Step parenting and Student son moving out....advice appreciated

Steph998

Also, his Pizza Hut job is not contracted, he gets hours as and when they give him. Seventy is the top line, some weeks he wont get as much as that.

Steph998

Oh god, my heads buzzing now. Lol.

Kids. Maybe I should have stuck to dogs huh.

Off to read the Student Board for some hints and tips. AND the link, to send to him.

shirlgirl2004

Steph998 wrote: »

Oh god, my heads buzzing now. Lol.

Kids. Maybe I should have stuck to dogs huh.

Off to read the Student Board for some hints and tips. AND the link, to send to him.

Def stick to dogs! Put them to bed and you can stop worrying about them and if they last to 17 you know they've had a good innings

shirlgirl2004

Steph998 wrote: »

Also, his Pizza Hut job is not contracted, he gets hours as and when they give him. Seventy is the top line, some weeks he wont get as much as that.

Ah my sons work for McDs and they are the same. One week they want them to live there the next they haven't got any hours. One broke his collar bone and had 3 weeks off (no pay) now he gets almost no hours!

Steph998

shirlgirl2004 wrote: »

Ah my sons work for McDs and they are the same. One week they want them to live there the next they haven't got any hours. One broke his collar bone and had 3 weeks off (no pay) now he gets almost no hours!

Dan used to work at Asda. That was the best job ever for a young person Contracted hours at six pounds an hour (at age 16!) and a ten percent discount card. Unfortunately, his flat is so far away from the store and not on any bus route, he just could not realistically keep working there three nights per week when he moved from home. He applied for a store transfer, to the Asda nearer him, but they have a policy of not employing under 18 year olds! (Its quite a 'rough' area, perhaps this is the reason?) Anyway, he had to leave, and reapply when he is is 18 - on the 24th of November, so I hope he gets back in! (They are hard to get into, strange application form, but we knew someone already working there - told us the right answers! - but worth the effort if there is a store near your sons! )

At least Dan went straight out and got a job at Pizza Hut when he had to give up Asda. Not so great terms and conditions, but he enjoys it.

Steph998

>>One broke his collar bone<<

Ouch and double ouch. That's a horrible one to break.

shirlgirl2004

Steph998 wrote: »

Dan used to work at Asda. That was the best job ever for a young person Contracted hours at six pounds an hour (at age 16!) and a ten percent discount card. Unfortunately, his flat is so far away from the store and not on any bus route, he just could not realistically keep working there three nights per week when he moved from home. He applied for a store transfer, to the Asda nearer him, but they have a policy of not employing under 18 year olds! (Its quite a 'rough' area, perhaps this is the reason?) Anyway, he had to leave, and reapply when he is is 18 - on the 24th of November, so I hope he gets back in! (They are hard to get into, strange application form, but we knew someone already working there - told us the right answers! - but worth the effort if there is a store near your sons! )

Unfortunately Asda and Aldi (another good payer) are miles away and would take forever to get to on a bus. ES loves working at McDsand has left uni after 2 years because he wants to join their management programme which he has been recommended for. YS is joining the army soon, he hates McDs. I think I'd rather he worked at McDs than the army

Oldernotwiser

shirlgirl2004 wrote: »

Why would you spread his loan over the academic year? He isn't living at home in the holidays, he needs to feed himself etc 52.14 weeks of the year.

Like all students, he's available to work full time in the holidays. The grant/loan isn't intended to cover the summer vacation.

Oldernotwiser

Keeping_Motivated wrote: »

I think that is harsh. The Op has already said that the driving incident is the reason her son has been made to move out so I wouldn't say they where lenient I would say they were fair and also she has said she was absolutley fuming and made it quite clear but beyond that what more do you expect her to do to him? It is 6 mths later and she is trying to help him move on is that not right?

If you looked at that the OP's son actually did, I think that you might find that a fine and a year's ban was very lenient. I was talking about the legal punishment, not the situation within the family.

Oldernotwiser

Steph998 wrote: »

Not sure what you mean, did I contribute to a lenient sentence? How (not why) exactly would I have done that?

Yes he did get off easily, and I too worried about the signals that sent out. In the six months leading up to the court case, we had told Daniel he could even get a custodial sentence for what he did. We had him him wound up to the max. He was terrified of what was going to happen, and I made the most of it. I wanted them to throw the book at him in court. But, because the Procurator Fiscal had made a mistake in the citation which was only discovered in Court (it was written that he had 'not more than 80ml of alcohol in 100ml of blood'. This is not over the limit) they could not prove if this was a typing error, or Dan was NOT actually over the limit, so the charges had to be dropped.

I was wondering whether you'd paid for a clever lawyer for him, that's all.