MSE Parent Club - Part 2

SeptemberBaby_2

ella_ella_ella wrote: »

I can see why you are peeved with them treating your children differently but they gave Poppy and her cousin the same gift which seems to suggest that as Jamie is only a few months old he got the beach towel so he wasnt left out IYSWIM.

Sorry I wrote James earlier!

I feel better for writing it down and know Jamie couldn't give a hoot but I just never expected it. And I am extremely grateful as they bought Poppy far more than was necessary. I guess its just the first 'event' since Jamie was born so it was more obvious.

I think I'm over it now! :rotfl:

xx

redmel1621

SB - I also think (hope) it is an age thing. Although I had the opposite problem!

My two older ones got easter eggs off their grandad, but he bought Kai a (quite large) teddy bear, now it is a lovely thought, but really that meant that more money was spent on Kai than the older two. Also the eggs were eaten in about 5 mins flat whereas Kai has got something that will still be knocking around in years to come.

My mum also phoned and said she would be delayed visiting as she wanted to nip to town to buy an outfit for Kai as he couldn't have an egg. I told her not to bother, again I see it as unfair that the older two get a bit of cheap chocolate and the baby gets a decent gift!

Next year though I would expect them all to get the same...

Mel x

I am also VERY broody!!!!!

tsstss7

- re easter pressies I guess I'm completely different as my mum hasn't got around to buying LO an Easter pressie and I told her not to bother.

As far as I'm concerned the money is better spent on ds1 who will appreciate a pressie more than DS2. He of course will willingly eat LOADS of chocolate (but mummy helps him out there) but really doesn't need it and to be honest he has way too many toys already as we have hand me downs from ds1 (I'm a bit of a hoarder lol) so even an easter pressie isn't that welcome (although I never said that I can be tactful sometimes).

SB and Redmel I imagine your respective rellies were trying to buy the most appropriate gift for each child rather than thinking about keeping things fair. A towel sounds very useful but bit of a strange easter pressie though ..I suppose it had a piccy of a bunny on it or something?

Sami_Bee

ooh lots of posts today!
We did baby sign at surestart, I didn't bother going back for the toddler class tho coz I didn't take to the teacher and it got a bit confusing because Chris loves Mr Tumble and the class wasn't makaton it was another sign lang :rolleyes: Chris still does some signs but I wasn't very good at remembering to use them we like makaton better also because my mum knows if as she uses it for a lil boy at her school who has downs

Am I the only one that hates present giving occasions now they have children??
I hate that we get lots of stuff that I don't like/want/need but feel obliged to keep because it was a gift I know that sounds ungrateful but if I buy a gift I like to make sure its appropriate but obviously my family don't do that :rolleyes: 'kissy nanny' always buys toys that are for a child at least a yr older than Chris is or some vile outfit that looks like its from the 70's
other nanny get something from a really cheap shop that I usually don't let Chris play with because it looks cheap and or doesn't have a kite mark and then theres the ones who always buy something for him to 'grow into' He only just fits in clothes for his age now so theres no chance he'll ever fit a winter coast bought to grow into actually in winter - it'll fit perfectly mid summer when its useless

Sorry just annoys me! I'm soo bah humbug about these things

chocaholic110

My Dad asked my older two whether they wanted an Egg or money for Easter. DD asked for an egg and got one of the ones being sold for a pound (as did Tom but erm... I accidently ate his); DS asked for money, received a fiver, bought an egg for a pound and pocketed the rest. The boy wil go far!

It probably wouldn't have bothered me if relatives hadn't made my children the same - we didn't ourselves as Tom's present wasn't as much financially as the other two, but he doesn't know and was quite happy with what he got. He's a baby; he doesn't know any different! We didn't get him much for Christmas either but he wasn't aware of the fact. Maybe I'm just mean!

Sami_Bee

chocaholic110 wrote: »

My Dad asked my older two whether they wanted an Egg or money for Easter. DD asked for an egg and got one of the ones being sold for a pound (as did Tom but erm... I accidently ate his); DS asked for money, received a fiver, bought an egg for a pound and pocketed the rest. The boy wil go far!

