MSE Parent Club - Part 2

Savvy_Sue

cazscoob wrote: »

i have a happy baby today:D these smiles are great lol!!

can i ask if anyone has been steralised? i was due to get done last year but had a suprise -erin- have got app tom to discuss this new procedure that they are doing and i could have it done 1st week in june. i know i dont want any more kids but am bit worried about it all?

I have, but so long ago that any 'new' procedures would be after my time ...

I've never regretted it. Had to have a general anaesthetic, and that meant an unplanned night in hospital, because I couldn't stop throwing up afterwards. DH went home and got baby (9 months old by then) because I was still feeding.

Does that help?

nadnad

cazscoob wrote: »

i have a happy baby today:D these smiles are great lol!!

can i ask if anyone has been steralised? i was due to get done last year but had a suprise -erin- have got app tom to discuss this new procedure that they are doing and i could have it done 1st week in june. i know i dont want any more kids but am bit worried about it all?

my words of advice would go like this "get your man to do his bits"!! you've been through enough with 5 kids!!

sorry that wasnt really useful at all

SusanC_2

feelinggood wrote: »

One more quick question.

I'd really like to talk to someone about my options with feeding, whether it is right for me to express, if I should try harder with breastfeeding or if I should switch to formula.

Its all quite complicated and complex, there are a lot of other issues going on.

Any ideas who I can talk to, to make sure I'm making the right choice for me and the baby?

Hi Feelinggood - I haven't read back through all the posts so don't know all the details and obviously everyone's situation is different but just wanted to say a few things which might be useful:

I found breastfeeding very painful for about the first month. Two things kept me going - one was that we were due to go camping at three months so BF would be more practical and the other was telling myself that I only had to do it till four months. (I picked four months because it's the earliest you're supposed to wean and ignored the fact that they change over gradually not instantly - you maight want to pick a shorter target and then extend it when you get there.) It wasn't until about two months that I felt like I would be able to keep going indefinitely.

I'm a member of the ABM's yahoo group called "chatABM". (I've found a link: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/chatabm/) There are lotsof people there who have had problems with breastfeeding so you would be able to find support from people who have beenin similar situations. There is one lady there who almost 100% expressed for her son because he couldn't suckle very well due to Down's syndrome. She has a website about pumping which may be useful:
http://uk.geocities.com/leonorasamuel/pumpingforyourbaby

Any amount of breastmilk is beneficial so if you gave up trying to breastfeed completely and switched to formula, expressing say once a day and giving it to your baby while the supply lasted would still give benefits. Also even if you switched completely to formula the breastmilk given so far still has lasting benefits - it is not cancelled out by switching to formula.

Hope some of that is helpful.

My_Fathers_Daughter

Hello ladies!

MFD reporting for duty: revived from a lovely dinner out with her hubby last night followed by a morning at breastfeeding group and a 45 minute brisk walk to clinic

One growing baby fed and asleep in his pram - 5 1/2 weeks, 11lb 6oz and 58cm tall

MIL came over last night about half 6, asked exactly how I wanted things doing and set her partner at work mowing the lawn

I defrosted 8oz of my hard-earned expressed breastmilk (that's 4 days worth!!) and left it in a bottle for Benjamin when we went out at 7.15pm. We went out, had a beautiful italian and a quick drink in the pub afterwards and we came home at 10pm to find that Benjamin had been asleep the whole time (with MIL cuddling him) and my precious breastmilk was still on the side untouched...I could have cried.

So 4 days of expressing went down the sink

Of course I am very happy that Benjamin didn't miss me, and I loved my few hours of freedom, but what a waste - normally he would feed twice between 7.15pm and 10pm - little b00ger :rolleyes:

My_Fathers_Daughter

Feelie - there was a girl at breastfeeding group this morning that is in a similar situation...her little boy is 3 weeks. She is expressing as much as she can and is putting him to the breast 4 times a day for 30 minutes each time (it seems he is not taking anything in this time). She was very philosophical about it and said at least he is getting the breastmilk somehow and that maybe one day it might just click for him and she will be ready to feed him if it does. If not, at least she knows that she has tried her very best.

