MSE Parent Club - Part 2

chocaholic110

If it's any consolation my Dad and his wife (my Step-Monster) have my nieces to stay every weekend, pay for all their school trips, uniform, coats and shoes, take them on holiday etc and they don't do that for my children. My DD and my niece are the same age (only 8 months apart) and are both going on a residential trip next month with school. My dad has paid for my niece and given her spending money but not DD. For their birthdays mine get £20 which is great, I'm not knocking that but my nieces have had Nintendo DS's, trampolines etc. When my DS was 8 and when my oldest niece were 8 they both went to London (2 separate trips) and they told my DD she couldn't go until she was 8 (It was 2 months before her 8th birthday). When she got to 8 they took my 4 year old niece instead!

I wouldn't mind but they tell my nieces to lie (They don't, they can't keep their mouths shut!!) plus I work in the school they all attend and my dad and his wofe are always bragging to the staff about how much they do for their grandchildren so I get to hear about it anyway.

What made it worse was my Mam told my dad DD didn't think he loved her as much as all the rest and he had a hissy fit, shouting and screaming and making out he was the victim and had my DD (aged 8 at the time) in floods of tears.

My step mam hasn't even seen Tom and she told my oldest niece that I wouldn't let her! Plus she slags my mam off to my nieces all the time...and these days she slags me off too!

This is the man who when bringing me home from an access weekend with him, the weather turned bad and started to snow and he said he couldn't take me home in case he crashed the car and put me out in the road three miles from home and said to walk...aged 13.

I could go on and on about the petty things they have done. In fact I could write a book!

Lol, sorry, you don't need to get the violins out but just to say that sadly you can't choose your family, and for me it's just made me more determined to give my children proper care and love!

Welshlassie

chocaholic110 wrote: »

Lol, sorry, you don't need to get the violins out but just to say that sadly you can't choose your family, and for me it's just made me more determined to give my children proper care and love!

I know where you are coming from, I have similar problems with my parents and their other grandson, there is only 6 weeks between my DS and my sister DS, but it doesn't stop my parents treating them entirely differently. You definitely can't choose your family.

Sami_Bee

Curious and Choc - Is it bad that I find your posts funny not for you obviously but that people can be so random, silly and down right petty!
I have a friend who is her mum's 1st child by some bloke who ran off as soon as he found out she was expecting, her mum later got married and had 2 kids with her husband. All of my friend's step grandparents, aunties etc would completely blank her even if she stood in front of them jumping up and down saying hello I'm right in front of you!! they'd just step around her it was like she was a ghost they couldn't see or her!! :rolleyes:

Js_Other_Half

Curious_George wrote: »

oh by the way i think Lu is trying to communicate with us....
what is it girl? timmy fell down a well??!!

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
Sitting here in stiches, DH has just asked what was so funny, and I couldn't stop laughing long enough to tell him...

heather38

curious my gran is exactly the same, she never speaks to my sister and i EVER.
infact the last time i saw her was at my cousins wedding 4 years ago, i was bridesmaid and in the recieving line she completely ignored me and walked right past me! !!!!!.

nadnad

lol so all families have crazy mad people within them - not just mine! good to know.

3KIDSNOMONEY

can't believe the way families are. I get really jealous when i see families that are really close.

it is awful for kids to be brought up and being treated so differently to their cousins and people like that.

Does anybody else find that it makes getting babies christened. Need to get round to doing no.4 but really can't face families. Getting to the point where i don't really want to invite anyone. I can't be a hypocrite and invite all those family members who never bother with the kids.

Becles

Crazy mad people in ours. Husbands mother hasn't spoken to us since 2006 over something that happened on here and now ex-FIL isn't speaking to us as Joshua's birthday thank you letter went missing in the post and he totally over reacted.

My husband has had his shifts changed at work. He comes in from work on an afternoon and needs to sleep from 2.30pm till around 6pm. However between 3.45pm-4pm the boys come home from school and Charlotte wakes up from her nap. They're not intentionally noisy, but the do wake him up with general chatter, toddler singing, hurtling upstairs like elephants, or outside hurtling about yelling and kicking balls etc - just usual stuff! He's getting up in a bad mood and yelling at us, but I dunno what I'm supposed to do to keep the children quiet. They're just behaving like normal bairns as it's impossible to keep them silent all the time.

Curious_George_2

3KIDSNOMONEY wrote: »

can't believe the way families are. I get really jealous when i see families that are really close.

it is awful for kids to be brought up and being treated so differently to their cousins and people like that.

Does anybody else find that it makes getting babies christened. Need to get round to doing no.4 but really can't face families. Getting to the point where i don't really want to invite anyone. I can't be a hypocrite and invite all those family members who never bother with the kids.

i always thought there was no such thing as a christening in our family until my brothers little girl got done, and while we were there i found out that my brother and sister were christened but i wasnt,
im not bothered exactly, i dont believe in all that religious stuff but it was just another little thing in a long list of things that i got left out of,

my mum once said to me (while talking about my DD, who was my 1st) that your first is ever so special, you love all your kids the same but everything gets compared to that first time as it was so wonderful and special and marvellous, which was just lovely to hear considering im the THIRD!
and she said you dont take as many photos after the first one...
hence there being about 300 pics of my bro, 200 of my sister, and 6 of me....

my family is an absolute cluster f*ck
you want more? did you all see my thread about my sister?
hang on... will get a thread link, brb!
EDITED TO ADD! - http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1443851

Sami_Bee

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:cool:

3kids - My cousin and uncle "weren't allowed" to come to Chris's Christening because uncle's ex-wife would be there :rolleyes: this rule was created by his now wife who he is now divorcing because SHE has been having affairs!!
For bump I haven't decided yet but I'm considering not telling extended family about it:think: OH has far too many uncles,aunties,cousins and we only ever see them at weddings, christenings etc I don't see the point:p


Curious - maybe that's why ur nan doesn't like you, coz ur not one of gods children?