Different life - so new SOA!! Back once again :D

judi24

they didn't have one of 4 kids beating the s**** out of each other! That would be the only one that would suit my family!

Sea78

lol - they need one with just the mum looking really tired, and looking down at her squabbling broad with love but also despair!!

My son is being assessed for autism. I never expected this one.

judi24

no sculpture could depict the bags under my eyes well! I am sorry to hear about your son - but you are in a good position to help him achieve his potential! Kids are wonderfull and an absolute gift - but they do break your heart and try your patience - did you not read the label? lol (not meaning to be flippant!) But each has thier challenges, strengths and weaknesses x

mum2one

Sea78 wrote: »

hey all - another day of ex being a git. Gosh, it's like he's trying to make me really really dislike him. I asked him again to leave, told him I wouldn't change the agreements we'd made etc. but he's just being a nightmare and I really am not dealing with him living here anymore at all. Grrrr.

Going to ring CCCS in a min to do my review and change all the details etc. as I think (HOPE) he's gone by december and then I can just get on with things.

Hope all are well today. I got my amazon voucher - well, the confirmation email anyway, so that'll be good Hope it does come through.

Sea xxxxx

Being cheeky is that the Amazon voucher from Qype? x

mum2one

Sea, I know where your coming from, in my heart of hearts I would love another child, but medically its a risk i cant take, but I say theres always the future..........just get ur ex out of your hair and then your have a clear view on life, it will work out for the best.

After my total and absolute !!!! of an ex-partner, (dds dad), I never thought I would meet anyone, but I did, we met in 2004 on hol in Tunisa, stayed in touch as friends, he lives 200 miles from me, yet in a way fate stepped in, I went to the Dom Rep in Feb 05, we had both booked same day, but he'd done allocation on arrival and I had got a resort booked, he had flown out day b4 me, if he was near me he was going to ring, no call, thought he was just being polite, didnt give it another thought, booked a day trip to the local sea life centre, wondering around, and stopped to watch this bloke do his dolphin swim, it was only when I got closer it was him! He was staying on other side of Island. Ok theres no romance, too old to do long distance romance, but I have a damm gd friend. xx

Different_Corner

Sea78 wrote: »

I think that I've got in my head that I'll now be alone for the rest of my life, that no one will ever want to be with me as I'm just too much. I don't know. Rambling now!

Sea, hope I'n not speaking out of turn, before you think of what the future holds take time to be selfish for you and the children. Talking from a totally different situation here but my two sons have made this last 6 months a little easier to get through. Just doing stuff for us, I'm definetely regressing into a teenager again !

Thinking about the future sent me into a swirling panic, still just taking it day by day. You just never know whats round the corner.

hypno06

Turn this all to your advantage - get designing "real life" ornaments depicting family life......we can sell them at overinflated prices in sunday supplements and become debt free quicker.

It doesn't matter if they are not "pretty" - that never did Bratz or Cabbage Patch Dolls any harm did it

My versions will all make sure that the Mum has wobbly thighs.........

judi24

Good idea Hypno lol my models would most definately have wobbly thighs! and hair that looks like a burst couch!!!

rugbymum

Sea - I've reading and lurking for a bit I just wanted to send a BIG HUGGY HUG.
I was in a cr*ppy place in 2005. My ex finally (thank the Lord) gave up and went away, after physically & emotionally abusing me for the last three months of our relationship. I was four months pregnant & never though I would survive the emotional fallout!
I changed the locks! It was great. I bought ham & bacon & a pork joint ( he wouldn't let me buy it cos he didn't eat it) and I felt fab! I got new phone numbers and I jumped for joy. Small but important steps!
I now have another beautiful (noisy) son and a new man in my life who loves me very much.
At the moment you may feel like you are at the bottom of the mountain, the climb will be hard but you have lots of help systems in place & one of them is this site! We are all here to help you. I wish you could get him out of your house NOW cos' that will help more than anything. TOAD.
Be strong, it will annoy him lots and as another poster has said (makes me smile everytime) "revenge is pointless, but an opportunity not to be missed".
Good luck hun, best wishes and I hope you get the funding in place to buy him out sooner rather than later. Best Christmas pressie I could wish for you.

Arne_2

Hi I am sorry that you are this horrible situation and would like to wish you the best of luck for your future. The only bit of advice I can give is about the financial side of shared care. My friend has ended up with problems as she is the one who ends up paying for school trips, notices that new shoes and coats are needed etc, ends up paying for them and her ex always seems to manage to avoid paying his share yet somehow manages to promise big presents for birthdays etc which she has to contribute to.