Trying For a Baby II

galvanizersbaby

GracieP wrote: »

It's a bloody awful movie. Avoid at all costs, on less you're a huge Kris Marshall (BT's Adam) or James Nesbitt (Cold Feet's Adam) fan. And even then I'd recommend avoiding it, you'd be better off watching a string of BT and Golden Pages adverts.

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

lizziebell*80

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

So sorry to hear of your loss Lizziebell, the same thing has happened to me twice now.
I had D&C's after both pregnancies and after the first one I did not wait to try again and concieved 5 weeks later and had a gorgeous baby boy the pregnancy was a bit stressful as I was convinced for the first trimester that the same thing had happened again as (like you I hadn't had any indication anything was wrong and the hormones levels were too high for any bleeding) but everything was fine.
The second time was a couple of months ago and was an unplanned pregnancy so I am thinking twice about trying to concieve again.
Some good news is that following an ERPC (D&C) the conditions in your womb make it more likely to concieve again quickly apparently (my OH's brother is a gynaecologist and this info came from him)
I think if you feel emotionally ready to try again straight away then you should go for it - I hope you feel better soon x

Thanks for your reply- it makes me feel better to know that someone else also has had the exact same thing happen wrt there being no bleeding even though there was an issue- everytime a different doctor spoke to me they expected me to have some and looked quite confused when I said there was none, which didn't help the old mental situation when your head is completely illogical even though you have seen there is no baby in there! Thanks again

Just to add to your comment about having the ERPC (I couldn't remember the more up to date term), my MIL was given one to try and help her to conceive when she had been having issues, not because she had had a m/c or anything (this was at the end of the 70's) and it worked for her.

homeaway

lizziebell*80 wrote: »

Afternoon ladies-firstly gloominess warning!

I have not posted on here for ages and even then it wasn't much. I didn't want to post my BFP at the end of Sept as it was our first month of trying and didn't want to be one of the newbies only posting a BFP etc etc however from the off I had the feeling that it had all been too easy.....skipping through ectopic scare then low rising HCG levels and finally the 3rd scan (on Mon) at 8 weeks or so showed a 2.5cm empty sac (after having a yolk sac 2 weeks before) and hence a blighted ovum, I had a D&C this Tues (my body was completely oblivious to the problem and as far as it was concerned it was stil pg and didn't cause any bleeding etc so D&C decision was a bit difficult).

Initially I was ok as had already convinced myself that it was going to be a m/c either way, but starting to be a bit more upset again now. Am thinking that I still have high levels of hormones in my body just now as have had spontaneous crying today whilst hanging up my washing-random! DH keeps asking why I am crying and I'm like, how can you not know why I am crying and upset- men really do not think anything like we do! I have to go back to work on Monday and not really looking forward to it as had to tell a few people due to working with chemicals, but I am sure it will be fine (hopefully bleeding will have stopped by then though).

Am also experiencing the whole everyone I know is announcing being pg thing- friends, neighbours etc ahhh!

Also had FIL staying this week and he can be a moody git and he was for most of the week, so all he was interested in was himself and how cold he was in our house and proceeded to keep putting out heating on without asking and really stressing me out (inconsiderate £$%&!)- think maybe due to strong views on abortion that he maybe got the D&C twisted in his head.....anyway he has gone now, phew.

Basically I needed a rant so sorry for longness- I said to myself not to come on here until I was over this as it has upset me a bit reading about BFPs (my own fault for reading it!) but I really want to start trying again asap (I really liked it when I was pg ) and am temping to look out for ov (and will do CM again too) but not sure if impatience after the D&C and not waiting for the 1-2 AFs will increase the risk of anything bad happening again?? I have read about ladies who got pg straight after and all was well but I am sure there are also stories of the opposite (as always!)- anyone here have any experience of this?

