Leaving my husband

Emmzi

rolo, is it time to get some support for you now? your body is bound to be exhausted, you have been so strong for so long. maybe it's time to see real people (as well as us internetties!) cos sometimes you need a smile and a hug.

how about gingerbread (yes, you're a lone parent ish now, and there will be people who have been through it all and can help)

or going to relate on your own this time, to talk it through and make sense of it all.

you have done loads for the kids, what are you going to do now for yourself?

(still think you are ace btw!)

rolo-polo1965

Thanks for this.

I have done so much for the kids through all of this and they have been my number 1 priority and they still are.

I just feel so exhausted yet i can not sleep, i shall contact gingerbread i had not thought of doing this before.

Thanks

Emmzi wrote: »

rolo, is it time to get some support for you now? your body is bound to be exhausted, you have been so strong for so long. maybe it's time to see real people (as well as us internetties!) cos sometimes you need a smile and a hug.

how about gingerbread (yes, you're a lone parent ish now, and there will be people who have been through it all and can help)

or going to relate on your own this time, to talk it through and make sense of it all.

you have done loads for the kids, what are you going to do now for yourself?

(still think you are ace btw!)

Emmzi

if you can't sleep, don't forget parentlineplus - its a 24 hour freephone number - so if you get those niggles and want a chat with another mum or dad to put your mind at rest...

claireac

Wow!! Rolo I've only just come across this thread and I've read it start to finish (meant to be working :eek: ) and you have a truly inspirational story!!

I left my ex husband 6 years ago after 13 years of physical and mental abuse, I lost everything my home, savings, possessions and even my kids (he does a good line in manipulation!). It was the most horrendous divorce! 6 years on I'm getting married in June to an amazing man, have a gorgeous 2yr old daughter, my eldest son is going to make me a grandmother this year and my youngest son is living with me and doing well at college. It was hard - but worth every second of it now!!

I remember well the period you're going through - it's like you've run out of steam. Look after yourself, eat well and rest. I used herbal Nytol's to get me through the not sleeping bit, and that helped tremendously.

One thing I did, was go to Relate. On my own - they were fab, and it helped me so much.

Chin up - onwards and upwards!

C xx

claireac

If you need some inspiration then have a read of this book. It's by Sandra Horley who's the chief exec of Refuge (they also have a help line) and was a real help to me when I was doubting myself.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/ASIN/0091884322/qid=1089817710/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i2_xgl/202-5998941-1715817

msb5262

Hello again Rolo,
So sorry to hear you're feeling like this, but there are bound to be times when you do - I'd echo claireac in post 268: I also went to Relate on my own and it was really worth doing.
Making the decision to end the marriage is one thing, but your feelings about the whole situation probably aren't that straightforward. The marriage and the births of your children make up a huge part of your life so far; you have a lot of feelings to go through.
I found it a bit like climbing a mountain because I kept thinking I'd reached the top - then I'd find there was another peak just over the horizon. The phrase "working it through" is very apt - and it probably needs to be done. Time and the chance to talk can help you feel much better and move on.
Keep on keeping on,
love Harriet x

rolo-polo1965

Thought i would give u an update.

Soliciter sent me some forms which i have just filled in and signed. She will then send me some more and write to hubby telling him i am seeking a divorce.

o i think it is a case of being patient.

Still not sure where we are going to live yet, we are almost half way through the 6 months retal agreement i signed so we shall just wait and see.

spirit

Hi rolo-polo,

sounds like it's all going in the right direction for you. I wouldn't worry too much about your current tenancy agreement as I would think you could go on to a periodic tenancy if you did not want to sign up for another 6 months. I'm sure the folks on the renting board will clarify that for you.

Are you still getting bothered by texts and e-mails from him? How are the kids doing?

TurnaroundSue

Nice to hear from you rolo. I can believe that you are nearly half way through your tenancy already - you have done brilliantly and hopefully things will get better for you as each day passes.

Sending you hugs:grouphug:

rolo-polo1965

spirit wrote: »

Hi rolo-polo,

sounds like it's all going in the right direction for you. I wouldn't worry too much about your current tenancy agreement as I would think you could go on to a periodic tenancy if you did not want to sign up for another 6 months. I'm sure the folks on the renting board will clarify that for you.

Are you still getting bothered by texts and e-mails from him? How are the kids doing?

The kids are doing fine.

We all are really.

He is still sending the texts and emails but i dont even read them, i just file them away.

Take care