Cat missing - and it's bonfire night tomorrow

catkins

Lexilex, you are not going mad. It has only been a week which is no time at all. She was your family so of course you will be upset. We all react differently to things and you sound like a sensitive person. I cry at almost anything and this thread has made me cry.

Over the years I have had 3 cats run over and killed and one was when I was living in a small quiet cul de sac so I do tend to agree with the poster that said it is down to luck. Some cats will never be happy if confined indoors and it is surely to have a happy short life than a miserable long one?

Years ago I had a tabby who looked very much like your beautiful Lexi and he got run over and killed while I was on holiday. The friends who were staying at my house looking after him blamed themselves but I know it was not their fault. At the time I was distraught. I blamed myself for going on holiday, not putting him in a cattery etc etc.

Of all the cats I have had over the years he was the one with the biggest personality and he was very clever. He used to ring the doorbell when he wanted to come in! Anyway I thought I would never get over his death and cried for weeks. But eventually I could think of him or look at photos and not get so upset. I will never forget him (writing about him has made me cry again) and you will never forget Lexi but the pain does get easier

lexilex

Hi again everyone.

It'll be pretty much exactly a week now that she got knocked over. The woman who got her thinks it was about this time.

I think I saw her last night. I'm not one for believing in ghosts and all that but we got in at around ten and I was turning my car round to park it up, I noticed a white cat in the garden of the house on the corner, totally white, head to toe. It was still there when I parked up so I thought it must be a garden ornament, and didn't really think of anything else of it until we went out again today and there was nothing there. I've never seen a pure white cat round here before either so I'm pretty sure it wasn't a cat. It's just strange that I noticed it too, it was behind a fence and I never usually look in there. I'd like to think she'll come back home too.

I think I'm doing pretty well today. I haven't cried (there's still time yet though). I did have tears in my eyes when we went to my boyfriends and his cats were there and crying. Lexi had that daftest little cry, more like a croak. And when we were in tesco's I got a little upset when we went past the pet food. I've had a pretty busy day though (mum got her car crashed into by an uninsured driver) so haven't really had much time to sit and think. I've managed to eat lunch and half my tea tonight which is the most I've eaten in the last week. I've lost ten pounds this week and I'm not overweight or anything so I need to start eating. We got McDonalds today which made me smile, last time I got it Lexi was trying to nick it all.

I'm taking my dog to vets tomorrow which I think is gonna maybe upset me a bit, I was only there with Lexi a few weeks ago.

It's when I think to myself that I'm never going to see her again that I get sad. It's still not sunk it. The week has gone so fast, it still feels like she's gonna come back like nothings happened. I'm still expecting to see her. It's weird. I can talk about her and stuff she did, but I still don't believe that I'm not going to see her anymore.

Oh, I did get an email back from Cat Protection today, apologising that they weren't there when I needed them. The thing thats gets me is that I left my name and number on the answering machine and was told they would ring back almost a week ago, and I've heard nothing from them at all, up until they read my email this morning for all they know she could be missing. It really annoys me that I donate to charities like this and then when I needed help myself where was they?

Sazzyukrafc

Lexi, I also had problems with the Cat Protection never answering the phone or getting back. In our old house there was a stray cat that used to live there with the old owners, we had two male kittens and she was a female, so it wasn't possible to have her live in our house.

I tried ringing and they were always closed, I rang during the TWO hours they were open and no one answered. At that point I was trying to find her a new home.

Sadly, she died two days before Christmas in my house, I think her body gave up. She was old and it was cold...we let her sleep in our porch the days before, but I always wonder if they'd ever answered or got back to me that she would of had a warmer home and lived longer.

I hope you're starting to feel better, you'll never forget her, but I hope all your memories are great ones Be happy knowing you gave her a fantastic loving home and she had a brilliant life!

lexilex

Sazzy, that is awful! I've heard a few similar stories in the past week that have led me to lose all respect for the Cat Protection I'm afraid. I know it's run by volunteers but like it's already been said it's up the them to organise themselves so there is always somebody there to help otherwise I find the organisation a waste of time.