Sorry again for longness but just needed to get it down somewhere

Oh and my beloved washer dryer has got something wrong with it so I have to try and arrange to be in for a weekday visit when we both work fulltime-do companies not think that weekends would be a good visiting day option!!!! IT never rains......

Hi I am sorry for your loss. I can relate to how you feel as the same thing happened to me.It is hard as all the books mention about bleeding but like you i had no idea anything was wrong. I had a scan at around eight weeks and all was well and then at my scan at 12 weeks there was no heartbeat. I got pregnant straight away after my d & c but found it really hard to relax until past the 12 week mark. I wish you well.

angela6834

lizziebell*80 wrote: »

Afternoon ladies-firstly gloominess warning!

I have not posted on here for ages and even then it wasn't much. I didn't want to post my BFP at the end of Sept as it was our first month of trying and didn't want to be one of the newbies only posting a BFP etc etc however from the off I had the feeling that it had all been too easy.....skipping through ectopic scare then low rising HCG levels and finally the 3rd scan (on Mon) at 8 weeks or so showed a 2.5cm empty sac (after having a yolk sac 2 weeks before) and hence a blighted ovum, I had a D&C this Tues (my body was completely oblivious to the problem and as far as it was concerned it was stil pg and didn't cause any bleeding etc so D&C decision was a bit difficult).

Initially I was ok as had already convinced myself that it was going to be a m/c either way, but starting to be a bit more upset again now. Am thinking that I still have high levels of hormones in my body just now as have had spontaneous crying today whilst hanging up my washing-random! DH keeps asking why I am crying and I'm like, how can you not know why I am crying and upset- men really do not think anything like we do! I have to go back to work on Monday and not really looking forward to it as had to tell a few people due to working with chemicals, but I am sure it will be fine (hopefully bleeding will have stopped by then though).

Am also experiencing the whole everyone I know is announcing being pg thing- friends, neighbours etc ahhh!

Also had FIL staying this week and he can be a moody git and he was for most of the week, so all he was interested in was himself and how cold he was in our house and proceeded to keep putting out heating on without asking and really stressing me out (inconsiderate £$%&!)- think maybe due to strong views on abortion that he maybe got the D&C twisted in his head.....anyway he has gone now, phew.

Basically I needed a rant so sorry for longness- I said to myself not to come on here until I was over this as it has upset me a bit reading about BFPs (my own fault for reading it!) but I really want to start trying again asap (I really liked it when I was pg ) and am temping to look out for ov (and will do CM again too) but not sure if impatience after the D&C and not waiting for the 1-2 AFs will increase the risk of anything bad happening again?? I have read about ladies who got pg straight after and all was well but I am sure there are also stories of the opposite (as always!)- anyone here have any experience of this?

Sorry again for longness but just needed to get it down somewhere

Oh and my beloved washer dryer has got something wrong with it so I have to try and arrange to be in for a weekday visit when we both work fulltime-do companies not think that weekends would be a good visiting day option!!!! IT never rains......

Im so sorry for your loss....hope you start to feel a little better soon...take care and look after yourself xx

galvanizersbaby

lizziebell*80 wrote: »

Thanks for your reply- it makes me feel better to know that someone else also has had the exact same thing happen wrt there being no bleeding even though there was an issue- everytime a different doctor spoke to me they expected me to have some and looked quite confused when I said there was none, which didn't help the old mental situation when your head is completely illogical even though you have seen there is no baby in there! Thanks again

Just to add to your comment about having the ERPC (I couldn't remember the more up to date term), my MIL was given one to try and help her to conceive when she had been having issues, not because she had had a m/c or anything (this was at the end of the 70's) and it worked for her.

