MSE Pregnancy Club III

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I can't imagine not being a SAHM and luckily I had already given up work a year or so prior to my first pregnancy so it hasn't come as a big shock to the bank balance .

However, if I did have to work my Mum has always said she would have her grandchildren as I wouldn't use a nursery. One plus point about being an older Mummy - Nanna and Grandad are retired! .

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MrsTinks

Oh and Skinty - I've only ever found one of my jobs through online job agencies sites etc... the ones I have gotten have been through agencies I have walked into or in the local paper These days it's more word of mouth - once you get a reputation in this business it tends to be more a case of other companies try and pinch you
Not surprised you haven't found anything online sofar - but don't let it stop you! Sometimes it's a case of sheer luck! My temp job last year when I left my old job was sheer fluke! I was in the office when they called in with the vacancy... the agency lady literately looked at me whilst on the phone and mouthed "when could you start?" and I mouthed "now!"... she sent them my CV and my pay rates, it was £2 more than they wanted to pay per hour but they agreed and it paid off for them as several times I finished early and left a couple of hours before I should so cost them less that way hehehe Oh and as well as the route planning for the fleet etc I ended up tidying all the filing, re-doing part of the computer filing system and a few other bits
So if you can definitely go to the agencies do so - temping can actually be a lot of fun!

angelfairy

this talk of work and SAHMs is what i am finding difficult at the moment. had a unexpected meeting with my boss today re my maternity leave and cover etc.

i would love to have at least one year off (even more) but financially it's difficult isn't it. you get used to an amount of money coming in and then it drops.

would love to hear from anyone who has done some self employed work whilst off on SMP as that is what i will most likely be doing also.

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nicole136 wrote: »

I had some more bleeding last night and I thought "thats it" as it was bright red with clots / cramping and heavier than my continuous spotting, really prepared for the worst. Rang in today and got a scan this am and all is well

So pleased for you, Nicole!!! :j

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angela6834 wrote: »

Im 9 weeks and had really bad cramp yesterday. The blood was still brown but much more like a period. I have an appt at hospital tomorrow. Glad your okay tho and hope i am too x

Hope all goes well tomorrow, Angela.

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Krystaltips

I'm with SB, I couldn't imagine not being a SAHM either! I've done some voluntary charity stuff and my breast feeding training but a lot of it has been extremely family friendly and DD's come to conferences with me from Glasgow to Bournemouth... I'm really fortunate that DH agrees with me and is willing to support me while I stay with this baby. I'll be starting a new job in the hospital this week but it's not going to be more than 1 day a week and hours should be within school time so I think I can just about manage it...

Oh and DH is on a really pitiful wage, low enough to qualify for working tax credits, but we manage with what we've got very well I think...

mirrorimage0

i could really do with being a sahm at the moment as im really knackered with kids and work and housework etc but my hours are pretty good, i start at 7.45 and finish at 2.30 so i take the kids to breakfast club and finish in time to pick them up, i dont think financley we could afford it at the moment but hopefully in a couple of yrs we will sell my old flat and pay our mortgage off so i can go part time instead, i dont think i can face the thought of giving upuntil the new one is old enough to be in school and then starting work all over again from the bottom, and the team i work with are really good and i could end up somewhere else i dont like.
it means we will have to start looking for a nanny for the little one though when it comes along but i am planning hopefully 9 months maternity leave, will just have to see how it works out

MrsTinks

I know Krystal: I think if we earnt less we'd make do, we're spoilt really!.. At least we have the ability to overpay our debts which I know isn't an option for many...
I think that IF it's ever an option to be a SAHM I'd still have to get a job of some type - I would slowly loose it if I didn't have a job... My mum didn't cope well with being SAH - even when due to illness! She re-landscaped their whole garden!
One way or another I'd need a job or something to do... Whether being a mum would fill that gap enough - time will tell but I doubt it... I've always been very career focussed really... Comes from being told for so long I'd never amount to anything by everyone - including my ex - that I have worked so hard to prove them all wrong! Maybe to the point where it's now a fault.... same for DH... he was told he'd never amount to anything too - even ended up homeless for a while and he took decided he'd prove everyone wrong! Thing is it's now become so ingrained that I don't know if we can let go of it... I hope I can to a degree at least... I would love to be a SAHM if I genuinely thought I could cope with not having a job to define me...
*sigh* i guess I moan a lot looking at my last few posts - I know we're lucky really, I just wish we could sit back and relax more and appreciate that we have our health and each other instead of stressing over what is ultimately not things that REALLY matter.
Will being parents change that? Please tell me it will!
We want the best for our kids (like everyone!) - we want them to get the best schooling (DH wants to send any sons we have to private school where he went as a "day boy" when he was a kid... Issue is it costs a BOMB!), the best clothes, the hobbies they want etc - but on the other hand we don't want them to take it all for granted... ARGH! Does anyone have a foolproof life recipe!! I need one!!! To include finances and kids please! :rotfl:

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:rotfl:Just shows what a mixed bunch we are! DH is fiercely against any type of private education as he was a boarder from aged 6 to 18.

ETA: just noticed you said 'boys', Mrs T! What happens to any girls?!

elle_gee

Evening all..

Skinty, lots of similarities with you just now.. I haven't got too many symptoms, just tiredness and sore boobs and the occasional wave of nausea (usually after lunch just as tirednes hits me too). I'm at the midwife's for my booking in appointment on Weds too I'm really hoping my scan has been arranged for this side of xmas but with my date being moved back a few weeks ago I think that might have already filtered through to the midwife and the scan might have been booked for the other side of xmas

Hope everyone else is well Great to hear everything is well nicole and I have everything crossed for you tomorrow angela xx