Trying For a Baby II

lizziebell*80

On the subject of people knowing you are TTC. I had always said I wanted to have one by the time I was 30 and we started in Sept 08 and luckily caught the first month, but we had a blighted ovum diagnosed at the end of Oct and that was when people we knew actually knew we had been trying. When we fell pg we only told my parents and some people at work as I had to due to circumstances. I think it just depends on you really and if you want the questions about it or not.

MadMac_2

Aless02, I can't comment specifically on the thrush issue but I can say that I know infections can cause a change in body temperature (both up and down) so it is likely you could have experienced that? In fact, loads of things I find can change my basal temp and so I don't put much weight on what is says any more!

Tanyajakomis, hi and welcome! You are most welcome to start out on this board and just move to the 12month+/not straightforward board when you feel the time comes obviously - but hopefully never!

If I am completely truthful, you could say we have been trying unsuccessfully for all the years we have been together - but as we only really started seriously trying less than a year ago I just joined this board and will probably jump to the 12mth one sooner rather than later, hopefully nobody else will have to join me though as you'll all get BFPs very soon - oh, I hope and I hope and I hope! I have been glancing at the other board in readiness, but a change is always frightening! However, my glass is always half full and never half empty so I remain hopeful

becs

MadMac,

I went over there not that long ago and we're a very friendly bunch. There are some familiar faces on there too! I have to say of late it has been getting harder for me to read all the bfp's on here, there are less on the other thread but when they come everyone is just so thrilled because we all appreciate it's taken us so much more to get there. I actually felt it was a relief to be honest when I moved over there and not anything like as bad as I thought it was going to be. I had thought it would be like admitting we had failed but I realise that is stupid now. Being with other people in the same boat is an amazing support group for the low days we get!

MadMac_2

Becs, thank you so much for that! And good to know you jump between the two boards as I would love to keep up with friends on here and still offer support and congrats when I can. :hello:

I think knowing that the forum shuts down this weekend (OMG eBay/Facebook/MySpace will be inundated!) I am considering seeing this week out here and then moving next week - seems symbolic like that and I'll finally have to accept that our delay in TTC has made our ages/lifestyles/weights take their toll

butterfly72

Hi All,
just thought I'd pop and see how everyones doing. Congratulations to the BFP!!

Well, I'm sure its not my month again. We actually only BDed once all month and it was a bit late in the month! AF is due today and I've had cramps for the past 3 days so it could arrive anytime. Actually the past 3 nights have been terrible. I never sleep well just before my AF is due.. I toss and turn all night and get so hot I could melt. Does anyone know of anything safe I could take to help this??

Next month I hope we BD more. OH caught a couple of minutes of that Great sperm race program the other week.. luckily it was the bit were the expert said that we should be doing every other day!! We'll see. I'm actually getting fed up with the OH now and starting to debate my future with him. Maybe I#ve just got time to go and find someone who really wants to give it a go.:sad:

fiddling_flower_petals

Hi All

Hope you don't mind me sharing my experiences with you.

Our story may bring a small glimmer of hope, help and understanding to all of those TTC.

After 2 years of TTC, we were refered to consultant by GP, after many tests I was diagnosed with blocked fallopian tubes and a cyst on ovary, which was aspirated(another year gone by) and was refered for IVF.

Started IVF treatment (2 years later) on my base line scan, the cyst on my ovary had returned, and again aspirated. Continued with the follicle stimulating injections and returned to clinic for another scan to assess the no. and size of eggs developing only to find the cyst was back and preventing the eggs from maturing properly, at this point the treatment was abandoned. With hope the cyst would shrink and stop interfering with treatment. Couple of months later the cyst still hadn't shrunk and was surgically removed and cauterised. Advised to wait for 3 months before resuming next IVF cycle.

Three months later found out I was 7 weeks pregnant(naturally) and after a couple of agonising days it was confirmed the pregnency was not ectopic but 3 weeks later had a miscarriage. We were completely devastated, Dr advised a small chance of natural pregnancy but to persue IVF.

Six months later pregnant again just before we were due to start cycle of IVF and beautiful DD born almost 6.5 years after we first started trying.

And DS was born 2 years later, conceived effortlessley!

We concider ourselves completely blessed and very luck, but life finds it's way, mostly.

During the years TTC were some of the hardest challenging years where at times I was completely neurotic and almost begged DH to find somebody else who could allow him to become a Dad. I couldn't even bring myself to share some of the feelings of inadequancy and desperation with anyone.

I'm so glad I've come across this thread, has it offers support and a voice to those TTC. Which I think would have helped me during my dark days.

My advice is to take each day/ cycle/ month at a time, seek proffesional support if you can't talk about your feelings with anybody else.

shelly

fiddling_flower_petals wrote: »

During the years TTC were some of the hardest challenging years where at times I was completely neurotic and almost begged DH to find somebody else who could allow him to become a Dad.

Thanks for sharing your experience with us.

I can relate to the above quote. I have told my hubby countless times that if he wants to leave and find someone who can give him a child I wouldn't hold it against him at all.
We have had 2 unexplainable losses and I have lost my cervix to cancer but we still hold out hope that we will be parents one day.

MadMac_2

Fiddling flower petals, wow! That is such a story and thank you so much for confirming to me that hope is always worth holding on to!

Very timely to read that both you and Shelly had that conversation with your OH, I am plucking up the courage to say exactly that to my OH as I know how disappointed he is getting and is trying less hard to hide it at times! Men, eh.

Not that I would want to be without him, I love him very much - so that brings me to you, Butterfyl72! BDing only once a month is sometimes all it takes, provided it is at your most fertile time - but I still think that sounds quite an issue and opens up a whole heap of relationship questions... So do post again (or start a new thread on the relationships board) if you would like to get oodles of advice on what to do about your OH!

Sorry, have to run now to work. Hugs to all x

cedrickerry

congrats to leopardlady .. told you we weren't going to be cycle buddies this month ...... and this is for the best reason :j

I've been reading all the comments about your OHs. Strange things aren't they?
Mine watched the Channel 4 prog with interest and I think found it very nformative I think men find that visual representation easier than us telling them the facts. He seems more sympathetic this month now. Although saying that he's been on a real downer all week, breaking his diet (he had lost 3 stone) big time - having a takeaway 3 nights (and on one night after he had just eaten the meal I cooked!) and is eating through the house ...... he reckons I'm pg and he's coming out with the symptoms . . . . .. . :rotfl:

Oh well only another 7 days til testing (on CD30/36, 7DPO) to see if he's right! LOL

elastigirl

Well i am on my 2ww now but i don't hold out much hope as dh was away when i ov.

Great story FFP glad it all worked out for you. My brother and sil were told that they wudn't be able to concieve as both had problems so they were offered IVF but the day before they were due to start they found out they were expecting. My neiece is now 4 months old.