Different life - so new SOA!! Back once again :D

taxi73

Hi Sea ..good to hear from you.Hopefully you can get him out tomorrow and get the locks changed and good riddance to him.Then your new life can begin.The bed sounds good and will probably encourage DS to sleep in his own room.Sending you some hugs x

chevalier

hi Sea
sorry your OH still continues to be a to**er. I hope that he has by now gone,and you can have a less stressed xmas
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Sea78

Everyone keep your fingers crossed for tomorrow!! If the paperwork is done, he is gone - whoop whoop!!
xxxx

hypno06

fingers well and truly crossed and lots of positive vibes coming right your way xx

Sea78

Think I'll start a new thread when he does go, and be around more Know where my support is!

Am excited, but also scared, about this new start in my life. So many things I want to get done, and so much I want to change. I know it's got to be babysteps, but I can't wait to be able to do things without justifying myself all the time and getting abuse for things that might not work out the way they were supposed to. While my priority is my kids, I feel like a whole chunk of my 20s have been spent living my life according to someone elses rules, and that ain't never gonna happen again. So while I may only have, what, 7 days in my 20s...I can make sure things are different for my 30s!!

Sea xxxx

pixiechick99

Hi there,
Just wanted to drop in and say hi...I've just read all this thread.
I split with my ex in March 2007 and even though he moved out and was usually pretty easy to deal with it was very hard, so I can imagine how hard it must be for you with your ex being in the same house AND being a g*t.
Anyway, myself and 2 daughters are all settled now, ex is useless and doesn't give any money, but apart from that everything is good. It will get easier for you...I was told that but couldn't imagine it;)
ANyway, I'll keep reading, hope all goes well with solicitor etc.
:beer:

Sea78

Thank you so much - that's good to hear I intend to go to CSA as he is already being a !!!!!! saying he's only going to give me 15% blah blah blah. I just want it all done officially and then there is no room for emotional blackmail!

pixiechick99

Sea78 wrote: »

Thank you so much - that's good to hear I intend to go to CSA as he is already being a !!!!!! saying he's only going to give me 15% blah blah blah. I just want it all done officially and then there is no room for emotional blackmail!

Well I think I'm going to CSA too after Xmas - my ex lost his job in Aug and couldn't give me anything, but he is now doing casual work, but only given me £100 since July. He can afford to go out at night, take the kids on flash days out, but not pay for them to eat/school uniforms/clubs etc:mad:
So he might find the CSA after him soon;)

beanielou

Hope it all happens tomorrow.
Might the bigger thomas bed be a better option?

SarahNeedle1872

Hiya Sea, also haven't posted for ages but keeping up with whats going on...

So life begins at 30!?! I'm sure once he's gone, everything will settle down... you'll get your own routine, and play by your owns rules... you are gonna kick ar$£ at this lady!

CSA is definately the way to go, if nothing else it leaves a paper trail of what he does/doesn't pay!

Lovely to see you so positive, long may it continue

Sarah x