Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

shelly

Somnium wrote: »

Have any of you already purchased baby stuff or are you superstitious? Or is it me just being too tempted working in a baby shop? I really need to stop am running out of space...eek! On the plus side when BFP happens I'll have saved a fortune with all my sale bargains hehe.

My hubby absolutely won't let me buy baby stuff. Thinks its bad luck to have it in the house.
Only things I have got are some avent bits and pieces because they were freebies online and a Disney Tigger (cos I love tigger) baby gym/mobile/huggable toy thingy which was a bargain at the time and I was worried that if I didn't get it then it wouldn't be available when I wanted it and a few little bits and pieces that were freebies on baby mags which I bought the first time I was pg.

Having said that I haven't got anything for 3 years now. The things mentioned above were got in our first year TTC when we didn't honestly think we would have all this damn trouble and heartache

Mrs-H-

Myaccount - My GP prescribed me the Clomid to maximise my chances of a natural conception as we'd been through quite a bit and had spent a small fortune on TX, consultants fees and tests, she figured that it had happened once and could happen again.

Somnium - I didnt have a thing in the house for my DD, her pram arrived 2 weeks before her due date and because i was so far along we kept it and her cotbed was delivered the following week, i didnt really want anything in the house when we were TTC as i couldnt bear to look at it.

myaccount08

MrsH, i know why they give Clomid lol, i just meant if you needed ICSI for severe male factor, bit strange to be taking a powerful drug that doesn't even work for you. Did she ever say you're only meant to have 6 months before taking a break? As said earlier in the thread, seems different around the country what they will do. I know here they wouldn't even entertain the idea, but then i'm not impressed with our care at all.

Nottslass glad you are back and feeling determined I hope your appointment goes well and all is successful this time.

Somnium i had bought a fair amount of stuff during previous pregnancies. Silly me thought that as i'd past the first trimester everything would be ok. Only to go through the worst weeks down the line and be left with a broken heart and a bunch of baby things. I repeated the same mistake twice! This time i treated myself to some white vests on sale for £1 and a yellow outfit for £3. I won't be buying a thing until i'm 30+ weeks, whether that will be this pg or having to wait for another i don't know. I knew of someone who had their entire nursery decorated before they conceived! They were newlyweds and her DH had gotten really excited about it, i think it's sweet, but we all know things don't always work out the way we hope. If we'd done a nursery it would be all rusty and full of cobwebs by now LOL.

Somnium

All of the stuff I have bought is hidden away in various cupboards, I dont buy loads but over 4/5 years it soon adds up and I'm such a pushover when it comes to bargains. I'm determined to have a baby so they won't go to waste although I do occasionally give some bits away as gifts.

FairyElephant_2

Dear All,

Well, I'm back! Thank you all so much for your kind thoughts & wishes - it really meant a lot to me to know that you were all there & thinking of us.

I'd like to be able to say I've managed to put the m/c behind me and move on, but TBH I still feel very 'fragile'. Yesterday was my first day without any tears, which I suppose is a step in the right direction.

We went to a kind of 'support group' thing at the FC on Weds evening - it was their first meeting and we thought it was useful to meet other couples who are at various stages of treatment. It's going to be every month, so we will go again.

Don't really want to be back at work - I sat in the car for 10 minutes outside the house this morning before I could get myself going. I finally have to admit to myself that I hate this job! I only took it (3+ years ago) because having been made redundant from my wonderful (but stressful and long hours) previous position, we thought that something local and less stressful, with 'regular' hours would help with the TTC, and I made a concsious decision to choose that over the 'career path'..... and after all, it wouldn't take much longer would it??!!!??? I always intended to have a year off and then work part-time after I became a mum, so we could carry on making ends meet.
Now I feel like I am stuck here....I'll never make it back in at the level I used to be (even if I wanted the travel & stress back again) so my 'career' is pretty much dead in the water, and even if I managed to change jobs now I'd probably be stuffed for time off for appts (& that elusive goal of mat. leave!). I suppose in the current climate I should think myself lucky that I have a job, and that I can usually get time off when I need it (and goodness knows we need the money for the fertility treatments!), it's just that it all feels like the waste-of-time paper-pushing that I swore I would never end up doing, and I am so FED UP with everything!

