Fibromyalgia

LameWolf

Fingers well and truly crossed that you get your house sorted BZ. I don't wonder you're getting migraine headaches with the stress of all that.

Suep I hope your Dad does OK with his chemo. Not a subject I know much about, but I wish him well.

CwtA when you find a way of dealing with the hot flushes, please tell me. They're a right PITA as far as I'm concerned. Specially as Mr LW has the bedroom like an oven (or so it seems to me). For what its worth, the Doc did put me on Norethisterone (sp?) for them, but I stopped taking it in fairly short order because it turned me into a fire-breathing dragon.

Careful_with_that_Axe

LW, I was obsessed with HRT patches up until about 6 months ago as someone I knew who was on them said she felt fabulous.
Yeah, right, coz that's gonna happen to me. I was hung up on the thought that it would. But I'm fairly sure they're not an option for me as there is a family history of maternal osteoporosis and I'm on steriods, so have to take supplments to protect my bones.

I think I may make an appointment with the Nurse Practitioner so I can be sure of not wasting GP's time.
I never have heating on in the bedroom and the window is always open - even if only a little bit, but it doesn't seem to be helping. I'll come back and make sure I update you after I get round to making an appointment.

As I woke in a fit of pique today, I've sorted the kitchen - even the floor! And done some ironing.
All achey now, so almost time for a lovely soak in the bath.

Unity

Hi everyone, especially the newbies :hello:.

S/E great news about the DLA - I remember having the same mixed feelings when I got mine, very tearful for about a week until I sorted my head out. I just think that if a miracle happens I can always go back to work (like that'll happen in the current climate:rolleyes:) and tell them I don't need it anymore :rotfl:.

CWTA Despite being older :rolleyes::p:D, I'm still not menopausal - but I don't eat dairy products and use soya instead which might be the explanation since the Japanese evidently don't have a word for 'menopause' . Mind you the other thing is that breast cancer is linked to those who start menstruating early and finish late and as I've mentioned I've had about seven or eight close family members with it, any my mother certainly fitted into that category. My friend who has recently been dxd with sarcoma (the one who had previously been told she had a benign breast lump!) didn't stop menstruating until 61 and she's super-fit!

Suep - best wishes to your dad, I hope he was feeling okay when you went to visit. Isn't that just typical of your carpet cleaner to pack in when you most need it. See there's yet another reason for me moving closer - you could have borrowed mine;). Although surprisingly I think we are doing slightly better weather wise at present. Haven't seen any snow and the cloud cover has prevented some of the frost although today has been sunny, cloudless and cold - so it may be on its way :eek:.

BZ I hope you're sorted with your house, I didn't manage to get on here at all yesterday, so didn't get the chance to wish you luck - but you know how it is when you reach that stage where you crash and burn . I know there's a certain reticence among private landlords when letting houses to those on benefits - but there again, surely if they discriminate against those who are disabled there should be some comeback? I don't know, I am a tad befuddled just now.

LW - 'Base over Apex' - I like it - it sounds very mathematical :rolleyes:.

Thanks to everyone who enquired about my nocturnal fall, I haven't repeated it - but that's 'cos I'm not sleeping and when I do drop off I am bothered by the strangest dreams and the baldy pelicans have come back . I'm also feeling very guilty about not getting out and about and exercising more - this was not how I envisaged my new year starting off! I seem to have hit a brick wall (or maybe it was the bedroom floor that did it;)) but I am even more than usually tired and regularly fall asleep over the puter or when I am knitting. As a result the pains are back with a vengeance and I don't feel inclined to do much other than rest. The trouble is - (does anyone else find this :rolleyes:?) I find it very hard to give in and just berate myself for needing a kick up the @rse!

To be honest DS has returned home to revise for his exams which start on Monday - he was only going to pop through for the day and get his hair cut, but when he'd gone back to uni he found that one of his mates that he used to sit with was killed over the holidays. He'd gone to London for New Year and got hit by a tube. This is the second friend he's lost in less than a year as one of his schoolmates was killed in Afghanistan in June. I keep thinking of the poor parents having to cope with the loss - it's not something you think about when you first clap eyes on your kids is it? For all DS is 20 now it still feels like such a short time ago that he was born and I can't imagine how I'd feel if something happened to him. Perhaps it's just as well I am sitting here if he needs me.

