MSE Parent Club - Part 2

ladybirdintheuk

Re breastfeeding article - the bit that made me laugh was that we're breastfeeding, and already on about the 85th centile - I think Izzy will be one of the ones that ends up being marked as obese on the new chart, but seeing as she's only getting boobie milk I don't see how she could be? Never mind... I'm sure I will get told at the clinic if her weight is a problem.

Feelie - you're doing a great job. Lucky baby you have there

Bedtime routine - I was trying to bring bedtime forward and once we got into a routine it worked. Times are reasonably flexible, but we do bath about half six, then massage and then get her dressed and into her sleeping bag. Then she sits with daddy for a play for a little while and when she starts getting grumpy I take her off into her bedroom and feed until she goes to sleep. (Sometimes she wakes up again 10-15 mins later if she has fallen asleep before she is properly full up, but another feed does the trick). I will tackle "putting baby down awake" at a later date. She normally sleeps for about 7 hours or so then goes back down through till morning. (Although morning is a variable time!) We've had a few longer sleeps, but it always ends up being a one off.

It seems to be getting into her sleepign bag that is the real trigger that we're going to bed soon - if I put her into it at someone else's house and then take her off into a darkened room for a feed I can put her down on the bed and pick her up later on to take her home. (Will have to be more careful with this once she is rolling though!)

Anyway, bath time now!

redmel1621

Hi All

I have forgotten most of what I was going to so sorry if I miss someone out.

Feelie - It is so good to hear from you, you are doing a fab job:)

Toby and Benjamin are gorgeous:D

MFD - The clothes were from Asda, that jacket is actually 3-6mths as it was the last one they had and I loved it so just had to have it....I also stay away from baby blue, did with both my other two boys too.......

We nearly always have the same meals and I don't stand for fussy kids.... If it is on their plate they have to eat it. If it is something I know they absolutely hate, like mushrooms, I will avoid putting 'too' many in the meal. The main exception is when me and dh have a curry hotter than a korma - as they love korma, they also loooove fajitas:)

AM - I don't think it is too early to introduce a bedtime routine, but don't worry about it being too strictly adhered to at first, so you are introducing it gently and gradually iykwim!!

Mel x

Lu_T

Evening all.

Sami - Imogen's had fajitas and really enjoyed them. She did mostly eat the tortilla then pick at the chicken, but she enjoyed rolling it up and choosing what to put on it. I have a rule that she eats what's put in front of her or waits until the next meal/snack time. Mean mummy, but it does mean she'll eat pretty much anything.

She went through a phase (about 6 months) of not liking pasta, but I still cooked it and put it in front of her - although less often than usual, I didn't want her starving! We eventually got round it by having macaroni, lasagne and cannelloni and not saying the P word. Now she devours it and declares how much she "loves pasta!" whenever we have it. Speaking of, DH's downstairs cooking us spring veg pasta and it smells yum!

Feelie - you are amazing. hang on in there and keep doing what you're doing. Whoever said that all a baby needs is love and cuddles is right.

AM - try talking to your friend and keep talking. It may take a while before there's a breakthrough, but she'll need you to be there for her. Can you talk to her OH (ring when she's out at an M&B club or something) to let him know you're concerned?

Tomorrow's interview has been called off, so I do get my (well-deserved) lie-in. :T:T

We had Imogen in a bedtime routine from around 6 weeks. I'll do it differently with the new baby though and start later - 9-10pm - and bring it forward, rather than starting at 6.30-7 and then trying to push the 2/3am feed back. Imogen didn't sleep through until 16 weeks but was always a good weight (can't find her red book so can't check). it really is about their little tummies getting big enough to take in enough milk to keep them full, so don't rush it.

I know it feels like forever when you're up at least once a night, but it actually passes in a blink of an eye and you'll soon be wondering where the time went.:rolleyes:

Dormouse

feelinggood wrote: »

My Mum managed to talk me out of that When I arrived at her house, I was convinced it'd be the best thing to do. Part of me still thinks it'd be for the best, but I'm going to the best I can, and hopefully that'll be good enough.

