Pregnancy

Savvy_Sue

Cullumpster wrote:

I thought that she would at least have taken another test to see if i am actually preganant, i mean i know i am but how does she

I've been pregnant four times and NEVER taken a pregnancy test. No, tell a lie, I might have done once when I thought I was pregnant and hoped desperately I wasn't. But it was a GP test in those days. Oh, and I've probably had one pre-surgery, they like to know about that kind of thing before they anaesthetise you!

Anyway, first time I actually was pregnant, went to see GP with DH, and said "I think I'm pregnant," and he looked at me and said "Yes you are, I can see it in your eyes" and that was that. Well, he told me to make midwife appointment and that he didn't do antenatal care these days as he was too old for all this middle of the night stuff, so he would also transfer me to one of the other GPs (who was equally lovely).

So CONGRATULATIONS and sorry your GP was such a - well, we don't use that kind of language here, do we? Hopefully you won't have to see her very often, if ever again, the midwives are usually much better. And as for shouting at you, what's the point of that? If you've not yet taken folic acid, how does shouting at you help? You'll know next time.

But I do agree with Poppy about the smoking. I wouldn't dream of shouting at you, but get help and quit now! OH should do so as well. Please! Best start you could possibly give your kids is a smoke free environment.

HappySad

Cullumpster wrote:

It's probably just me then, i suppose as i was so excited about it i expect everyone else to be, but i suppose they get the same thing day in day out so they get bored with it

Others will be happy for you but no one will be as absolultely over the moon as if you have won the lottery as yourself and your partner. And just wait when you have the baby you happiness will be so much more.

I remember seeing a neighbour who had just had her second child & I noticed how over happy she looked. Then 4months later I was just like her smiling at absolutely everyone just after I had my son.

jo_b_2

rchddap1 wrote:

I know someone who was simply asked which test she had taken...the response....right we'd better book you in for a scan then. THey didn't do another pregnancy test, just believed and booked her in. A lot of these home kit tests are very reliable.

Most GPs don't offer pregnancy tests now. I wasn't offered one. I was just told that the home tests are as accurate as those used by the GP and if I'd had a positive result then I was definitely pregnant.

Have to admit that I was a bit nervous when I had my first scan because I wasn't showing at all and hadn't had any symptoms such as morning sickness or anything. I was convinced that there would be nothing there at the scan.

The booking in appointment with the midwife is more exciting than the GP appointment. The pregnancy starts to feel a bit more real then!

Good luck to all who are pregnant or planning babies.

Penny-Pincher!!

Morning

Congratulations!!

The way your GP acted sounds quite typical. My sister had the same kind of thing 3 years ago, she was smoking etc but had cut down similar to you. She did manage to stop in about 4 weeks though of finding out she was pregnant, which although was not ideal was still excellent! I wish you luck in quitting, its difficult but needed for the babies sake.

*Sigh* Id love to have another baby. My DD has just turned 11, have had numerous miscarriages due to the Lupus and really dont think Im well enough to have another. My cut off age for kids has always been no later than 33 and im 31. I know it would be well loved and looked after but ....I dont know Any advice?? I struggle on a daily basis and my OH is my carer but there must be alot of disabled/ill people that still have children maybe im just being selfish.

Well done anyway.

PP
xx

jellyhead

how does your husband feel about you having another child?

Penny-Pincher!!

He's fine about it, but does worry about me. I really dont think im well enough ATM but would love to have another. Theres also the big age gap between them if I have another.

PP
xx

jellyhead

so far a 9 year age gap between my children has worked fine. probably best to wait until you're in better health though *HUGS*

sammy115

when i was trying to get pg i joined https://www.ivillage.co.uk trying for a baby message board. Very much like here but you get a baby at the end of it. Also joined https://www.fertilityfriend.com an American site that enables you to chart your cycle.

Another website http://www.pregnancyloss.info/sperm_meets_egg_plan.htm may be useful. you can get cheap but good ovulation sticks and pregnancy tests off ebay.
HTH

lynneinjapan

Lillibet wrote:

the ovulation 14 days before your period thing is a complete myth, every woman is different

HTH;)

True, but it's fine as a rough guide when you're just starting to try and if you have a fairly average cycle. It worked for me, I got pregnant the second month of trying.

Cullumpster, I'm due 16th Aug, so just a few days after you! Will probably be late, though, if my family history is anything to go by!

The doctor was a bit patronising with me too, but nowhere near as bad as your one. First she said "I thought that was what it'd be" (because the last time I'd been in had been to discuss coming off the pill) and then "Well done". I felt a bit like a six-year-old being patted on the head. Then she got her disc out and looked up my due date and said "That child is not going to thank you when it starts school!" She didn't do another test (I had taken the pee stick in to show her), but she did give me helpful advice about morning sickness, tiredness, thirst etc. After that I was passed on to the community midwife, who got in touch a couple of weeks later and is very nice. The first time a medical person actually confirmed my pregnancy was when I went for a 12-week scan.

lynneinjapan

Jay-Jay wrote:

Philidalphia and Dairylea are fine. It's unpastuerized cheeses that are off limits for now due to salmonella risks. Also Liver/pate as they contain vitamin e which isn't good for unborn baby. You're also advised to avoid shellfish (slamonella again) raw eggs and limit your intake of tuna (due to mercury levels).

I thought it was Vitamin A that was in liver products. Either way, they are definitely to be avoided. And shop-bought mayo, made with pasteurised eggs (or no eggs at all?) is fine, but home-made is dodgy.

Babyworld.co.uk is another good site for information. I may see you there in the "Due in August" antenatal club!