I've not heard anything else from either the council or local paper yet, going to send the email to the council to somebody a bit higher up today as it's been a week since the email was sent and from what I can make out the emails are checked reguarly as you can actually report a dead animal to the address I sent my email to. Still haven't heard back about my petition either but that may take a while.

I'm coping at the moment. Didn't cry all day Monday, then felt guilty for not crying, eventhough I thought about her non stop all day, did have a down day yesterday. I just felt so guilty for getting her, somebody else could have given her the same nice life she had but she could have had it for longer. Then I keep regretting not bringing her in when I saw her at half 5. I'm trying to get back to normal, but it's hard, doing normal stuff when she isn't here to come back to for a cuddle.

God I miss her so much. I've been sleeping with her teddy every night, talking to her in my head.

lostinrates

Lexilex, I'm so sorry for your loss. At a previous home a cat of mine was run over, gosh, must be twelve years ago now, and I still miss her and have nightmares about it. It will get easier but you'll never stop loving her.

Just a thought, it might be that Cat's Protection would benefit from your help to improve in your area, how about volunteering to help with admin and things like this, being there for other people in your position? Change from within is always powerful and after some time greiving you might find it a fitting remembrance to a wonderful friend to help other cats.

lexilex

Just had to come upstairs. My boyfriends making a corned beef sandwich and the smell reminded me of Lexi's food Then I started to think how she'd of been crying round our feet to try some, then I was thinking of all the things she never got to do or try in a short life.

Lostinrates, I have thought of volunteering actually for cat protection, I was actually reading up on the site about it today. Maybe think about it more seriously in a month or so, at the moment even if I see a cat it sets me off.

DON79

Lexilex, I am so sorry to hear what happened to your cat. I know what you are going through, we lost a loved cat, Buffy, we had been away on holiday and got her back from the cattery and she died the same night we got her back from heart failure, she was only 4 yrs old so I know what you mean about not having lived a long life, we had her only for a year having adopted her through the cats protection league. Sounds silly but we actually felt so strongly that we decided would have her cremated and got a little memorial box for her with her name on it.

We did adopt another cat after that and we love her just as much but there is always a special place in memories for Buffy.

You will always have lovely memories and it will get better with time, take care.

Kimberley

vaksam wrote: »

That said, my 3 present cats are all indoor cats, as their breed never seems to learn road-sense like most of the other breeds do (they are bengals). Having had both indoor and outdoor cats over the years I think a lot comes down to the individual personality and temprement of the cat. Our 3 at the moment are as happy (imo) as outdoor cats. Yet there would have been murder if we had tried to keep Purdy in! I think a lot of it comes down to the breed and the individual animal involved.

Aww I have two Bengals, can I see any pictures, what colours are they? You can PM the pics if you like

lexilex

Don, sorry to hear about your cat, that must have been awful for you.

I'm still missing her so so much. I'm just trying not to think about it really. Last night I got upset when I was doing a survey and it asked me what pets I had. I'm so used to ticking the cat box. Got a bit upset tonight too, had no-one to give my left over chicken from our chinese takeaway.

I cope much easier during the days, because she was always outside then anyway. It's on a night, when she isn't there I struggle, or when I'm on my own when my boyfriend goes out.

I'd do anything to bring her back

Mutter_2

Dear lexi, just read your sad thread from beginning to end. What a little character eh! in the picture she looked like a cat on a mission.
I cried buckets just as I did over Meg the Greyhound.

When I got to your post though, about the white cat I smiled. I smiled because I believe too. I've also heard of owners "feeling" their cat walk across their bed at night.

You will cope in time, as all of us pet lovers have, but you will never forget her.
You may find another cat one day or one will find you. It will have a different personality to Lexi and you'll find yourself thinking, " Lexi would do that" or "Lexi would never have put up with that", our past pets never completely leave us is what I'm trying to say.
Be kind to yourself, don't try to hurry the grieving process, it will get better.

The lady across the road had a bad shock too, poor woman.
Oh, lexilex, sounds like one great boyfriend you have there. Give him a big hug.