Old Style Diary Archive - JAN 06

rchddap1

charlotte664 wrote:

Rchddap1 - have you tried playing them at their own game (so to speak). make an offer that if they wait until shes 19/20, you would pay for the honeymoon? Make some sort of grand geasture and hopefully will have a few years for her to grow out of it?

She has just told me that they aren't going to 'do the deed' for a couple of years. With any luck it will have all blowed over by that point. OH and I need to talk about a 'gesture', but suspect that he'll tell her the following....

"if you're old enough to get engaged then you're old enough to pay for it all and handle it all yourself"

Seems harsh...but I know that he won't want to help her overtly and there's a very good reason for it too. When he was 19 he got married....ended in divorce. Prior to 19 he was going to get married...didn't work out...but ended up in his now 16 yo daughter (ie, this one).

This is going to be so hard for him to understand and its going to take all my effort just to stop him from breaking the guy's legs on Saturday...nevermind cancelling the lecture and getting him to say 'congratulations' and actually mean it.

I can work on the rest later, but for now I need to stop him from really having a go at her....and particularly at him.

I am literally piggy in the middle and can seriously see some large problems at the weekend. If it comes to it I'll end up grabbing the other daughter and will leave the 3 of them to it. What makes it worse is that I'm an 'almost step-mother' (ie, dad and I aren't married). This is one I can't really handle...its a Dad moment...but I know he won't be able to handle it 'rationally' right now.

joannasmum

Morning all

Just sat down to have a quick look at the site and watch the Wright Stuff and Martins on it :j . Just checking my shopping list then its off to Aldi to get this weeks bits. Hope to spend no more than £20 will have to see the lists looking pretty big

Hugs to all, especially those with ill children.

Breakfast: Porridge and tea
Lunch: Sandwich
Tea: Suppose to be chicken but not sure if I fancy it now.

Have a good day

Bargain_Rzl

Morning :hello:

Great news yesterday from boyfriend - the problem that's been holding up the purchase of his new flat has finally been resolved (would you believe he put the offer in THREE MONTHS ago?) and he should be in by next weekend :j :j :j Also it seems he's got a mega bargain because the flat next door is now selling for 20% more than he is paying for his!!

Looking forward to it because he's been living in a B&B (outside London) for the last 4 months since selling his house, and as I'm in lodgings with no extra space, we've had nowhere for any privacy.

When he's moved in he says he is going to take me out on a mega-posh date to celebrate Might pop into the shops this weekend to see if I can pick up a bargain outfit (all my smart clothes are either long, i.e. super-formal, or work-style) as I think most of the department store sales end on Sunday so there could be huge reductions to be had. I had a budget for the sales and have underspent, so it's fine. (Only trouble is I'm a size 14 and at this stage of the sales it might be tricky to find anything that isn't an 8 or a 24...)

I am hoping that once he's in London I will be able to spend a lot more time with him, which as well as all the obvious things, will mean that I can cook/shop for him a bit more and hopefully make sure he's eating healthily (he is quite a few years older than I am, and overweight, so I'd like to get him into shape for the sake of his long term health).

At the moment though, my OS ways continue to fall by the wayside - I haven't cooked or shopped all week and my stash of ready meals has now run out, so it'll be another takeaway lunch today

Kiwichick - good to know your DD didn't have to go to hospital - I hope she feels better soon. Also Pooky, I hope yours are on the mend.

C-Q - you'll be fine. And soon you won't ever have to go back there again.

thriftlady - isn't it nice being treated by your parents I don't get many freebies off my mum cos she has less money than I do, but I can usually persuade my father to treat me to a meal out

rchddap1 - I agree with the "gesture" idea, but don't envy you having to deal with the situation!

P-P - I keep meaning to ask if you've tried out that new mini-supermarket yet on the high street near the station - the one that opened a couple of weeks ago with all the fruit and veg out the front. Seems to have commuter-friendly opening hours and be a lot cheaper for fruit and veg than mini-Sainsburys or the Co-op :rolleyes: so I'm sure I will be in there soon.

Right, must go, work to do!

Rzl xx

rchddap1

Well she's just described the ring to me by text....so I think that when she said that he didn't know anything about her wanting to get married wasn't exactly true. Give it a few months and I'll probably be an 'almost step gran' .... now that is very scary...especially as I'm not even 30 yet.

The gesture isn't going to happen. Especially as OH and I aren't married yet ourselves (despite being engaged for ages). Anyway she's always going on about how she doesn't want to go abroad on holiday so if we offer a big holiday / honeymoon...it won't make a bit of difference to her.