We can't get an appt with the consultant until 12th Feb, which seems an age away (I know it is only 4 weeks away now). I have to call every few days in case there is a cancellation any sooner, but no luck yet.
I just need to know if we can try again, and if so, when, or what our options are.
We found out from the clinic reps on Weds that the policy is that if you have 2 m/c's during fertility treatment, they will do 'further tests & investigations' before trying again, but we don't know if the ectopic m/c will count or not - only the consultant can tell us. I just need to KNOW what the next steps will be...I need a plan..'cos now i just feel like I'm floating in limbo.

OK - moan over for now. Back to the piles of c**p which cover my desk I suppose....

Hope everyone is doing OK, and welcome to the 'newbies' I haven't had chance to 'speak to' yet - will have a proper read of the thread later and catch up.

FE

nottslass_2

Welcome Back FE - My F/u appointment at the Fertility clinic is the 28th jan,hopefully they'll be able to tell us if there is any point in trying again ( goodness knowss how we'll afford it !!!)

The support group at your clinic sounds like a good idea,there isn't anything like that at ours - it would be so good to meet other couples going through the same emotional roller coaster.

Hugs
Nottslass

nikkinoo_3

Hello there FE - welcome back. I can sympathise with you about not being happy at work, I feel the same, though I was never a 'career woman' - just lucky once to have a really interesting job that I enjoyed but got made redundant from 6 years ago. I've never found anything comparible since!

I was hoping to book my HSG this morning for next Tues - but they'll only do it by day 10 of my cycle and because AF started on Sat afternoon they class Tues as day 11. So it's no go this month, unless I go privately at another local hospital. I've decided to sit out another month and if timing proves to be all wrong again next month then I'll find out costs etc of going private. Interestingly the private hospital do HSGs on day 10 or 12... so why can't the NHS one do day 11 I wonder!! :mad:

I only buy baby stuff for friends who have had babies, nothing for myself (not even pregnancy tests until AF is late!!)... as far as I'm concerned that would be tempting fate in the WRONG direction

pixiegirl

Hi Girls,

I am an old lurker and I started the original TTC thread.................well i thought it was about time i started making an active contribution so here i am!

A quick history is me and DH are both 25, DH is in the army and we have been ttc for 4 years in march. Because DH is in the army since TTC we have lived in Cyprus and 2 places in Germany.
After TTC for a year we went to the Drs in Cyprus and they messed us around and we got no where, then we went to the first place in germany (munster) and didnt even bother goin to the dr's as we assumed we would get the same responce and DH was away alot when we were there.

Now were in Bielefeld and the Dr's here seem very pro active................DH had a sa last week and the results were not good.......2 million sperm (per whatever it is) 70% were dead and 30% were only moderate....so not too good! He is now away for 2 weeks on a course but has been instructed that he has to have another SA to confirm the results.

I also had my 21 day bloods done, went to the Dr's last week and he told me i had to have another one done due to my prolactin levels being very high. I have tried searching this on the internet and most come back saying that high prolactin can cause you to stop O........i do chart and have regular AF and my charts show a clear ovulation pattern.
SO.............had another blood test this morning and im seeing the Dr on thursday to discuss the results, but the Dr's have assured both me and my DH that he will do all he can to try and get us PG.

We finally seem to be getting somewhere and i really hope that it will happen for us soon!

Any advice or info from you girlys who have had tests done would be much appreciated.

Pixie x x x

jiblets1

Nice to have you back FE and Pixie.

I'm about to come on - only 4 days "late" which isn't bad since I had a bit of a stressful week last week.

I'm getting really fed up with my cycle. It only takes the slightest bit of stress and my ovulation gets put back anything up to 10 days. I've got my first fertility appointment next month, and I don't know how the FC is going to work anything out from my dates...

How do you all present your AF dates to the docs? Just a list of dates?

shelly

jiblets1 wrote: »

How do you all present your AF dates to the docs? Just a list of dates?

Whenever I have been asked for AF dates they usually want the dates of CD1's.