It probably wouldn't have bothered me if relatives hadn't made my children the same - we didn't ourselves as Tom's present wasn't as much financially as the other two, but he doesn't know and was quite happy with what he got. He's a baby; he doesn't know any different! We didn't get him much for Christmas either but he wasn't aware of the fact. Maybe I'm just mean!

See I'd be annoyed at the egg/money thing if I'd been the one giving a choice I would have given them the same amount (although to be honest I don't 'do' choccy really so would prob just give a small gift or small egg and some money)

I nearly died when my friend put her Chrimbo pics on FB she'd piled up all the kids gifts and they filled a 2 seater sofa each (her son is same age as Chris and she has a daughter who is now 6mths ish) Chris's presents off Santa didn't even fill the sack we'd got him :rotfl: My theory was that he had plenty toys already and we'd save our money now while we can because before we know it he'll be asking for £250 games consoles and big shiney bikes etc

chocaholic110

Sami_Bee wrote: »

See I'd be annoyed at the egg/money thing if I'd been the one giving a choice I would have given them the same amount (although to be honest I don't 'do' choccy really so would prob just give a small gift or small egg and some money)

Oh, my Dad and his wife don't do fair. My sister's kids probably got laptops or something and when my step-sister has her baby it will probably get a car or a golden goose or something! I could fill the page with times when they've made DD feel like a second class citizen.

chocaholic110

Sami_Bee wrote: »

I nearly died when my friend put her Chrimbo pics on FB she'd piled up all the kids gifts and they filled a 2 seater sofa each (her son is same age as Chris and she has a daughter who is now 6mths ish) Chris's presents off Santa didn't even fill the sack we'd got him :rotfl: My theory was that he had plenty toys already and we'd save our money now while we can because before we know it he'll be asking for £250 games consoles and big shiney bikes etc

Excellent thinking. Though I have a 15 year old DS who still never wants anything. He's very difficult to buy for! And he's never wanted birthday parties or expensive clothing / trainers etc either. (Though DD more than makes up for him!!!)

The children I know who get everything often aren't the nicest children; I often find at school the ones with loads of toys and computer consoles etc are still the ones who grab everything when we're giving things out - and the ones who don't appreciate anything. Plus, lots of the parents where I teach use buying things instead of spending time with the children; some of them (at five years old) seem to spend a scary amount of time playing computer games and watching DVDs.

BrunoM

God, our 8-month old baby Elijah is stubborn. We've got so frustrated with his night-time wakings that last night (after feeds at 12.30am and 4.30am...), when he woke again at 5.15 we wanted to let him cry it out and tire himself back to sleep... After 15 mins of top-end yelling I went back in, changed his nappy and got him calm again with cuddles then put him back down again.

After 75 more minutes, I gave up and got up with him (as it was nearly 7 anyway). That whole time, with occasional breaks, he was doing loud angry shouting/crying. There's definitely nothing physically wrong though, the instant I come in and pick him up he's cheerful again!! The little monster.

I suppose we're going to have to step up some sleep training serious approach, I dunno. We haven't done up til now because he's been suffering from infant reflux and really been in legitimate discomfort at night, also not putting on weight so giving him extra night-time feeds seemed like a good thing. But the reflux is way better now, and he's just in the habit of waking I think

Grah!

chocaholic110

BrunoM wrote: »

God, our 8-month old baby Elijah is stubborn. We've got so frustrated with his night-time wakings that last night (after feeds at 12.30am and 4.30am...), when he woke again at 5.15 we wanted to let him cry it out and tire himself back to sleep... After 15 mins of top-end yelling I went back in, changed his nappy and got him calm again with cuddles then put him back down again.

After 75 more minutes, I gave up and got up with him (as it was nearly 7 anyway). That whole time, with occasional breaks, he was doing loud angry shouting/crying. There's definitely nothing physically wrong though, the instant I come in and pick him up he's cheerful again!! The little monster.

I suppose we're going to have to step up some sleep training serious approach, I dunno. We haven't done up til now because he's been suffering from infant reflux and really been in legitimate discomfort at night, also not putting on weight so giving him extra night-time feeds seemed like a good thing. But the reflux is way better now, and he's just in the habit of waking I think

Grah!

Don't really have any advice but just to say I feel for you as I have a stubborn little monster of my own and I know what it's like!