MSE Pregnancy Club III

SeptemberBaby_2

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Its just coz your more special than us
I know the jugs you mean, my hospital bed buddy had had a c/s and she had them and little paper rulers to measure her urine output after her catheter - as I'm sure you can guess I was nothing but sympathetic to her situation and didn't take the mickey once :A

Bless her! . I appreciate having my own room even more now!

xx

MrsTinks

SB what do you think I spent 2 days in hospital doing? :rotfl: everytime I had a widdle I had to pull the cord for the midwife to come test my wee Took 2 days before my ketones came down to just the one + on the scale... the highest is ++++ which is where I was for 36 hours... Whooooops LOL
And my wee was very concentrated for the first 24 hours despite the IV fluids I'm amazed the next time they wanted to test my wee was when I went for my checking in appointment and that was just to send it away... Have to widdle in a jar again for next midwife appointment for next week but I am nowhere near as embaressed as I used to be... I'd have been mortified when I went into hospital to have to carry it around! Now I'm just kinda "whatever".

astonsmummy

feelinggood wrote: »

Its alright AM. I could always post my story, then yours would look completely normal by comparison!

Oh I dunno about that one LOL

astonsmummy

angelfairy wrote: »

Oh AM, dont be embarassed. There's no need.

If you need to get it off your chest, maybe here is a good place becuase you dont need to look anyone in the eye.

Bottom line, it's your life and you dont have to justify your decisions to any of us.

Just need you to be happy

Thanks :A......

astonsmummy

Millie's_Mum wrote: »

She is being good at the moment I just hope it lasts and that she isn't going to turn into a devil child when she has a brother or sister to deal with!

AM I thought you were already split up when you found out about the baby?

God that sounded really rude, feel free to ignore it!!!

Yeah and stupidly I took him back......

astonsmummy

SeptemberBaby wrote: »

Oh, AM :grouphug:. Sorry if my post sounded flippant - it really wasn't meant that way.

xxx

I know hun xxxxx

Millie's_Mum

astonsmummy wrote: »

Yeah and stupidly I took him back......

Well I'm sure you can blame baby brain for that!

Hugs if thats what you need or we can all collectively think evil thoughts about him if thats what you'd prefer!

astonsmummy

Aggghhh I need to talk to someone who wont go running to SS!
Basically he's abusive, aggressive and just a nasty person, then sometimes he can be lovely.
Practically every agency you can think of are watching me now because of this and I just feel like a failiure.
My mum is getting peed off now coz she says it's like listening to her own story, the lies, cheating, abusive voilent behaviour when they get caught out etc.
My poor son aswell, dont gt me wrong he'd never lay a finger on Aston, never has but it obviously affects him.
I know I should kick him out but I cant, he wont go, I've tried, or he comes back and puts on the guilt trip, I know what he's doing but for some stupid reason wont do anything about it.
I really wish I could just go away, I was offered a refuge but I dont want to uproot my son and be all on my own so far away from Mum.
Now aswell I'm facing eviction from my house after Christmas because of rent arrears, and I was advised by shelter that I can apply to a different council on DV grounds, but I'm scared that I'll be isolated.
I just dont knwo what to do anymore girls, I'm now sat here in tears, please dont judge me

skintchick

astonsmummy wrote: »

Aggghhh I need to talk to someone who wont go running to SS!
Basically he's abusive, aggressive and just a nasty person, then sometimes he can be lovely.
Practically every agency you can think of are watching me now because of this and I just feel like a failiure.
My mum is getting peed off now coz she says it's like listening to her own story, the lies, cheating, abusive voilent behaviour when they get caught out etc.
My poor son aswell, dont gt me wrong he'd never lay a finger on Aston, never has but it obviously affects him.
I know I should kick him out but I cant, he wont go, I've tried, or he comes back and puts on the guilt trip, I know what he's doing but for some stupid reason wont do anything about it.
I really wish I could just go away, I was offered a refuge but I dont want to uproot my son and be all on my own so far away from Mum.
Now aswell I'm facing eviction from my house after Christmas because of rent arrears, and I was advised by shelter that I can apply to a different council on DV grounds, but I'm scared that I'll be isolated.
I just dont knwo what to do anymore girls, I'm now sat here in tears, please dont judge me

Why would we judge you? :A You're in an awful situation.

I don;t knwo what to advise. My head says got to the refuge but my heart knows it isn't that simple.

But I will say this. You, your son and your bump deserve better and you must make choices that treat you three well.

I'm sure you won;t be isolated in another area. I live 100 miles from my family, but I made friends. You will make friends at antenatal classes and I'm sure you won;t be too far from your mum?

I know you say he'd never hit your son, but you just don;t know if it might escalate to that one day. You all deserve to live free of fear, hon.

Good luck
:A

r.mac_2

Oh AM - I really don't know what to say sweetie, but I am sending you huge hugs. You have to remember that you are NOT a failure. You are a wonderful, fabulous lady and mother. xxxxxx