Leaving my husband

yoni_one

He is still not taking responsibility for his actions is he but what he really needs is for you to buy in to it too. It has little value otherwise.

Thankfully you have indicated time and time again throughout this thread that you see through his tactics and the good thing is, although he may need for you to accept his spin on the truth for it to be effective, thankfully you do not need his validation to know what is true.

Stay strong Rolo. You are amazing!

rolo-polo1965

Well i have been to see the soliciter today and have put the wheels in motion for a divorce.

She was very nice and took lots of details including wages etc and gave me the good news that i am entitled to legal aid so that was a weight off my mind.

I need to drop my wage slips off to her in the morning and then she will put the wheels in motion for me.

Part of me feels relieved but a very very small part of me is sad that it has come to this. But we could not have carried on the way we were.

It is DD2's birthday tomorrow, she went to her dads for tea, only so he could give her his present. He gave her crusty rolls she was not impressed that he had made her a cake out of chocolate mini rolls- his excuse being the shops did not have any birthday cakes. GHas he not heard of ASDA or Tescos!!!!!!!

Well as things happen i will update.

Thanks everyone for your support.

msb5262

I'm very glad to hear you're moving forward, Rolo. You're right - it is sad but sounds as if it's right for this marriage to come to an end. Please don't let people persuade you that staying together is always the better option; sometimes it's better for all concerned to change the status quo as you have done. Well done and keep going!
Harriet x

dadachu

"her a cake out of chocolate mini rolls" at least he made the effort

would like to hear his side of things

Mutter_2

So glad that you and the children are well.
Can't say I am glad to hear that you are divorcing. A marriage ending is always sad.

Legal Aid. You do know it's a loan. Whatever you rack up will be payable when the property is sold. Do your best to keep the expenses down.
So many don't take that into account.

Good luck, best wishes to you and the children, and a Happy New Year to you all.

Mely

Rolo...part of you will feel sad...your bound too. But stay strong...your doing the right thing! xxxx

rolo-polo1965

Mely wrote: »

Rolo...part of you will feel sad...your bound too. But stay strong...your doing the right thing! xxxx

I hope i am doing the right thing

Pssst

Perhaps BOTH of you will lead happier and more productive lives apart.

louisebbctlc

Hi
I read your story 2day and am glad u got away and did the right thing i did the same as u about 6 years ago i move away from my sons dad as he hit and cheated on me and after 3 yrs i has had enough so i left, now iam with a lovin man who loves me and my son we had a daughter 2gether in 2006 and we r gettin married on 4th july this year so iam really pleased u stuck 2 your guns and didnt get bac with him. THEY NEVER CHANGE!!

Take care and enjoy your life with your children now xxx

yoni_one

(((((rolo))))))

Based upon all you have said I sincerely believe you are doing the best thing for you and your children, one thing you know for sure is that continuing to live with the abuse was only ever going to benefit your ex. at the expense of the happiness and safety of all other family members.