Friend borrowed 6k-not paid back...

Idiophreak

Jeez...I sure am glad I'm not friends with a lot of people on here...Don't know whatever happened to just talking to your mates if you have a problem with them. I guess that's what happens when you mix business with pleasure, but it just seems sad to me...

chevalier

Sadly my OH also has a 'friend' like this. We lent him 6k as well. He will never be welcome in my house because he hasn't paid this back. I am very bitter about it because in my opinion he had planned to con us all along.

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tealady

How about asking your OH to lend you 6K. When he says he hasn't got it ask him to borrow it off his mate!

tallyhoh

tealady wrote: »

How about asking your OH to lend you 6K. When he says he hasn't got it ask him to borrow it off his mate!

Nice One!!:rotfl:

wigglebeena

Have you got a third-party mutual friend? You could get them involved, have them ask him to repay, hinting that you're having financial problems as a result of his ready acceptance (taking advantage of) your husband's generosity.

The humiliation of thinking it's becoming public knowledge (how he's behaved) might well jolt him into paying up. And he's not likely to get any loans from other friends in your circle...

strumpet

Your mate has been VERY naughty

I had a situation a few years back where I was left in the lurch by my boyfriend when the poisonous little **** did one, leaving me to pay of a £1200 Selfridges debt. The interest was crippling and all my repayments did was cover the interest and the debt never got smaller. I was on a low wage then and my friend Edwin offered to lend me the £1200 to pay off the card and that I could pay him back when I had the money.

I made it my FIRST prioroty to pay him back. I saved up the £1200 and although it took 12 months, I gave him back the money he lent me and it felt great! We are still great mates!

Your friend is seriously extracting the urine! Get him told! He needs to pay you back the money and then perhaps your friendship can be restored. Your husband is being a bit of a wet lettuce by not wanting to rock the boat with his mate. However, real mates don't fleece each other for £6000!

skintandscared_2

I think some of the comments about the mate who has borrowed are a little harsh, considering it was four years ago and it's not beyond the realms of possibility that it's slipped his mind (not that I'd forget a huge sum like that, but it's not impossible). The friend hasn't actually been asked for the money back yet. He may be completely mortified that he'd forgot and pay the whole lot back immediately, with a case of wine as a thank-you! The fact it, he needs to be gently reminded (at first, anyway!) I would follow the advice of the poster who suggested a friendly email along the lines of "Delighted to hear you're doing so well, now you're back on your feet I wonder if it would be a good time to clear that loan...?" It doesn't have to be confrontational or nasty, just a polite little reminder. And it doesn't really matter whether you NEED the money right now or not. It could be sat in a nice little ISA earning you interest, rather than in someone else's bank account!

Idiophreak

skintandscared wrote: »

I think some of the comments about the mate who has borrowed are a little harsh, considering it was four years ago and it's not beyond the realms of possibility that it's slipped his mind (not that I'd forget a huge sum like that, but it's not impossible). The friend hasn't actually been asked for the money back yet.

I think that's the key here...the first step, whatever else, has to be to *ask for the money back*. Some people seem to think you shouldn't have to, but that's not always the case in my experience...

schoolrunmum

Ok, I've done it. I 've emailed him asking for a timescale as to when we might see the cash back. You guys are right, he may have forgotten it....we'll see what he says. Will post back n let you know. Thanks for the advice.

RAS

Well done.

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