Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

nikkinoo_3

Myaccount that's fantastic news - I'll be keeping everything crossed for you over the coming months! Seems the new year is starting to bring some BFPs in...

Anyone had any advice on how I should prepare for the fertility clinic tomorrow? Aside from sperm results, temps and AF dates I just remembered about a couple of medications I take from time to time - anything else I haven't thought of?

kencokenco

MY ACCOUNT
thats fantastic news I will keep my fingers crossed all is ok. Can I ask you what dose of Aspirin you have been taken daily.??

Also with the pcos did you have very irregular cycles etc, Sorry to ask, but as I have pcos too wonder if it would also help benefit me in some way.

I have been taking the Agnus castus , but have been getting some nasty headaches with it, I will persevere for a while longer and see what happens.

Once again I hope all goes well for you, and hope you stick around for a while and let us all know how your doing.

myaccount08

Thank you, i need all the luck i can get! I'm still cramping very badly w/lower back ache. You know that way you feel on Christmas eve as a young child, too excited to sleep but at the same time desperate to sleep so Santa can come? (or is it only me who felt that way :embarasse)... well that's how i've felt these past 2 days! I can't sleep for more than a few hours at a time, so anxious and excited. Keep checking for AF and my temps. Everytime i go to the loo i have to really fight the urge to test again! I'm just so desperate to see a proper BFP and for this bean to stick.

My big dilemma, is that if I go to the GP now then they will take me off the list for treatment and investigations. I know from past heartache that I could still easily lose this any day now so i may very well need that treatment for our final chance.... But, at the same time I don't want to compromise this pregnancy by missing out on progesterone and hCG checks. At the start of 08 I read a girl that got pregnant and was taken off "the list", she lost the baby at 8w 5d and almost a year on is still waiting for treatment... I don't think I could bare losing our only hope like that What do you girls think? What would you do? (I do know how lucky I am just to be in this position though)

gymfiend

What brilliant news to start the New Year :beer: :j

I really see the dilemma for you in terms of telling doc or not telling doc...but if I was you I'd tell them, better to do everything to make this a healthy sticky bean than start negatively, iyswim, thinking the worst? Try and remain positive, this one will stick Congrats!xxx

myaccount08

kencokenco wrote: »

MY ACCOUNT
thats fantastic news I will keep my fingers crossed all is ok. Can I ask you what dose of Aspirin you have been taken daily.??

Also with the pcos did you have very irregular cycles etc, Sorry to ask, but as I have pcos too wonder if it would also help benefit me in some way.

I have been taking the Agnus castus , but have been getting some nasty headaches with it, I will persevere for a while longer and see what happens.

Sorry Kenco must've been typing whilst you posted. Yeh my cycles in 2008 went from 24 to 59 days, ended with heavy anov bleeding In previous years they've ranged from 25-70 days with random bleeding.

It's the 75mg aspirin. Normal dose for painkiller is 300mg i think. I bought the first box (gastro resistant) from Asda, 28 for 80p i think. I didn't take it after 12dpo or during AF though as bleeding is heavy enough as it is! 2 weeks ago i found a much better one, it dissolves in water and was 100 for 80p in Morrison's pharmacy. It's such a tiny dose it's definitely worth a try. AF last time was only 4-5 days long which is short for me too so that was an improvement.

By far the best thing i've ever done is the fertility reflexology. I was really emotional the last 3 treatments but it relaxed me so much and i was more confident that i would O. Interesting thing is all the parts that hurt on my feet correlate to the areas of my body i've got trouble with. I didn't tell her anything about it and looked up the parts myself online so i know it's genuine. I spent £210 on it, alot cheaper than some other treatments and worth it just to see those faint lines.

It's bit out there, but because i couldn't afford hypotherapy too i bought a self-hypnosis fertility CD off ebay for £1.25 in December. Everytime i listened to it (3 times this cycle) i fell asleep within minutes, so definitely relaxing. Not sure if that's anything to do with the BFP (big faint positive) but good for some sleep :rotfl: Maybe i should put it on again tonight so i can quit waking up and POAS and temping lol.

