Complicated pregnancy - what are the fathers rights and what should I do?

Mojisola

inarightbigmess wrote: »

I'm on loads of medication, don't know if they'll have harmed the baby

For this reason alone, you should be talking to a GP asap.

inarightbigmess

I don't think it'll be that difficult to conceal the pregnancy, I am incredibly overweight so they'll just think I've got a bit fatter.

I'll suggest counselling when Husband gets home. Hopefully we can work something out.

inarightbigmess

Mojisola wrote: »

For this reason alone, you should be talking to a GP asap.

I spoke to the pharmacist, and have stopped one medication immediately. The other three, its a question of risk vs benefit and only my specialist can decide. Luckily my quaterly appointment is on Tuesday. I'm inclined to stop taking anything, but will leave it to the Pyschiatrist.

AnnieM_3

I'd advise to keep taking your medication until you speak to the psychiatrist.

I hope it's congratulations to you, and that you and your husband can get through this together

x

Nicki

inarightbigmess wrote: »

Assuming I am 4-6 weeks, what do I do? What do I avoid doing? I've never been pregnant before.

Start taking folic acid immediately. Stop smoking if you do, and either stop drinking alcohol or cut back to only 1-2 units per week. Don't take any recreational drugs and speak to your doctor as soon as you can about your prescribed ones.

Otherwise try to eat healthily and take good care of yourself.

N

MrsTinks

inarightbigmess wrote: »

I don't think it'll be that difficult to conceal the pregnancy, I am incredibly overweight so they'll just think I've got a bit fatter.

I'll suggest counselling when Husband gets home. Hopefully we can work something out.

Don't bet on being overweight hiding it even if you are VERY overweight. Another problem would be that being as you put it incredibly overweight already puts a huge strain on your body - adding a baby to it might cause medical complications as they too are a huge strain on your body.
do NOT stop taking any prescribed medication without consulting your GP! This is VERY important! Only a GP can tell you if stopping medication can affect you or the babys health.
If these are psyciatric (excuse spelling) drugs do you mind if I ask what they are for? You don't have to answer obviously - I can't give you any medical advice regardless but it might help us answer general questions. I am guessing some are for depression bearing in mind your replies about using sex as a bandaid in an earlier post.

Pssst

inarightbigmess wrote: »

He was alright about the affair. I thought that was the end of it, I thought that we'd just be able to get on and work things out. Now this.

There is a chance the baby is his. If it is (he does want DNA test) then there is no problem.

If it isn't, he wouldn't be able to raise it he says. Is he unlikely to change his mind?

A couple of issues spring to mind.
(1) Why did you feel the need to tell your husband that you were pregnant possibly by another man that you had had a dalliance with?

(2) Was it just a one nighter or something more involved? Does the other man know and if so,whats his take on it?

IMHO if i were your hubby,i would not want to live with a constant reminder of this period in your life and therefore if it turned out it was the other guys,i'd be off. In fact,id probably be off anyway unless there were some very good reasons not to.

So why hasnt your hubby done one already? Have you spoken to him?

May i make a suggestion? I'd suggest that your hubby goes away for a night and stays somewhere else to be on his own. He can then gather his thoughts and he must then write down clearly and truthflly what his thoughts,feelings,wishes and plans are for dealing with this situation.

Whilst hes away,you can do the same.

You can then swap notes and you will both hopefully be clearly in the picture.

This cuts down on any close up emotional involvement which might otherwise skew the process.

lottylouj

from the fact that you went with another man i wouldnt say that your relationship with your partner is right to be bringing another life into the world whoever the father may be. the last thing you would want surely is for the baby to grow up feeling resented.

just my opinion

foxxymynx

inarightbigmess wrote: »

Situ - I think I'm pregnant. Could be partners, could be another guys.

Partner won't raise another mans baby.

When will I have a dating scan? When can I have a DNA test?

Does the father have to know if I'm having the baby adopted?

dating scan is 12-13 weeks.
DNA test after baby is born.

barjam_2

oh dear i dont envy you.. tricky situtation i would just like to say that if things lead to you giving the baby up for adoption because your husband couldn't bring up someone else baby...whats to say further down the line you and hubby split up..... i must be devastating for him if the baby isn't his but remember the baby is yours too.....its part of you, i hope everything all works out for you