Sorry if I have forgotten anyone - you know it's not intentional .

Love,
Unity

sharon59

Well lm having a day feeling sorry for myself!went drs yesterday and basicly told my bad back wont improve with operation and as fibro makes pain worse have got try to manage it.Pain killers dont help much and think other life problems are increasing stress levels and then pain worse-makes sense but not helpful as cant do much about stress at moment.
Today decided to go bargain hunting -spent 50 mins hobbling around -had to use stick and keep stopping only went in 3 shops then gave up!
Worst bit was in WHS lady bout 25yrs older than me offered to carry my basket!!!!!!
Have a weep and moan so now time to get on with it again l suppose.sorry to whinge-but know l can here.x

bigzippy

Hi guys, thanks for all your well wishes. I'm just popping on before I finally get some tea (or is it dinner? or lunch? or breakfast even...? :rolleyes:) to let you know that we got a phonecall about lunchtime to say that the landlady wouldn't go for it. Wracking our brains to come up with alternatives now... I'm wondering whether I could still get the Housing Benefits with OH on the lease. They don't know he's my OH do they? And the rest of our finances aren't combined and he won't have any bills or anything coming to the house. It would just be like if I was sharing a house with a friend...surely...? I might well be clutching at straws (as we REALLY want this house!) but it's worth finding out isn't it? We're gonna try ringing CAB or Benefits Enquiry Line or something tomorrow...any suggestions folks?

I'll probably be back on later to be less self centred

Careful_with_that_Axe

Aww BZ. The only thing I can think of is someone of high standing (from church perhaps?) to act as guarantor, or to pay a larger deposit - say equal to 3/4 months rent, so that landlady can be assured that, even if HB is delayed for any reason, she will not be out of pocket with rent.

You have every right to feel self-centered at the moment - that's quite a blow when you've just been reconciling to the fact that you have to move anyway.
I really feel for you - I've been thinking about you a lot today regarding this.
I hope the others won't mind me speaking for them when I say that we'll all be sending you lots of thoughts full of hope that the situation gets sorted asap and in a way that you are happy with.
Hugs m'love
x

bigzippy

Thanks Axe. It is a big gutted. They are saying that we could have a 6 month contract and pay 6 months rent up front, and she'd take me, but for a start we don't have that kind of money (esp that's not tied up for the wedding) and for a second, we've no guarantee that the owner actually pays the mortgage and doesn't just pocket our cash.We'd have no recourse if that were to happen if, for example, tey were broke cos the courts would claim the cash - type thing... We did offer a guarantor - someone who has his own business worth a few millions...apparently that wasn't enough We offered to pay the first 3 months up front, so that two months was always in credit until the point we get married...but that was a no-go too... *sigh* The only thing I can think of is the joint tenancy but stating we're not a couple type partners type common-law marriage...iyswim? We really *love* this house too...

sharon59

BZ -hope you get things sorted with the house-dont get too stressed-easy to say l know!
been to bed but cant sleep so downstairs for cuppa.
Increased Pregablin tonight and feel really spaced out but wide awake-bit like steroid effect when l was on chemo.think its from the increased meds.will be like a wet lettuce about place tomorrow-or actually later today!

bigzippy

I can't sleep either Sharon ...had a MEGA late night last night (about 8am) nervous excitement about the house, and now we've been told no we're wracking our brains to come up with plans B, C and D....

Hope you get to sleep soon.

LameWolf

Oh dear, BZ I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all right for you.:think: I don't have any bright ideas right now, but I'm sending good vibes your way in the hope that it might just help a bit.

Sharon I hope you're feeling a little better today. It's no fun when they tell you you're just going to have to live with it. I smiled a little at you mentioning the lady in WHS offering to carry your basket, but I was sort of smiling in sympathy with you, IYSWIM.