I think we'll need a holiday ourselves after this weekend. I haven't got any kids of my own yet. Its not as if I've been gently eased into things. No....I have to pick a bloke with a ready made family (couple of teenagers), with associated teenage dramas.

nicki_2

Morning all and isn't it a wonderful day The reason I'm happy is that DD has gone off to school and is going straight to her friends house ...until 8pm :j :j It's the first time she's been to someones house like this BUT I went to school with the kids father so I'm not too worried.

I'm setting too on the ebay items today - I spent all day yesterday cleaning the house and I spring-cleaned (apart from moving furniture) the bedrooms so the pile of ebay stuff is a bit big :eek: Shouldn't take me that long as quite a bit of the stuff is clothing that DD has outgrown.

Currently though I'm watching Martin on The Wright Stuff which is strange for me as I never put the TV on during the day unless I am taking a break from the computer and NEVER this early or DD is off. Off to make a cup of tea ...

cha97michelle

morning all

hugs to everyone who had too little sleep, or got poorly babies.

haven't done much this morning - i'm very tired. Have a Drs appointment at 11, so i might have another cup of tea and then get ready to go. I could also do with going to see my sister. She's been in hospital with an ectopic pregnancy, when she didn't even know she was pregnant. I had the kids for her at the weekend but i haven't seen her since.

had a strange evening. My mum came round to see me which she doesn't do very often as she is so busy. We had a big heart to heart chat as i'm thinking of packing in my job. I'm a teacher, and have been off sick since early November with throat problems and fatigue, although my mum in her wisdom reckons i am depressed about the job and that is why i'm feeling rough. i was working 18 hour days before i became ill because my school is in special measures, and i can't face the thought of going back to it. Even though i'm off i'm still having to send in all my work, and they have sent some of my marking to me, and are also hassling me about applying for a promotion. I ended up in tears, and i think she is right, that i am going to have to leave my job, which once i'd come to that decision, did make me feel a bit better, and i slept better last night.

i'm going to try to do very little els today. I'm going to cook some chicken in a garlic stock for tea tonight, perhaps with rice. Store cupboard is looking bare - no onions, no tinned tomatoes. Should go shopping soon.

hope everyone else has a good day.

Michelle

rchddap1

OH is calm for the moment ..... which is a good sign. He actually gave me the impression that he thinks its a bit funny and is going to enjoy himself this weekend. That is, he's going to do his best to wind up her boyfriend about various things. He always likes an opportunity to have a bit of fun. Problem is his daughter sometimes has trouble seeing the funny side of some jokes...and then gets upset.

Deep down I know he's sad and scared, but at least he's not going to do anything that will cause any serious damage. It still won't solve the problem, but he's had a chance to think about it and has obviously found a way to smile at it all. I'm still concerned that if this engagement turns into a marriage that he will start to react in a different way, but I suppose that is one for down the road.

In the meantime I will just treat her like the 'adult' that she wants to be....and will keep everything crossed that everything turns out okay.

holstar

yawn! had almost 12 hours sleep, and i feel so much better for it! hopefully todays revision will go better than yesterdays, i ended up getting so confused about late Pleistocene climate (don't ask!) that i just started crying tears of frustration and went to bed...think i was just over-tired and over-stressed by the whole exam thing....but am feeling uber-calm today :j

cleaning the flat...that didnt happen yesterday, male flatmates were being lazy and wouldnt help with anything, so i only did the kitchen in the end...will do the shower and toilets today as a revision break

so, the plan for today....revision! (what a surprise!) Quaternary glaciation and climate exam tomorrow morning, so plenty to be learnt for then.

breakfast - apple and raisins
lunch - dunno
tea - jacket potato with something

snowy - yay for finishing exams!

hope all the lil OS babies are all getting better....and those that are still ill get better really quick

laters
hol xx

ps, quick vinegar question....why do you use white vinegar for cleaning? why not normal brown vinegar? does it stain or summat??

freyaluck

morning all
huge hugs to all the mummies and poorly babies.
holstar it's fine to use brown vinegar instead of white and cheaper too
lots of clearing up to do today as this place is minging. dp at home again today, so hopefully he will help a little even if it just means keeping the kids amused.
brkkie- rivitas
lunch rivitas fruit & yogurt (h/m)
tea chicken with something or other
this is my day to start slimming properly, so no choc or cakes for me :eek:
can any one tell me how many rivitas is a healthy extra on slimming world as I can't find me book.
hugs to all
frey

FunkyFairy

Good morning all.

Off work today as DS has the runs big time bless him.

Got loads done already hovered, load of washing in the machine and the slow cooker is on with a sausage casarole.

Taking it easy with DS he needs lots of hugs and love he is only 3.

Sorry to hear that others have ill children its not fun you just wish it was you rather than them.

Take care everyone

Bye :hello:

Breakfast: nothing
Lunch : prob a bowl of special K
Dinner : sausage casarole and boiled new potatoes