Wise words...

emlou2009

i'm so proud of my little man today! we went shopping in town for a couple of hours and he was awake the whole time but didnt cry and i didnt have to give him his dummy either, and then we went for a walk before we came home and he was still lovely and we've come home and he is in such a good mood i've put him on his baby gym and he's happily bashing away at the toys, grinning away and chatting to himself! the bashing might be coincidence but he is having a good look around and looking very pleased with himself. he's always been so clingy he screams as soon as he isnt being cuddled so this is real progress! :T

r.mac_2

Hello - I'm still alive, just not posted much. I'm too busy out and about pram-pushing in this nice weather

LO is 11wks on Friday and weighs 12lbs! She now sleeps for 6hrs straight at night, which is great and at the weekend moved from the moses basket to the cot. I was apprehensive as it's too big for our room, which means she's in her nursery now, but the baby monitor works a treat and she's much happier having room in the cot to wriggle about in

MFD - dinner sounded fabulous. I'm hoping that my hubby and I will get a chance to get out soon too. It's the hard decision of who to ask to babysit - both parents live quite far away and I'm not sure which friends would be best!

Feelie - please don't stress yourself out with feeding worries. I have gone through feeding issues too and know how you feel. My problem is creating enough milk. I'm severely aneamic and lots of other factors mean that only now is my milk supply improving and slowly at that! I have been topping up with formula and it's caused me lots of emotional issues - I've felt like I was failing, then that I must just be being lazy (no actual latching problems or pain, just not producing enough so I couldn't understand why this wasn't happening), wondering what others must think of me (not helped by a very pushy health visitor). Anyway - now we have breast feeds and formula feeds. I top up with formula when I need to, and sometimes I surprise myself with the milk I can produce. I'm getting there with my feelings on it all - it wasn't my fault that I ended up in surgery, nor my fault that the hospital didn't give me a transfusion, so it's not my fault I'm aneamic and I am doing everything I can - pumping to up my supply, feeding as much by breast as possible, eating and drinking well and making sure my gorgeous girl gets enough to eat by topping her up with formula. And that's what counts.....she's healthy and I am healthy. All you can do is your best - not what's right for anyone else, but what's right for you and your baby.

My sister gets married this weekend so we are off for the pre-wedding celebrations tomorrow morning. I seem to be taking a huge amount of things with me for baby and probably won't need half of it, but feel the need to be prepared for all eventualities I'm hoping that one of ur relatives likes the baby enough to cuddle her while I do some Ceilidhing

chocaholic110

Urgh, what a day! It started so well, I had an unexpected day off work (did a course on Sat so got a day in lieu!) I was up, showered and dressed (in real clothes not trackie bottoms)and by 9.30 Tom and I had hung washing out, filled the dishwasher and set in away, put washing in, vaccuumed the floors, washed the living room floor, wiped the surfaces down and cleared all the junk off the kitchen table. Thought I was going to have an excellent day as Tom was in a fab mood and happy to potter alongside or "help" with the jobs. At 9.30ish he began to show signs of tiredness tried to put him to bed, but he clung and sobbed... and spent the rest of the day clinging and sobbing, really big racking sobs with a really sad face My sister came and tried to take him and he clung harder. My sleeve was wet from shoulder to elbow with his tears. Even when he finally got to sleep he was jumpy and unsettled and the bloomin' world and his dog has telephoned or knocked at the door and disturbed him everytime he was almost asleep.

Anyway, about an hour ago he had the biggest, dirtiest nappy and since then has been fine so I can only assume he's had a poorly tummy, poor baby as he's quite happily playing in the sandpit now with DD and my nieces.

On a brighter note, my swimdress came and it's fab! Thanks sami_bee! Though I will still stick to my rule of only wearing a swimsuit in a foreign country - it's not THAT fab!

r.mac_2

a quick question - on a couple of evenings recently LO has had what seems to be a sore tummy. Lots of wind and gurning - I don't think it's colic as not a regular enough occurance - more like a bit of constipation as normally followed by a stinker of a nappy! At 11wks can I try a little cooled boiled water to help?

Fritha_2

r mac, I've had that sometimes when I've eaten something that disagreed with herself! Caffiene and a really spicy curry being the main contenders!