Friend borrowed 6k-not paid back...

Jenny2008

ajaney wrote: »

It is nrmally best with men (no offence intended to DFW menfolk!) to make them think they are in charge & it was their idea in the first place.

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schoolrunmum

Thanks all...some great advice there. Will let you know how it pans out. I think I will send him an email asking if he can cough up yet. My DH is a sucker for sob stories from people. Last week alone we had 2 phone calls from "mates" on the scrounge. One wanted cash to buy a new van, other wanted to borrow money to pay for a funeral- Thankfully my husband was away so I said no-do I look like a bank? My husband just doesn't know how to say no so I'm glad I took the calls!!

skintandscared_2

Jesus! Is this a regular thing ... people asking him for huge sums of money?! I mean, I've been asked for the odd £20 here and there, but never those sorts of sums of money!

schoolrunmum

Yeah, pretty regular, but usually only a couple of grand. He comes from a very poor area of the UK, but stayed friends with lots of people when he moved on to a rather well paying job, so some people see him as an emergency bank I think..

Happytogetdebtfree

Good luck getting the 6k back sounds like you need to tell your husband to stop lending i wouldntdream of borrowing off a freind unless it was an emergency and i mean a case of loosing my home mortgage payment sort of thing ....me and oh are reluctant to tell his family how much this payrise is because they will assume we can afford to be doing expensive things when really we are paying debts eeeeek :Dxx

mikthe20

He is not a friend.

tudorfan22

how many holidays to the middle east would equate to £6000, i think you should invite yourself over for a holiday - then not leav etill he pays you the money!!! only joking but seriously that is awful, id be hopping mad if it were me. i once lent my mate £60 to buy a designer bikini and she never paid me back - that was bad enough! but £6k - that is sickening!

the-mad-one

skintandscared wrote: »

Keep copies of EVERYTHING you write and all his responses. Hopefully his first response back will agree with your summary of what happened, thereby admitting liability for the debt as a loan and not a gift. Best of luck!

i agree totally with skintandscared......email him and keep copies of everything, that way hopefully you will get some kind of written admittance to the debt being his. I did this with friend of mine kept giving little bits here and there only to count it up and realise it was £1500! I spoke to him and told him as much as didnt mind helping him at time it was HIS debt and i really couldnt afford to be that much out of pocket. As much as he was on a low income he still agreed to pay £100 per month and in august the final payment was made.

Its doesnt help with the friendship but i found was less of a strain on it once i had aired my grievances. Good luck.

hermanmunster_3

oh crumbs - one reason that comes rapidly to mind as to why someone won't chase up an apparent debt where a friend has borrowed money is because the money was never a loan at all but a payment for something or repayment of a debt paid in the opposite direction.

Marsie

Hermanmunster is obviously a suspicious soul like me ... although I was coming from the angle that maybe your husband has had the money back and it has been frittered away?

Over-dramatic maybe, but I honestly can't think of any reason why someone would not be keen to chase up a SIX THOUSAND POUNDS debt? Or is your husband's self esteem very low, and he feels he can't be seen to 'need the money'?

What a very odd situation. Hope you get it sorted soon. Can't tell you how angry I would be.

M.