MSE Parent Club - Part 2

nadnad

just off the phone with my mother.

would this bother any of you wise and calm mothers out there?:-

my sister is pregnant with her 2nd baby, (yippee by the way! am excited), she is due at end of august, her little girl is 4 in April. thats the background. my mum was on the phone there saying how she should be able to keep some holidays from work until sis has baby so she can take a few days off and help out.

i just said nothing, as when i had Oz, she didnt take any time off work (which is fine) and she never once came round and offer to help either with housework or the baby to allow me to rest or sleep whatever. Bearing in mind first baby is scary and you dont know what you're at and plus i had a section so wasnt exactly jumping up and down to do any housework.

she also helped and still does help out my sister with her little girl by taking her for days here and there. my sister has a husband as do i and we're both capable (shes actually older than me), and i just dont understand my mum already planning to take time off to help her when there was never a suggestion of her helping me. It just bothers me.

We actually upped sticks and moved back nearer our families when we were ready for a family as i thought it would be good to be close for help and support - neither of which I have ever got, sometimes wish i'd never moved. Any ideas why she would be doing this? and shes obviously oblivious to the difference shes making.

Lu_T

nadnad wrote: »

i hink Lu is aving ifficult wit he keboard. aybe we shold al typ lik thi. is fun.

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Tell her what you feel. Will e hard *ut worth it i* lo*g ru*?

Arrrggghhh!

tsstss7

nadnad wrote: »

just off the phone with my mother.

would this bother any of you wise and calm mothers out there?:-

my sister is pregnant with her 2nd baby, (yippee by the way! am excited), she is due at end of august, her little girl is 4 in April. thats the background. my mum was on the phone there saying how she should be able to keep some holidays from work until sis has baby so she can take a few days off and help out.

i just said nothing, as when i had Oz, she didnt take any time off work (which is fine) and she never once came round and offer to help either with housework or the baby to allow me to rest or sleep whatever. Bearing in mind first baby is scary and you dont know what you're at and plus i had a section so wasnt exactly jumping up and down to do any housework.

she also helped and still does help out my sister with her little girl by taking her for days here and there. my sister has a husband as do i and we're both capable (shes actually older than me), and i just dont understand my mum already planning to take time off to help her when there was never a suggestion of her helping me. It just bothers me.

We actually upped sticks and moved back nearer our families when we were ready for a family as i thought it would be good to be close for help and support - neither of which I have ever got, sometimes wish i'd never moved. Any ideas why she would be doing this? and shes obviously oblivious to the difference shes making.

Maybe your mum thinks you are more capable than big sis or that help is not wanted/needed? Lu is right though all you can do is talk to her.

Sami_Bee

Curious_George wrote: »

oh by the way i think Lu is trying to communicate with us....
what is it girl? timmy fell down a well??!!

:rotfl:I'm now crying with laughter!!! Chris keeps asking me "wha funny mummy?" but I can't talk!!

Sami_Bee

nadnad wrote: »

just off the phone with my mother.

would this bother any of you wise and calm mothers out there?:-

my sister is pregnant with her 2nd baby, (yippee by the way! am excited), she is due at end of august, her little girl is 4 in April. thats the background. my mum was on the phone there saying how she should be able to keep some holidays from work until sis has baby so she can take a few days off and help out.

i just said nothing, as when i had Oz, she didnt take any time off work (which is fine) and she never once came round and offer to help either with housework or the baby to allow me to rest or sleep whatever. Bearing in mind first baby is scary and you dont know what you're at and plus i had a section so wasnt exactly jumping up and down to do any housework.

she also helped and still does help out my sister with her little girl by taking her for days here and there. my sister has a husband as do i and we're both capable (shes actually older than me), and i just dont understand my mum already planning to take time off to help her when there was never a suggestion of her helping me. It just bothers me.

We actually upped sticks and moved back nearer our families when we were ready for a family as i thought it would be good to be close for help and support - neither of which I have ever got, sometimes wish i'd never moved. Any ideas why she would be doing this? and shes obviously oblivious to the difference shes making.

Nad - are you a good actress? If you are go round there and throw a hissy fit
I'd throw in some tears and say how you feel like she's the favourite and she always got better toys when you were growing up and now she gets help with her kids and you feel left out and unloved

Or do the grown up thing like everyone else suggests and just tell her that you would appreciate some help every now and then too! She probably just thinks you are fine and don't need/want any help.

Ps. Last night I got in bed at 3:30am :eek: - I wasn't doing anything, I was tired yet I still just don't go to bed I'm sure its some kind of medical condition!!
I woke up feeling pretty poo after 6hrs sleep and I doubt I'll get a nap either

Agutka

Curious_George wrote: »

oh by the way i think Lu is trying to communicate with us....
what is it girl? timmy fell down a well??!!

:T:T:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Well done, CG, that was brilliant :T

tsstss7

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Nad - are you a good actress? If you are go round there and throw a hissy fit
I'd throw in some tears and say how you feel like she's the favourite and she always got better toys when you were growing up and now she gets help with her kids and you feel left out and unloved

Or do the grown up thing like everyone else suggests and just tell her that you would appreciate some help every now and then too! She probably just thinks you are fine and don't need/want any help.

Ps. Last night I got in bed at 3:30am :eek: - I wasn't doing anything, I was tired yet I still just don't go to bed I'm sure its some kind of medical condition!!
I woke up feeling pretty poo after 6hrs sleep and I doubt I'll get a nap either

I do this too sometimes Sami - I usually end up cursing my stupidity the next day when I feel like crup . I've now rationalised it to myself as a need for "me" time. I like the peace and quiet late at night and I can just be me for a little while without wondering what/who needs attention next.

I did used to be a bit of an insomniac ut having babies has pretty much cured that lol. .

Oh there is a medical condition that stops people sleeping I think - it's something to do with melatonin (?) in your body - apparantly getting out between 11am and 3pm really helps with this so if you are often having trouble sleeping you could try to work a walk into your day to see if it helps.

keelykat

hi, i'm glad to get the internet back after an almost 2 week wait. did i miss much?

keely.

Sami_Bee

Thanks tss! I just wrote a long post and lost it
anywhoo I like the quiet me time too and I probably don't get enough sun as I go everywhere in the car so I must try harder

lwcus78

Aaaaw Keely, I was wondering where you got to! How's Elliott? Hope his reflux settling down a bit.
Ok Lu 9-18kg.
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Maxicosi priorifix. ChiccoKey1 isofix and Kiddy infinitypro which got the exeptional value at £130