Yep can relate to this - with the 2nd miscarriage I had a bit of bleeding at 8-9 weeks and they scanned me and said that the egg sac was consistent with a 5 week pg so I knew straight away what had happened from previous experience but they insisted that I wait a week and be scanned again just incase I had my dates wrong - although this would have meant I would have got a positive pregnancy test 3 weeks before I had actually concieved! - though commonsense told me this was not possible I still had a strange sort of hope waiting that week!...silly I know!:o

When I was pregnant with my son I must have had 2 scans a week at one point :eek: as I was paranoid the same thing would happen and I wouldn't know (with first m/c I had seen heartbeat at 8 weeks but no heartbeat by 12 week scan )
I'm really lucky where I live as there is an EPAC at the local hospital and you can call them in the morning if your worried and they will get you in for a scan that day - I wouldn't have survived the first trimester of pg with my son if it weren't for them - they were great!

I wish you all the best in TTC for the future x

lizziebell*80

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

Yep can relate to this - with the 2nd miscarriage I had a bit of bleeding at 8-9 weeks and they scanned me and said that the egg sac was consistent with a 5 week pg so I knew straight away what had happened from previous experience but they insisted that I wait a week and be scanned again just incase I had my dates wrong - although this would have meant I would have got a positive pregnancy test 3 weeks before I had actually concieved! - though commonsense told me this was not possible I still had a strange sort of hope waiting that week!...silly I know!:o

When I was pregnant with my son I must have had 2 scans a week at one point :eek: as I was paranoid the same thing would happen and I wouldn't know (with first m/c I had seen heartbeat at 8 weeks but no heartbeat by 12 week scan )
I'm really lucky where I live as there is an EPAC at the local hospital and you can call them in the morning if your worried and they will get you in for a scan that day - I wouldn't have survived the first trimester of pg with my son if it weren't for them - they were great!

I wish you all the best in TTC for the future x

I had been seeing the EPAU at my local hospital- however the availability of scans was more limited.

So sorry that you have had to go through this twice- it has helped me a bit as there was never actually a fetus for me, but even so it is still hard

Thanks for your reply homeaway, it makes it harder to accept when you still are completely pg feeling (my BBs are still as sore as they were before the op and random crying confirms my levels must still be sky-high, boo!!!) and to everyone else for your kind posts, it's comforting knowing that you are not the only one in the same situation.....

Good luck to everyone with ttc, hopefully we'll all get there in the end (2009 will be a better year I hope....) xx

elle_gee

Hi all, one of the Friday-AF-expecters checking in!

Well, no AF as of yet but a BF-"Not Pregnant" on the CBD I just did Maybe I'm not all that sure of my cycle length after all! I've only had five normal cycles since coming off the mini-pill in April. They've all been 28 dayers but maybe it's time for a change! Just wanna get it over with now and get on with another chance!

Hope some other Friday-AF-expecters have better news

Weekend hugs to all! xx

nicole136

*creeps back in*
Hi ladies, thankyou for your thoughts and comments. I did not post my BFP cos I thought it would be a bit inconsiderate as not long TTC and after reading about the heartache of longer term TTC I felt it would be insensitive. But you busted me anyway on the pregnancy thread!!!

I felt so shocked and so did OH, but very very happy.

Lizziebell, I am sorry for your loss and I can relate to having a scan at 8 weeks, alls well, only to go for my 12 week and 5 days to tell me there was no heartbeat. I had to go home and come back the next day for a ERPC. My instinct was telling me not to let them, I wanted to keep my baby. My OH (at the time) was rubbish, just went out drinking with his mates that noght and i remember being all alone. I left him soon after.

I had a lot of symptoms of this PG from 2-10 DPO. but since my BFP I only have sore BB's.

I am very cautious because of my prev experiences. and today i have a bit of abdo pain and just noticed a teeny bit of blood. I guess its out of my hands anyway.
Just thought i would pop back in as i did not go unnoticed which meant a little something to me. Anyway I'll be lurking to see you all got your BFP's for Xmas.
xxxxxxxxxxxx

shelly

lizziebell*80 wrote: »

Afternoon ladies-firstly gloominess warning!

