domestic violence

solongmarianne

afternoon, I hope this is in the right place,
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Marianne x

xcat_girlx

u poor poor thing.

firstly, ((((HUGS))))). you must be feeling like your worlds been shattered.

you need to put your safety first. do the police know he came near you? hes in breach of bail and should be put straight back inside for this so he cant hurt you. get a bag together and go and stay with someone where your not alone should he come looking for you. i know its your house, but he can find you in a flash if your there.

im sure someone will be along in a minute with a number or website for a counselling service or someone you can chat to...

do you have your mum/sister/best friend you can go and talk to. i suppose as well as talking through things, you need to try and maintain some normailty in your life as well as much as you can. keep things as steady as possible.

do you have any children?

your by no means alone in this situation and your going to come out the other side so much stronger xxxxx

bargainbird

You should be able to get injunction if he has breached his bail conditions, but make sure it has the power or arrest. Did the police give you a URN number ? This is the number you can quote to the police should he turn up again and they will have all the history of domestic violence.

Like the above try to have someone with you or be at someone's whilst it's still abit raw.... It wont make the days/nights seem quite so long

Good on you stand by your decision, you'll be a stronger person for it.

:grouphug:

Dill

What a horrible situation for you.

I think it's important that you feel safe where you're living. If he knows where you are he could (and probably will)come back. Is there somewhere you could go, even just for a while?

The following link may provide some useful info:
http://www.womensaid.org.uk/

poorly_scammo

Good on you for calling the police and getting rid of him.

It's natural imo to still love someone who does this. Love isn't the same as condoning it though and you have done the right thing.

I'm sure others will advise you further on the legal and financial side of breaking up with him.

I just wanted to say well done and remember, there's always someone on here to talk to if you want.

specialK

Sorry to hear this, but just find strength in the fact that you survived his anger.

It might be hard to begin with, but you WILL cope as you have shown strength in getting to this stage.

A woman near me was murdered the other night due to a domestic incident, she left behind 3 children and ultimately, they have lost both parents.

Life is too short to dwell on how you will cope, you should be thankful you are here. Choosing life and to live is not that hard in the big scheme of things!

Hope you are already feeling stronger, I understand you can't just turn your feelings of but try to hate him for what he has done, what he could have done and the fact you might not be here today.

Krystaltips

I just want to echo what others have said and say well done in making the stand straight away, far to many people in the same situation try to stick it out an make it work without thinking of their personal safety....

Do you have a local church that could offer you free counciling? Our church do and it's in no way religious, it is a councilling service available to people who would otherwise be left waiting for the NHS or paying to go private...

WPC

Hello,
You must contact the Police and make them aware that he has broken his bail conditions. He can then be re arrested and remanded to be put before the next available court. The Police have to take Positive action (incase god for bid worst case happens) He will then hopefully be remanded unless he can provide a bail address that is far away from you.
Contact the Officer in the case and ask to be refered to the Domestic Violence Unit (possible already have) they will be able to provide you with outside agencies that can offer you help, advice and support.
Best wishes and big hugs to you at this difficult time, try and stay strong xxxx

moneysaver12

Hugs hun, and you did the right thing.

solongmarianne

THANK YOU EVERYONE for your replies ,

solongmarianne

I told the police he had broke bail conditions,however I want him to see what he has done to me, I want him to acknowledge it, so therefore it needs to be done.

with regards to counselling I do not feel ready yet, possibly it hasnt sunk in yet? I have numbers to call when I feel ready, and victim support have already contacted me in reards to what will happen at court. xx