MSE Parent Club - Part 2

r.mac_2

feelinggood wrote: »

I'm sorry you are finding things diffocult. It is hard to think with our sensible heads and not our emotional heads isn't it? Keep trying to think about yourself how you'd think about someone else. You are doing a great job. I actually find I can express more when I sit there saying "I'm a good Mummy" and "I have a happy baby". Maybe you can try to tell yourself similar things? They are true after all!

Also, my hospital will sit down and go overyour birthing experience with you. Would you feel better talking it through? Maybe get some answers to why they did some things and why they didn't do others?

thanks feelie - you are right. And I will try that when I am expressing. I have a medela swing pump which I find better than the tommee tippee hand pump which has helped.

the birth experience session might be useful (I didn't get to see my LO for almost 12hrs after she was born and I think that is still playing on my mind too) My rational head understands why they did what they did and I wouldn't have changed the actual birth bit but the aftercare in the community wasn't as helpful as it could have been.

Oh and BTW feelie - i think you are doing brilliantly with all your expressing - it's such hard work. I think we deserve a group hug xxxx (and a gentle kick up the backside to stop me from feeling sorry for myself!):beer:

r.mac_2

I promise this is mse related! Does anyone know if there are digital thermometers in the asda baby event????

Lu_T

Not sure, but they do have them in the Asda Direct catalogue at a reasonable price.

Millie's_Mum

RMac, I'd second the suggestion about talking to the hospital about the birth.

I didn't get any answers when I asked my doctor not long after millie was born, and I didn't actually find out the (full) reasons for my emergency section until I saw the consultant about this pregnancy, as you said I didn't think it was still bothering me but I felt like a weight had been lifted once I'd gone through it with the consultant, but I wouldn't recommend leaving it 5 years like I did.

Sami_Bee

r.mac wrote: »

I will look for the tea (don't care how much it costs sami - not very mse I know!) I am taking pregnacare breast feeding vits and omega-3 oils etc and iron tablets by the bucketload ...

The place I saw them was here http://www.mumstuff.co.uk/acatalog/Earth-Mama-Angel-Baby-Milkmaid-Tea.html
I'm sure they would be cheaper else where.
I have in my cupboard RLT and Fennel tea both of which are ingredients, I plan on drinking both after the birth (RLT for getting my uterus back in shape and fennel coz I like it) but hopefully they will help with me milk too

Sami_Bee

r.mac wrote: »

I promise this is mse related! Does anyone know if there are digital thermometers in the asda baby event????

I'm pretty sure there aren't any in the event but I have this one http://www.amazon.co.uk/Braun-4520-Thermoscan-Thermometer-66022780/dp/B0001D0LMS/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=drugstore&qid=1241694639&sr=8-1
I've had no probs with it (and I tried about 6 different types before I got that one )
I remeber it was cheapest in tesco but constantly out of stock so I got it off amazon in the end

My_Fathers_Daughter

oh jeez mcsmiler, I had completely forgotten about the formula top-ups, sorry I am sure if I open my mouth a little wider I can fit the other foot in too


I can't offer anything but ((HUGS)) and say that when I am trying to build up a store I try to express little and often, either by freezing little bits (an ounce or two here and there) or by adding to a bottle in the fridge (I only do this for an afternoon or so).

I have the medela swing and the tt hand pump and find that swapping between the two yields a bit more sometimes.

r.mac_2

MFD - it was not your fault - so don't feel bad. I'm having a bad day sparked off by last nights rant at hubby! LO finally went to sleep but awoke again. I settled her and put her back down and had to make a phone call (it was a bout 10 mins long) she awoke as the call was answered and cried - moany cries, not screaming ones, anyway, I felt awful but had to continue the call. when I went to check on her when I had finished she suddenly stopped and she had cried herself to sleep! I feel awful and now I'm crying again!!! I know it must just be hormones but I feel like I'm ready to explode. It's a constant job and I actually think my little girl is a good baby! Think I need to ask someone for some help -just a couple of hours to myself.....

can anyone give me any strategies or tips they use when they feel like this?

My_Fathers_Daughter

My MIL is coming this afternoon and I am going to the hairdressers

My MIL loves Benjamin to bits and wants to help loads so I have every intention of letting her. I made the appointment yesterday after a few days doing the 'putting him down and him waking up' dance.


I really admire people who do this without help.

r.mac_2

that sounds like a good tip MFD. Sorry for being moany - what would I do without you lot!

I agree - I ahve a real admiration for all mummies these days