Leaving my husband

abby1234519

I hate men right now. Grrr
Well, I like Johnny Depp so not strictly true

Money_maker

Rolo, could you not change your email address and mobile no. so you cant receive these messages? If you have a landline, just use that for contact? Good to hear you are still doing so well, keep it up

yoni_one

rolo-polo1965 wrote: »

Hubby is still leaving me messages left right and centre, be they texts, email or voice mail. He is driving me nuts.

Just a thought Rolo but as annoying as his emails and texts may be, and as tempting as it may be to delete them immediately, they actually may be of use to you sometime in the future should his harrassment continue.

Even if never needed it is wise, at the very least, to keep a log of every text / email / voice message he sends, plus the things he says to you and the pressures you hear about that he puts on the kids. Aside from everything else, the women I work with tell me it really helps them to see it in black and white on a spreadsheet, date by date, following the patterns, some noticing how it increases nearer important dates / anniversaries etc. It has helped them personally (especially when they have started to reflect on the good times) and on occasion has provided important evidence when the harrassment has increased and some have needed to go the legal route to get the perpetrator to back off.

If it isn't too difficult or painful a thing for you to do then it is a good way of pre-empting or preparing for a possible course of action in the future, in that respect for some people it is an empowering thing to do.

rolo-polo1965

yoni_one wrote: »

Just a thought Rolo but as annoying as his emails and texts may be, and as tempting as it may be to delete them immediately, they actually may be of use to you sometime in the future should his harrassment continue.

Even if never needed it is wise, at the very least, to keep a log of every text / email / voice message he sends, plus the things he says to you and the pressures you hear about that he puts on the kids. Aside from everything else, the women I work with tell me it really helps them to see it in black and white on a spreadsheet, date by date, following the patterns, some noticing how it increases nearer important dates / anniversaries etc. It has helped them personally (especially when they have started to reflect on the good times) and on occasion has provided important evidence when the harrassment has increased and some have needed to go the legal route to get the perpetrator to back off.

If it isn't too difficult or painful a thing for you to do then it is a good way of pre-empting or preparing for a possible course of action in the future, in that respect for some people it is an empowering thing to do.

Thanks for this

I have kept all his emails but i will now keep a log like you sugest, as like you say i might need it in the future.

Thanks

Mely

Keep notes in a notebook too Rolo.
Im so happy for your daughter - how romantic!
Im just so very proud of you too!!! ((((hugs)))) xxxx

rolo-polo1965

Oh Dear

I have wound my hubby up.
I found out last night that he was trying to meet someone who he has been talking to on the net.

I emailed him saying morning hubby or should that be **** ( his user name on the web site)

He phoned me 30 seconds after reading the email, but the kids told him i was not in.

He then tried phoning on my mobile but i did not answer the call.

He left me a very long message telling me he was sorry but he was only looking for someone to talk to.

He then left another message saying it was my fault as i was refusing to talk to him,so he needed to try and find someone on line to talk to, what a load of c***.

He then sent me various emails, saying how he loves me, how i drovehim to it. Waffle, waffle, waffle

I told him we are over, he wants to see the kids but they dont want to see him, i can not make them see him.

I have told him to text, email or ring the kids if he wants to see them.

I will be getting touch with my soliciter next week.

msb5262

Dear Rolo,
You must feel absolutely drained by the events of the past few weeks. I was glad to see your posts over Christmas and New Year as I was wondering how you were doing.
Just wanted to reiterate what others have said - well done for all your wise and brave actions in leaving your husband, and keep going...you are in the one of the hardest parts now, and you are still moving forwards. No doubt I'm just one of many who feels humbled by your strength of purpose and very, very proud of you. Keep going - there is light ahead.
Happy New Year to you and yours,
Harriet x

abby1234519

Don't worry Rolo, I am your own mini cheerleader now.

Emmzi

rolo,

you are doing the right thing. I can't (well, can!) beleive he is making his seeking a new g/f your fault!!!!!

bet he hasnt got off his !!!! to do anything practical re counselling etc yet!

stay strong. your kids will grow up to realise you always have choices and options in life. it's a great lesson for them.

Mely

Rolo...he says you drove him to it!?! Well that speaks volumes for me!
Keep strong and see your solicitor asap! xxxx