Leaving my husband

Money_maker

Watching how you're getting on. Sounds like your agency are being very helpful.

Chin up and glad you're feeling better.

Marg

Thank you for letting us know you are OK - Keep Strong -M x

rolo-polo1965

Just thought i would update:

I am waiting for the courts to serve him the divorce papers

I contacted the CSA on the advice of my soliciter as she had written to him and he was refusing to give me any money for the kids. He was not happy about this, they have told him he needs to give me 25% of his wages for the kids. He feels that because he is paying £300 joint loan and £48 endowments he is contributing. We have took a payment holiday on the mortgage to ease things at the moment. He feels i should pay half of these despite the fact i am having to pay £535 rent.

He has told me he is seeking legal advise over the house and money, this is something i told him to do months ago.

As things happen i shall report. Many thanks forthe PM's i have been recieving

spirit

I'm glad to read you are keeping positive and keeping up the pressure on him - well done.

Does he have his head in the sand still hoping you will go back to him?

rolo-polo1965

spirit wrote: »

I'm glad to read you are keeping positive and keeping up the pressure on him - well done.

Does he have his head in the sand still hoping you will go back to him?

Yes i think he does as he is always asking me when i am going back home

Keeping_Positive

Just read the whole thread and wow what an inspiration. I am so glad you have been so strong and hope the rest goes smoothly for you. Can only agree with all the wonderful advice and support you have recieved over the last few months.

Good luck with the rest of the journey xx

juliav50

The actual process of getting divorced is almost without exception the most horrible thing anyone can go through, but if you really feel it is the best thing you will feel so free at the end of it all, and know it has been the right move, and you can get on with the rest of your life. Well done on keeping positive, and please accept a big HUG from a complete stranger for you and your kids.

Juliav50

k2tog

Hi Rolo - Glad you are OK.
I reckon that when he gets some legal advice he'll get on with it. It might be that he needs someone (the solicitor) to tell him he isn't being swindled before he accepts things. Fingers crossed.
Take care x

rolo-polo1965

Just popped round to the marital home to get a book for DD3 and he has changed the locks. I will inform my soliciter of this tomorrow as i am unsure whether he can legally do this as the house belongs to both of us.

I think he is starting to fight dirty.

I will not let him know that i know what he has done.

RAS

Hi

If the house legally belongs to you both, changing the locks is illegal. We have even known victims of serious domestic abuse be told by the police they cannot change locks to keep their ex out, unless there is a court order.