I have not posted on here for ages and even then it wasn't much. I didn't want to post my BFP at the end of Sept as it was our first month of trying and didn't want to be one of the newbies only posting a BFP etc etc however from the off I had the feeling that it had all been too easy.....skipping through ectopic scare then low rising HCG levels and finally the 3rd scan (on Mon) at 8 weeks or so showed a 2.5cm empty sac (after having a yolk sac 2 weeks before) and hence a blighted ovum, I had a D&C this Tues (my body was completely oblivious to the problem and as far as it was concerned it was stil pg and didn't cause any bleeding etc so D&C decision was a bit difficult).

Initially I was ok as had already convinced myself that it was going to be a m/c either way, but starting to be a bit more upset again now. Am thinking that I still have high levels of hormones in my body just now as have had spontaneous crying today whilst hanging up my washing-random! DH keeps asking why I am crying and I'm like, how can you not know why I am crying and upset- men really do not think anything like we do! I have to go back to work on Monday and not really looking forward to it as had to tell a few people due to working with chemicals, but I am sure it will be fine (hopefully bleeding will have stopped by then though).

Am also experiencing the whole everyone I know is announcing being pg thing- friends, neighbours etc ahhh!

Also had FIL staying this week and he can be a moody git and he was for most of the week, so all he was interested in was himself and how cold he was in our house and proceeded to keep putting out heating on without asking and really stressing me out (inconsiderate £$%&!)- think maybe due to strong views on abortion that he maybe got the D&C twisted in his head.....anyway he has gone now, phew.

Basically I needed a rant so sorry for longness- I said to myself not to come on here until I was over this as it has upset me a bit reading about BFPs (my own fault for reading it!) but I really want to start trying again asap (I really liked it when I was pg ) and am temping to look out for ov (and will do CM again too) but not sure if impatience after the D&C and not waiting for the 1-2 AFs will increase the risk of anything bad happening again?? I have read about ladies who got pg straight after and all was well but I am sure there are also stories of the opposite (as always!)- anyone here have any experience of this?

Sorry again for longness but just needed to get it down somewhere

Oh and my beloved washer dryer has got something wrong with it so I have to try and arrange to be in for a weekday visit when we both work fulltime-do companies not think that weekends would be a good visiting day option!!!! IT never rains......

Hi Lizzie

I'm really sorry to read of your loss. I still cry over my mc's now and then and they happened 2 yrs ago and 4 yrs ago.
Both of mine were similar to yours in that I had no fresh bleeding but I did have dirty brown spotting start at 6 weeks with both of them.

After my first mc I was only told not to try for 2 weeks to allow the womb to settle down. The second one was more complicated as cervical cancer was found.

Apparently having had one mc doesn't put you at risk of having another one in the future.


Best wishes

shelly x

angela6834

nicole136 wrote: »

*creeps back in*
Hi ladies, thankyou for your thoughts and comments. I did not post my BFP cos I thought it would be a bit inconsiderate as not long TTC and after reading about the heartache of longer term TTC I felt it would be insensitive. But you busted me anyway on the pregnancy thread!!!

I felt so shocked and so did OH, but very very happy.

Lizziebell, I am sorry for your loss and I can relate to having a scan at 8 weeks, alls well, only to go for my 12 week and 5 days to tell me there was no heartbeat. I had to go home and come back the next day for a ERPC. My instinct was telling me not to let them, I wanted to keep my baby. My OH (at the time) was rubbish, just went out drinking with his mates that noght and i remember being all alone. I left him soon after.

I had a lot of symptoms of this PG from 2-10 DPO. but since my BFP I only have sore BB's.

I am very cautious because of my prev experiences. and today i have a bit of abdo pain and just noticed a teeny bit of blood. I guess its out of my hands anyway.
Just thought i would pop back in as i did not go unnoticed which meant a little something to me. Anyway I'll be lurking to see you all got your BFP's for Xmas.
xxxxxxxxxxxx

Lovely to hear from you...I really wish you all the best of luck this time and wish you a healthy and happy 9 months xx