Leaving my husband

msb5262

Hope you feel much better very soon, Rolo. You need a break so be kind to yourself. Don't forget, beans on toast make a great evening meal when things are getting on top of you...and presumably your older children are learning to cook a bit. If all else fails and you need to stay in bed, a day or two of toast and cereal won't do them any permanent harm. Maybe they could even bring you a snack while they're getting their own!
Thinking of you
MsB

DON79

Hi rolo, read the whole thread - well done you and keep going and keep your chin up! Hope you are feeling better too. Take care of yourself and your kids.

Donna

rolo-polo1965

Well feeling much better.

The courts have decided i only need to pay £75 towards the £300 court costs. Which i am pleased about. Sent them a cheque so the papers should be served to hubby very soon.

As more happens i will report.

Take care

yoni_one

Rolo, this is great news!

And if you are concerned that he may kick off in a violent manner when he is served with the papers then please make sure you and the kids have some sort of safety plan in place and ask to be informed exactly when they plan to serve the papers.

I'm not trying to scare you, goodness knows you have been through enough vulnerable times already and are highly aware of the risks as you have taken steps on this journey, but please be alert that statistically this is another vulnerable time. You have said so yourself, so please keep safe, have your mobile phone on you at all times and make sure it is always fully charged, don't um and ah if he makes direct or indirect threats ring the police on 999. And please try and explain to the kids that their dad's behaviour may change in the near future and to be prepared if it does.

Well done Rolo. Take care xx

k2tog

Hey Rolo!
I "know" you from another thread - I had no idea you were going through such a difficult time. It sounds like you are getting through all this and being very capable. I just wanted to wish you well and say that when you get tired of filing his spam, pop back to the other thread for a change of scene if you need it.
All the best to you and the kids x

Marg

Happy Easter Rolo! Hope all is well - I'd lost track of you. Yoni reminded me as I was chatting to a lady in a similar fix on another thread, telling her how strong you'd been and your achievements so thought I'd pop back & say Hi!.

twinklie

In fact I was reading the other thread when Marg put your name forward. OMG....you've been amazing. Keep your chin up and I'm hoping you just go from strength to strength.

Please think about what yoni_one says, but don't let it worry you too much. Keep on plodding through and you'll be out the other side in no time. I'm amazed how well you've done already so quickly.

xx

k2tog

How are you all doing Rolo? Haven't heard from you for a bit.

rolo-polo1965

Just thought i out to pop in and say hello.

We are all ok, i am over my illneses, think some of it was down to stress.

Nothing really progressed, papers logged with the court. I will email soliciter and see if they have been served to hubby yet. Apart from that i think it is a case of wait patiently as the wheels work very slowly.

Had a call from the agency who we rent the house through, asking if i wanted to re-knew the lease. I explained that me and the kids have decided we want to move back to the marital home but not untill hubby moves out. He is refusing to do this at the moment. So they sugested i went on a periodic lease where by i agree to be there a month at a time. So thats what i might do.

I will talk to soliciter and see if she can apply pressure on hubby to move out. He says i can buy him out foe £30,000, the house is worth about £90,000 plus he wants half of the endowmwnts that are worth about £15,000. So i need to talk to soliciter about this as well.

I think thats all for now

k2tog

Glad to see you are Ok Rolo. Thanks for the update. Fingers crossed that things start moving a bit quicker in the right direction for you.
Take care