Does Being broke turn you into a grump

Ames

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1234127

That should be the thread.

chevalier

thanks Ames

Bismarck

Seaxwyn wrote: »

my oldest decided to dress up as Amy Winehouse and has got the look exactly, it's scary!

never thought of that...spooky!

good to see the folks whose doors we knocked on appreciated the spirit of thing and enjoyed the tradition being kept.....

taxi73

Nobody called here tonight either.We usually get loads coming.
Regarding the OP question...I don't get jealous as it's such negative energy.I do however look at some people when they are out shopping and wonder whether they are in debt and haven't had their lightbulb moment yet.
My DH sometimes gets a bit jealous though and I say that there are people worse off than us so he really has nothing to complain about as we can pay our bills and mortgage and pay all our debts...what more could he want.There are people in the world with nobody to love them,no food or no homes.
No matter how poor we are in this country we'll never go hungry as the government don't let us....since trying to become debt free I don't miss anything and have all that I need.

Bismarck

again...I look at the things that matter and know that having endless thousands wouldn't fix some of the problems that I could have had in my life so far...health, life, family....I am grateful.

bathgatebuyer

poorandindenial wrote: »

I get really jealous of people that can play with all their salary, but then I remind myself that I got myself into the situation I am in, and then I get jealous of me in the future, the one that won't have to count the pennies in the way that I do not. I have learned some valuable lessons on here and I hope that they will stay with me forever, but I would be lying if I said I was going to be as frugal post debt freedom as I am now.

You've summed it up for me better than I did for myself! I've just had a neighbour move into a home Daddy bought for her parking her fancy car Daddy bought for her outside it. There are time I have literally worked 3 jobs to keep this roof over my head, and it is galling to see someone else (10 years younger than me too...............and thinner :mad: ) have everything handed to her on a plate. People say, "You value it more" and I suppose that's true, but I do take comfort from the fact that the things I've learnt of late will last a lifetime while her Daddy does not have a bottomless pit of money. I pity the shock she will have when the money runs out - it will be similar to the feeling that I had when the credit cards had no more money to spend and that is damn terrifying.

So, yes I'm more than a bit jealous, but grumpy? Nope. Maybe age has been a great teacher in that I don't need to spend money to be happy. My happiest day of the month is pay day, going home and marking off all my card payments on my financial papers - debts first, then live off the remainder each and every month. Sometimes it's tough when there's not a lot left for food and things and I see her taking her 4 or 5 Waitrose bags indoors while I'm boiling up some 7p noodles for dinner, but the satisfaction I know I'll feel when I'm debt-free will be unlike anything I've ever experienced before. That certainly negates the need to feel grumpy.

Oh and no trick or treaters around mine last night - might have something to do with switching off the door entry buzzer! The, "Any'hing fur halloweeeeeen, missus" is not getting any rewards from me, thanksverymuch. They can either learn a trick or go begging elswhere.

Glen0000

Debt has made me into a complete grump and misery. Hate being "poorer" than so many of our social circle.

Glen0000

Burlesque_Babe wrote: »

with breaking away from leading. Yes, his spend figures were :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: and even after cutting back were still _pale_ as they are on quite a low income, but the cuts made already were a great start.

The low income thing is a huge problem and we are trying to work on this. We are on about £40k between us and most of our friends are on £70k plus. Worked out this weekend our debt comes to around £15k, the spending has to stop.

kazmc

Oh god yes I'm SO grumpy its not funny :eek:
I'm envious of everyone who has money to spend and are in their happy little families too.
The thing that makes me more mad than anything is the fact that I scrimp and scrape to get by (no debts as I remortgaged the house to pay off my £12K Credit Cards at the beginning of the year) I shop in Aldis, draw cash out on a Friday that has to see me through the week whatever etc etc and I am in this mess because of the actions of another person. And this person now lives in a massive house, has new cars and holidays at least 3 times a year etc etc etc..... I work fulltime and feel I never spend enough quality time with my little girl whilst her father is swanning around with his new family.
I could go on and on but its giving me the hump!!!
My closest friend said to me when I told her I had started shopping at Aldis months ago "Errr mind you dont get food poisoning from all that manky meat" I was heartbroken. and then I tell her I cant do this and that and she says that they are having financial problems and have to reign in the spending and then tells me she has run out of her face powder and has to go up to Harrods the next day to get some more as thats the only place they sell any!!!

I'm sorry I'm waffling on and on but I just feel very separated from my friends and the gap is widening. Its also hard when you are a single parent and you have no-one to worry with!!

paybacktime2008

in a word YES