I had headaches on that stuff too, i really hope they stop for you soon and it works.

jiblets1

Hulagirl, personally I would say something, but I wouldn't ring up the consultant themselves, as it's too easy to get wound up. I would put something in writing to whoever is in charge, e.g. in a GP surgery it's the practice manager. I find you only get a response if you put it in writing, as something they have to keep on record has to be dealt with. A phone converstation is easily ignored....

I would say that your sure they understand that ttc is a very stressful time and that you were already upset that through no fault of your own your ttc journey has been delayed. I would then say that you feel that additional stress has now been put on you by the consultant himself and that you would have appreciated a polite request to speed up if your delay was causing a problem. Abrupt behaviour and insinuations that you are not serious about wanting a family are not condusive to keeping stress levels low, are unprofessional and upsetting and are most likely not following the policies of the hospital.

Always finish a complaint letter with what you expect, so I would say that you look forward to hearing their opinion on this matter.

In this situation I don't think I would want anyone's head on a plate, but I would have to say something. Too many people let these things pass, sometimes resulting in a "professional" upsetting more and more members of the public purely because nobody makes anything official. A letter has to be kept on record, and although you wouldn't be making too much fuss, 3 or 4 similar letters would result in more serious action being taken.

Also, doing something about things always makes me feel less stressed...
Good luck with it.

Nicki

I've just caught up in this thread after being away for a few days visiting the family.

I am so sorry that both lilo and nottslass have had bad news. I hope better news is round the corner for them both.

Congratulations to myaccount. Will be keeping everything crossed for you. And hello to the newbies. I'm ttc number 3 by the way (on cycle 21 now) having taken 6 years for number 1, and a few weeks for number 2!

AnnieM_3

myaccount08 wrote: »

My big dilemma, is that if I go to the GP now then they will take me off the list for treatment and investigations. I know from past heartache that I could still easily lose this any day now so i may very well need that treatment for our final chance.... But, at the same time I don't want to compromise this pregnancy by missing out on progesterone and hCG checks. At the start of 08 I read a girl that got pregnant and was taken off "the list", she lost the baby at 8w 5d and almost a year on is still waiting for treatment... I don't think I could bare losing our only hope like that What do you girls think? What would you do? (I do know how lucky I am just to be in this position though)

Really hoping this works out for you.

If you went to the docs for checks and found something amiss ie progesterone/hCG levels not right, is there anything they could do to fix it? I don't know how it works, but I'm thinking if they couldn't do anything to correct things and nature would just have to take its course anyway (as awful as that would still be), would it be better to wait until a little while has passed before seeing the doc, so as not to lose your place on the list just in case?

Good luck with it, whatever you decide to do!

EDIT: Forgot to ask if anyone else is using the VIP stuff on FertilityFriend - I signed up for my 30 day trial yesterday, but am considering going for the VIP version - is it worth it (being very mse and checking before I go ahead!)

AnnieM x

shelly

myaccount08 wrote: »

What do you girls think? What would you do?

Personally I wouldn't see my GP until I had made it to 3 months. If they contact you in that time to start investigations then tell them you are pg but I wouldn't tell them until I had to.

Somnium

AnnieM wrote: »

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3 year waiting list for 1 cycle? That's awful - natural fertility may have decreased in 3 years, and there's only a 20-25% success rate per cycle. I can see why you went private!

I want to find out how many cycles and what the waiting list is for NHS treatment in my area. There's no way we'd be able to afford to go private.

AnnieM after all the back and forth to the hospital and tests etc when the specialist finally said do you want to go ahead with IVF and we said yes there was about a 4 month wait till we heard anything. As I said earlier or first appointment is at the end of the month, so in all waited about 7months and we are allowed two cycles. It goes to show how much these things vary from area to area. I know we have been told the sucess rate is only 1 in 4 or 25% depending on how you look at it but we are feeling really positive.

As for where I work yeah it really sucks some days but as I'm not close to the customers I've learnt to blank it all, it's worse when its someone I know.