Leaving my husband

rolo-polo1965

Well, i can not believe it has been nearly a week since Christmas.

We had a good day even though hubby came for dinner, we timed it well though as we decided to have a late dinner so he did not arrive till the afternoon.

He made the odd comment but mostly it was ok, and he did not ruin it for the children.

DD1 got engaged, her boyfriend proposed on Christmas day it was all so romantic, he left her lots of clues, then the final clue led her to the cat who had a tag on her coller saying "Marry Me".

It was so romantic, she did not have a clue.
Unfortunately we had to take the ring back and order the next size as they sold him the wrong size.

Hubby has seen the kids since, had them over for tea on saturday. But DS does not want to see him.

DD1 has not been to see him either, but he needs to accept this if they do not want to go round.

I have found out he has logged onto some dating web sites and been talking to women on there,found a list by his lap top so went serching and found his user name on them i could not believe it.

He says he wants me back but then does this.
OMG

He is still sending me email and texts messages saying how sorry he is and how much he loves me, year right.

Well i want to wish you all a Happy New Year, and thank you for your support

inamess200

Hi Rolo

Glad to see Christmas was quite uneventful (wish mine was buts thats another story)

I think with men its all a power thing - they keep telling you they want you back because their ego cannot believe you have made a decision for your self. The dating website is probably his way of telling himself its not his fault but yours - 'see all these other women want me!!.'

My H keeps telling me he wishes i was having an affair cause then he could blame me for the break up but as I keep telling him the blame is squarely at his feet. He wants to go to relate but I am not sure this will change anything anymore I am tired of waiting for things to change.

Have a peaceful new year and enjoy your new found freedom!!!

Emmzi

I'm glad you found his dating list; it'll keep you sharply focused on what he's really thinking (I don't want to be alone!) My ex did this when we were 'on a break' and, idiot me, I took him back.. he was never really committed to changing, I should have seen the signs a mile off.

You are doing wonderfully, I would never have been able to have him round for dinner.

You're doing yourself proud rolo!

Money_maker

Happy New Year to you and your family too.

Stay strong x

lilac_lady

I've read the first page and skipped to the end because I wanted to see how things turned out for you r-p1965. I'm so glad you've split up. No matter what he promises, he'll never change. Enjoy your new life - you deserve it for being brave enough to call time on a bad situation.

I called time too and my only regret is that I wasn't stronger to do it a lot sooner.

yoni_one

Thanks again for the update Rolo. It's good to hear you had a nice Christmas day and he didn't do anything to make it bad for you or the kids.

The proposal sounds wonderful! Congratulations to your daughter and her squeeze I hope they have a long and happy life together.

I can only imagine the shock it was for you to discover your ex's activity on a dating site. It sounds like he is covering all angles, and yes those websites can be a real boost to the ego but hardly a demonstration of his everlasting love and commitment you and to repairing the marriage. As painful as these things can be, I hope it helps keep your resolve strong in any weak moments you may face.

I sincerely hope 2009 starts well, stays safe, and gets better and better for you and your children.

Margaret54

I just wanted to wish you and your dear family all the very best for the new year love. Been there many years ago, and it is something I do understand about. God Bless you and your children Margaret xx You are very strong and will be happy.

fraz_babe

Just want to wish you & your family for as much happyness in 2009 as possible. Congrats on the engagement that so romantic! And happy new year to everyone else too xx

rolo-polo1965

Well we celebrated New Year and combined it with an engagement party with just the six of us.
We had banners up a cake and lots of drinks.
We had a good time.

Hubby is still leaving me messages left right and centre, be they texts, email or voice mail. He is driving me nuts.

Telling me he can not live without me or the kids. How sorry he is, how he loves us all.

Me and the kids are happy as we are and do not need him. He will eventually realise this. He has all his friends from the dating websites he has made so he does not need me.

Happy New Year to you all

Loretta

He could spend all this time he is wasting getting some help for himself, don't fall for it