*Big hugs* Of course it wouldn't be for the best! You're doing so well, I wish you would realise just how great a mum you are!

Those first few weeks as a first-time mum were definitely the hardest time ever for me - and I never had PND! It's hard, but it will get easier - honest.

chocaholic110

3onitsway wrote: »

I was telling DD (8 1/2) that shes getting a big girl now and shouldn't be running around the house naked, and that she'll be a lady soon, and its not a ladylike thing to do! :eek: She said "oh great, i'll get boobies and i'll be able to feed Violet too" - I think i'll need to explain some basics too her.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Toby and Benjamin are gorgeous! We certainly have some good looking babies on this thread!

Food - everyone just gets the same in our house. I am far too lazy, erm busy to cook separately. I'm lucky that none of us are fussy eaters. The kids eat loads and only really turn their noses up at baked beans (DS) and bananas (DD). Tom eats pretty much everything though he did refuse kiwi fruit this week. Despite the fact that they're all good eaters though DS and DD are skinny as rakes and Tom is still only in 6-9 month clothes at almost 16 months old. I think they inherited their dad's metabolism, not mine, thank goodness!

Feelie, you're doing fab! It took me ages to get myself pulled together. I don't even think I went anywhere by myself until Tom was about 7 weeks old (though in my defence I was in hospital poorly for the first week and also I live in a little village with no facilities and I couldn't drive for 6 weeks after my caesarian)

Becles

astonsmummy wrote: »

Also, what age can I start introducing a bedtime routine? I want to start now but is it too early?

I started mine the day I came home from hospital It's never too late or too early - just go with what feels right for you.

3onitsway wrote: »

I don't think it helps that mines not a mummy, so when she speaks, it sounds like she's reading from a text book rather than from real life! And the text books and real life are very different! :mad:

I find that with teachers too. James teacher is childless and thinks at 10 he should be more responsible and be able to remember he needs PE kit/homework/library book. However the deputy head is mother to two teenage boys and she sympathises and agrees boys are hopeless at remembering things!

feelinggood wrote: »

We just managed a shower, hair wash, full outfit change and trip out! Whole mile into town, doctors appointment, pharmacy and supermarke, then walk home. Knackered!

Yay - well done! And well done for continuing with the breast feeding. You're doing brilliantly :cool:

Food: everyone gets the same here too. Even from first weaning foods, Charlotte has had whatever we are having, even spicy foods. Sometimes the boys complain that food is too spicy, and she clears her plate :rotfl:

ladybirdintheuk

Becles wrote: »

I find that with teachers too. James teacher is childless and thinks at 10 he should be more responsible and be able to remember he needs PE kit/homework/library book. However the deputy head is mother to two teenage boys and she sympathises and agrees boys are hopeless at remembering things!

I don't have teenage boys, but i'm married to a grown man, does that count ... mind you I can be as bad, so I shouldn't talk too loud!

Sami_Bee

well thought I'd report back, Chris ate about half of his fajitas :T
he wasn't too keen on the re-fried beans (which I was expecting) so next time I'll leave them out, he ate almost all the chicken (in his words; mmm meat!!) and he ate all the left over peppers too - he LOVES peppers and lettuce too.
He was obviously bit hungry afterwards though because he had 2 bottles of milk before bed!! I'm off to bed myself now but think I may change his nappy first otherwise he'll be up at 5am soaked through! *fingers crossed he doesn't fully wake up*

emlou2009

i'm scared, OH has taken it upon himself to go and do the big shop at tesco... he'll be spending twice as much as i do and we'll be living on beer and burgers, joy!!

ladybirdintheuk

emlou2009 wrote: »

i'm scared, OH has taken it upon himself to go and do the big shop at tesco... he'll be spending twice as much as i do and we'll be living on beer and burgers, joy!!

Ha. did you give him a list? We always end up with tons of biccies and things when DH comes with me - he sneaks them in when I'm not looking like a toddler!

Oh and where in Hampshire are you? Anywhere near us?