How to tell a child that their mother has died.

Zara33

If i ramble i'm sorry, don't know why i'm here, still in shock.

My sister passed away about 2 hours ago how am i going to tell her 8 year old son this news.

Cancer is an evil disease.

jackieb

I'm so sorry. (((hugs)))

I have no advice on how to tell your nephew - I just wanted to post something but I don't know what to say. It's so sad.

My thoughts are with you and your family. xx

celyn90

Oh Zara, I'm so sorry for your loss. I also don't know how to tell your nephew either, but like jackie just wanted to offer a hug.

Thinking of you and your family

jm2926

So sorry for your loss. I've never been in this position, so can't offer direct advice - but found this on the web - hope it helps.

http://www.terminalillness.co.uk/explaining-death-to-children.html

k8te

My deepest sympathy to you her son, and the rest of the family, cancer really is an evil illness. Did her son know about the cancer? Maybe she explain to him about how cancer effects the body, if so he may be prepared for it, as best as a child could be. I wish you all the best, and we are all here to offer you support x

Paparika

I'm sorry for your loss,

Is he to old to be told mummy is an Angel now.

My DS was 10 about to turn 11 when i had to tell him that great granny had died, I had kept the school up to date previously and rang the in the morning when i had composed myself after hearing the sad news from my mum that my nan had finally gone, i rang them to ask if i could come and get him early as he had a doctors appointment, he knew she had cancer, although i explained that granny was very old. (91) he still cried his heart out, and 6 months later when Mil passed on to cancer, it broke his heart again. Although i was away when he was told, was supporting OH (Mil lived in another city)

It will be a sad time in his house right now, you are all feeling the loss, he may cry and then get a bit angry, lot of hugs and cuddles when he needs them. And sit and listen to him when he just wants to talk about her.

ailuro2

I have PM'd you.

funky-footprints

my thoughts are with you and your family. xxxx

rchddap1

How awful. Hugs to you all at this distressing time.

Yorkshire-Lady_3

Just want to offer my condolences to you and your family.
I'm sure you'll find both the strength and the right words to tell your Nephew.

I'm thinking of you.

Y-L xx

Squiggly_Diddly

Zara, my sympathies to you and your family, I'm so very sorry.

I have no specific experience of this situation, but in other situations that are difficult/traumatic for children, it's best to be as honest as you can, and be clear (ie if you say mummy has gone to sleep forever, he may worry the same might happen to him, or not want to sleep, etc). Take your lead from him, answer his questions, etc. All children react differently, some will be very upset, others may seem to dismiss the news & carry on as normal, just be there for him too (difficult as that is when you are devastated too).

Hope this makes sense to you on an awful day. ((((((((((hugs)))))))))