MSE Parent Club - Part 2

My_Fathers_Daughter

LOL emlou!! Benjamin had me up twice in the night last night for the first time in ages :rolleyes: I hope that it was a one off, I look rough today because of it!

Benjamin screamed his head off for the whole of his 6 week check. He has put on a full pound and has grown 2cm in the last 2 weeks!!

We are just enjoying the new Duke Special cd...Benjsmin approves of mummy's taste. They were on a kids programme the other day, did anyone see?

Sami_Bee

nadnad wrote: »

well i cook separately for the baby and for us, but thats more to do with the fact that Oz has his dinner at 5pm and we have ours at 7.30pm. Its annoying but we get baby ready for bed from 6.30pm and OH doesnt get home til after 6pm so we couldnt really eat together unless Oz was going to bed on a full stomach. also we eat mainly stir fries with noodles and hot food - home made curries, chilli etc and i know you can feed a baby and I prob should start him on "our food" but to be honest i've been a bit lazy!

Nad I did the same until quite recently it was only over this last Christmas when we spent lots of time at other people's houses having meat n 2 veg that I thought I need to stop so Chris was 23mths before he started eating with us.
His fave meal is sweet chilli chicken noodles - he likes them hotter than I do
I'm doing fajitas tonight and just wondering if I should have something on stand by for Chris coz he's not had them before :undecided

Susan - I picked up on the same comment on the BFing article, it took them almost 20yrs to realise!

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Also Emlou and MFD, i was thinking whilst changing our bed sheets (like you do) that I remembered a Tesco parenting magazine i'd read. It said its around the 14lb mark approx that a baby has anough weight/fat on it to be able to sleep through. Unsure of their weights, but Miss Molly Little Knickers was certainly that quite quickly on!!!

She's over 25lbs now and 14 months! Petit my daughter is not, but i've been firmly told by my friends (in surprise as well) that its muscle not fat. Well i'd say she is chubbier than jack has ever been and well built and in a few months the baby weight will run off. Apart from her trousers she's been in 18-24 clothes since about 12 months as she's tall too. She was in 9-12m clothes at 5m old. I think she's going to take after my DH father who was 6'5" in his prime.

Anyway i digress, i must get my little lady up she's had 4 hours sleep this afternoon (late night last night) and i do want her to bed by 7.30 this evening!

Sami_Bee

AM - try to talk to your friend and assure here that if she seeks help that is exactly what she will get - help
My friend had bad PND she even at one point started talking about having her son adopted :eek: her HV sorted her out with counselling and anti-d's there was no involvement from SS and never any talk of taking her bubs away from her xx

feelinggood_2

Sami_Bee wrote: »

AM - try to talk to your friend and assure here that if she seeks help that is exactly what she will get - help
My friend had bad PND she even at one point started talking about having her son adopted :eek: her HV sorted her out with counselling and anti-d's there was no involvement from SS and never any talk of taking her bubs away from her xx

My Mum managed to talk me out of that When I arrived at her house, I was convinced it'd be the best thing to do. Part of me still thinks it'd be for the best, but I'm going to the best I can, and hopefully that'll be good enough.

Sami_Bee

oh feelie! :kisses3:
I'm sure you are doing a fantastic job! I know I couldn't have persevered so much with feeding like you have I bow down to you! xx

I'm sure you're giving him all he needs right now, what more can a baby wish for than milk in tummy, clean nappy, warm bed and lots of cuddles.

3onitsway

feelinggood wrote: »

We just managed a shower, hair wash, full outfit change and trip out! Whole mile into town, doctors appointment, pharmacy and supermarke, then walk home. Knackered!

:T:T Well done! I was really proud of myself the first time I managed to get us both looking presentable and out for a walk to the shops!! :T:T

nadnad

re routines: -Oz has had a bedtime routine since about 7 or 8 weeks i think -its the same one as now - bath and bed time around 6.30pm -7pm - however he's 11 months now and still wakes in the night - the odd night he sleeps through but mostly he's up once. Its nice to have your evenings to yourself! A bit of "me" time does wonders.

Feeli - i have to say that you are AMAZING!! breast feeding is hard enough but for you to be expressing all this time and persevering is fantastic, that has to be much more difficult - mentally and physically than just breast feeding. You are doing a fantastic job and are giving your gorgeous baby the very best thing in the world. :T:T:T

We are still dosed with the cold and Oz is very grouchy - he's in the living room moaning and groaning to himself - somehow he's worse when i'm with him, theres no consoling him and he just won't be amused, so i've left him alone a little while.

I STILL can't decide what to do with my life post baby!! I was offered a job but it wouldnt start for a while and i dont know if i'm interested. I'm looking every week for something that grabs me. I'm debating becoming a childminder, and am still thinking of retraining in counselling or something like that. I'm going round and round and round in circles, and time is ticking on and I dont want to be doing nothing for much longer. aaaaagh. tis difficult.

SusanC_2

nadnad wrote: »

Feeli - i have to say that you are AMAZING!! breast feeding is hard enough but for you to be expressing all this time and persevering is fantastic, that has to be much more difficult - mentally and physically than just breast feeding. You are doing a fantastic job and are giving your gorgeous baby the very best thing in the world. :T:T:T

I agree. :T

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Sorry i've been skimming and missed the bad PND bit. Please do try to talk to your friend its very important, at worst she could try suicide.

I posted about my experiences last year with Molly and i tried that twice, luckily the police and circumstances prevailed but I was extremely close to it. Now I look back and feel ashamed, but recognise i was ill and nothing i could do about it. Given time she will love her child and not regret having him but for now if she's getting worse she needs help and quick. AD's are great. My hubbie was signed off for 11 weeks after molly was born to care for us all until I was stable and look after the kids by myself. Its hormones and change that does it. Some manage but if there's history of depresion already then she really does need help.

Also my HV came to visit me at home every month until molly was 13 months to check on us all and she was fantastic. Now its an adhoc basis.

There is light but the sooner the better.