wreck my mental health by having another baby but other people seem to find it so easy. I wonder if I shouldn't be put off by the bad experience I've had so far and just go for it.

I sometimes think Im not a normal woman since most other people seem to be able to have children without a worry.

Your making the right choice for you and your family. I would love to have another child (number 3) but the risk to my life would be too great and I have to think of the children I have allready (including an unable-to-cook husband). If you are happy and settled then why give in to some twisted social pressure?

fernliebee

sorry pesky penguin had posted this (deleted my above post now) before I read your post. I agree!
OP only you can decide but I think go for it! I love my siblings and I definitely want more than one child. Good luck with it.