How to tell a child that their mother has died.

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Zara33 wrote: »

I never told her how much i loved her always too dam busy and if the truth be told i don't really show/tell my emotions, i wish to hell i had done now.

I couldn't tell you how many times I've thought this. For some reason I was always going to say it and never did, I never got another chance.
Words are only a small part of love, actions speak louder. Even silences can mean more than we realise. Your sister knew how much you loved her, thats why she is giving you the strength you have today.

We always question ourselves, we try to take the blame for things that happen. In reality it's just part of grieving.

When you can love someone so much that it hurts, you can be sure that this person already knows and feels just the same.

LilDevil

Aw hun, I've just read your post and can't really add to what everyone else has said, I just wanted to let you know my thoughts are with you.

LouBlue

Oh Zara hun, I have only just seen this thread. I am so so sorry for your loss. Can't really add anything to the advice and kind words on here just wanted to say you and your family are in my thoughts. Much love to you. xxx

full-time-mum

I've only skip read this as I really should be filling in a job application and I've been putting it off but I really wanted to send you both this. :grouphug:

If no-one else has suggested it, perhaps you might consider making a memory book with your nephew. Either one between you or work together but produce one each. Special cards and drawings that nephew made for his mum, a letter telling her how much you loved her and how much you miss her, things you enjoyed doing together - theatre tickets, Macdonald menu, photos, things that you laughed together over or things that you cried together over.
Your nephew may remember things he has done or said that upset his mum - if he wanted to he could write an apology - include whatever seems appropriate, the whole point is that it is personal and nothing is right and nothing is wrong.

Zara33

Funeral taking place on Thursday it's been a long fortnight.

laura_24601

Thinking of you at this very sad time ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))

LillyJ

HI Zara, I am so sorry to hear of what has happened.

Can I ask- is he going to live with you? His Grandparents? He might be wondering what will happen to him if he has no Daddy around either.

My Mum is a counsellor in a Hospice, and her specialist role is to deal with the children and teenage children of those with cancer. Please get in contact with your local hospice, especially if your Sister had ever been a patient (but don't worry if not). They will be able to help a lot and have the experience to be able to deal with these things.

Hope you are dealing with your own feelings as well as that of your nephew - get help if you need it.

EDIT Sorry I didn't realise that this happened a couple of weeks ago, obviously you will have already sorted out where the little one is going to live by now. But if you haven't already been in contact with your local hospice, please do.

clairg_2

Thinking of you and your nephew tomorrow and sending (((((HUGS)))))

LouBlue

Zara33 wrote: »

Funeral taking place on Thursday it's been a long fortnight.

Thinking of you all tomorrow. Much love and strength to you. xxx

Angel777

Hi Zara, i just wanted to express how sorry i was to read this and hear of your sad news.

I think that you are really brave and i am sure that your sister is really proud of you and knows how much you loved her.

In your nephew you have such a real part of her still with you here. Its so good that he has you there for him. Poor little boy, i cannot imagine what he is going through.

Thinking about you at this sad time.

Lots of hugs xxxxxxxxxxxx