Does Being broke turn you into a grump

Bismarck

PasturesNew wrote: »

The richest among you are those sharing your life with somebody you love. You can't buy that.

and how many people don't realise what they've got?

I sometimes think of Robbie Williams and all kinds of "stars" who have more money than they know what to do with...and don't seem all that happy

hula-hoops

You're dead right.

I don't think I have ever seen Victoria Beckham smile and goodness knows she's in the papers often enough. All that money and she always looks like the most miserable person on the planet.

aliasojo

clearmydebts wrote: »

I don't think it is very sensitive of him to come on here moaning about being bored every night. He was living an unrealistic lifestyle compared to most people.....

Sorry, but I think this is very unfair. This site is for ALL, not just those who live in a similar way. He is obviously having to have a change in his lifestyle and whilst it may not be to the same degree as everyone else, it IS nonetheless an issue for him and he is entitled to post here as is the rest of us.

As for the OP.....don't beat yourself up, you're only human. I'm VERY familiar with being green from time to time.

hula-hoops

Yes, this site is called 'Money Saving Expert' and anyone can benefit from saving money.

For all we know, his £200 a month for treats and entertainment may have been the result of following lots of advice and tips on here, switching utility suppliers, finding 0% deals on credit cards for balance transfers, etc.

ltm07

I agree aliasojo & that was the point I was trying to make to Icka & I didn't mean for my post to sound like I was having a go at Icka. We all know that we have to make changes if we want to clear debts & this forum is about people struggling with their debts. There are loads of cheap things that we can do but there are also things that we don't like missing out on, for me one of them is seeing my mates buy a season ticket for the footy & even buying a ticket for the game is £25-£30, a few beers & a bite to eat soon knocks the cost up to £50-£60. Glen says that they like to go to concerts & that also is no cheap thing. That's my reasoning for saying that I personally don't think that £200 for entertainment for a working couple with a family is a massive amount nowadays.

clearmydebts

aliasojo wrote: »

Sorry, but I think this is very unfair. This site is for ALL, not just those who live in a similar way. He is obviously having to have a change in his lifestyle and whilst it may not be to the same degree as everyone else, it IS nonetheless an issue for him and he is entitled to post here as is the rest of us.

And I don't think you read the post properly. I said that he was leading an unrealistic lifestyle (before he cut back). I have no problem with his budget now, I don't think it is extortionate but obviously it is annoying when he is going on about being bored. So are loads of people, that's life! And up until about 6pm today he hadn't bothered responding to people despite people writing lots about what he could do.

mjoyeux

It adds to being a grump, but it doesn't make you horrible...

Just chill relax and look forward to being DF! :-D

causey25

I'm not sure I want to admit to being grumpy & horrible, but because I am so obsessed with my own DFW status I do notice other peoples financial situation & any treats they get themselves more than I used to.

I tend to wonder - why aren't all the people I know struggling like me?
And then I remind myself that they weren't as stupid as me & that I could live quite comfortably if I wasn't paying off all these debts. And then I smack myself over the head a few times & feel a little gloomy. Ooh & a bit jealous.
I get especially jealous of people with wealthy parents, or parents with any money at all really - nice vague expectations of inheriting a little pot to pay off their debts. And that's when I feel really ashamed of myself because I really do know better than that.

And then I go into excel & play with the pretty colours & fonts on my 'repayments' spreadsheet. (And sometimes I insert a legacy of a few £000 from a fictional aunt or a small lottery win ) That always perks me up.

Considering that my life feels like it is on hold for 2-3 years - I am actually surprised I'm not more grumpy & horrible. Things could be ( & could still get, if I'm honest) a lot worse.

Off to watch the zombies in the BB house now - that'll cheer me up!

Causey x

aliasojo

clearmydebts wrote: »

And I don't think you read the post properly. I said that he was leading an unrealistic lifestyle (before he cut back). I have no problem with his budget now, I don't think it is extortionate but obviously it is annoying when he is going on about being bored. So are loads of people, that's life! And up until about 6pm today he hadn't bothered responding to people despite people writing lots about what he could do.

I said I thought your post was unfair because you wrote...


I don't think it is very sensitive of him to come on here moaning about being bored every night.

My point was that he has an issue and has done no wrong in posting about it. The fact some people are annoyed about his choices or his opinions about his own situation is irrelevant. Some things that are trivial to some can just as easily be huge problems for others.

As for your last comment, I dont really think that has anything to do with the subject being discussed in this thread. Imo.

clearmydebts

aliasojo wrote: »

I said I thought your post was unfair because you wrote...


I don't think it is very sensitive of him to come on here moaning about being bored every night.

My point was that he has an issue and has done no wrong in posting about it. The fact some people are annoyed about his choices or his opinions about his own situation is irrelevant. Some things that are trivial to some can just as easily be huge problems for others.

As for your last comment, I dont really think that has anything to do with the subject being discussed in this thread. Imo.

And my point is that if he read through other people's threads he might see that other people are worse off and he might be a bit more sensitive. Of course everyone has different issues and it is all relative but I am entitled to air my opinion, just as you are.

And imo, what I said is relevant. Usually if someone starts off a thread asking for advice, it it is polite to say thanks when people reply. I suppose manners are relative too though.....