Leaving my husband

k2tog

He can't do this Rolo, if the house is in both your names. Do speak to your solicitor. Don't forget to let us know you're OK x

msb5262

Hi Rolo,
We're all still here with you. Hope this latest stuff doesn't get you down too much,
MsB x

yoni_one

Good luck with the solicitor Rolo, and if it comes to it I understand that if a co-owner of a house changes the locks, the other owner has the right to use force to gain access to their property (unless there is a court order against them to stay away).

He hasn't accepted yet that your relationship is over forever, he has no power over you now so is grasping at straws doing whatever he can to try and get some of that power and control back.

He's being an @r$e. Stay strong and stay safe xxx

rolo-polo1965

Hi

I have contacted my soliciter and am waiting for her to get back to me.

I am so angry that he has done this but i do feel that this is a power issue.

Keeping_Positive

Shows that he is finally realising that you are not going to back down. It may be a rough few months but you have shown you are strong enough and he has shown no change in ways to redeem himself.

Good luck and positive vibes heading your way xx

TurnaroundSue

Well done for staying strong - but if your OH says he loves you and the kids, he has a funny way of showing it!!! I think this shows him in his true colours and that you are best out of it. Any man who loves his woman, wouldn't do this to them. Good luck and sending hugs to you and the children.

k2tog

yoni_one wrote: »

Good luck with the solicitor Rolo, and if it comes to it I understand that if a co-owner of a house changes the locks, the other owner has the right to use force to gain access to their property (unless there is a court order against them to stay away).

This is correct from Yoni.
Hope your solicitor has some good advice, as although this is your right, there may be alternatives and she should certainly be aware he has done this.

Fat_Fairy

Rolo just found this thread and wanted to congratulate you on being so strong and such a great example to us all, and to your kids, that nobody should should ever have to put up with being treated like crap.
Well done, hope it all sorts itself out soon for you xxxxx

Mely

yoni_one wrote: »

Good luck with the solicitor Rolo, and if it comes to it I understand that if a co-owner of a house changes the locks, the other owner has the right to use force to gain access to their property (unless there is a court order against them to stay away).

He hasn't accepted yet that your relationship is over forever, he has no power over you now so is grasping at straws doing whatever he can to try and get some of that power and control back.

He's being an @r$e. Stay strong and stay safe xxx

Your spot on Yoni!

Rolo please stay strong. He cant beat you, nore the legal system!
We are all here to support you, and i know things will turn out for the best in the end, but be prepared for him turning nasty and possibly doing dirty tricks now he knows he cant control you, and make you go back to him.
Mel xxXxx

rolo-polo1965

Just spoke to soliciter she told me:

• Courts sent the divorce papers out to him on 23-04-09
• We both need to fillin a financial disclosure form
• Will i attend mediation to discuss money, i said yes. So she will write to hubby
• Need to get property valued by 3 different estate agents
• With regards to the joint load, i should be paying half of it, but i could get in touch with loan company and pay them half of it direct
• He can not change the locks without a court order banning me from the house as he has not done this i can use reasonable force and enter the property, she would not advise me to do this just tell him when i want to go round and he has to let me in

I thought i should let you know, she will not write to hubby telling him about mediation and see what he says. She will write to me confirming what we spoke about.