Grandmother moving in with me

superpup

Errata, you are lovely and a mind reader!

My Nan's house is full of rugs which for her, is just like a bad adventure playground! I keep looking at my lovely new rug and I know it's going to have to go when she moves in :sad:

I have thought about a hairdresser and was planning on getting someone to come in maybe once a fortnight. She currently goes and gets hers done every couple of months I think, sometimes longer now she's not so mobile. I don't mind her getting it done weekly if she'd like that. She's never seen a chiropodist although my Granddad did regularly as he was a diabetic. It probably wouldn't hurt to get someone to look at her tootsies now and again

I like the idea of the occupational therapist. I think I will probably go with that option if I can. I know Social Services are helpful, but if I get someone in privately, it will be less waiting around and I'll know that she'll be safe from very early on. I think the wife of one of my work colleagues will have contacts.

I think my Nan will be happy with all the banter that goes on here. We do have a laugh and she does like to know what's going on. DD1 and her friends have always got some dippy tale to tell that I know will make her chuckle.

thank you

sp x

elsien

If your nan is mobile enough, or if you have a dial-a-ride type service near you, your nan might qualify for free chiropody care on the NHS. She'd need a referral through her GP, but (in our area at least) you have to go to them, which might not be practical if you are working and not able to take her.
I tend to think that for things like the hairdresser, although it's easier for someone to come in and do it, sometimes it's nicer for people to be able to get out and about to the salon, instead of being housebound.
Down to personal preference and practicalities obviously, but sometimes it can cheer people up no end to get out of the same four walls.

superpup

elsien wrote: »

If your nan is mobile enough, or if you have a dial-a-ride type service near you, your nan might qualify for free chiropody care on the NHS. She'd need a referral through her GP, but (in our area at least) you have to go to them, which might not be practical if you are working and not able to take her.
I tend to think that for things like the hairdresser, although it's easier for someone to come in and do it, sometimes it's nicer for people to be able to get out and about to the salon, instead of being housebound.
Down to personal preference and practicalities obviously, but sometimes it can cheer people up no end to get out of the same four walls.

Hi again elsien

She is mobile enough right now but yes, it is difficult because I work. I'm thinking that for how much it will cost to get someone to visit her, it will be worth it as it will break the day up for her, even if it is about her feet.

It's a good point about going out to the hairdresser. I don't know if she'd be bothered about going every week but I could take her on a Saturday morning a couple of times a month and pick up a few bits in town while she was there. Again, I'll see which she'd prefer. (I've got such a long list now but I'm finding it quite exciting, I'm really looking forward to her moving in!)

sp x

elsien

superpup wrote: »

Hi again elsien
I'm finding it quite exciting, I'm really looking forward to her moving in!)

sp x

Betcha you won't be saying that when your dd's and your nan gang up against you.

Seriously though, glad you're getting there, and I hope your list only ever gets as long as half the available time to do it in!

superpup

elsien wrote: »

Betcha you won't be saying that when your dd's and your nan gang up against you.

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Hmmm... do I know you..? You have too much insider information!

Called her tonight and she was very perky again. She said she's moving round really well and sounded very upbeat. Still saying that she's fine to stay at home for now but also telling me that she's got loads of stuff out on the table that she's sorting through (what she wants to keep and what she's getting rid of).

Part of me is wondering whether the discussion over her moving in with me has made her panic less about the future and maybe lifted a bit of depression that she could've been suffering from

What do you think? (I can't do or think about anything now without wondering what you lot would say )

sp x

Errata

Your nan now has something to look forward to, a new life instead of same old same old and something to look forward to is a very basic human need. Wouldn't you be feeling perky too ? She's got a new interest planning what stays and what goes, something new to talk about, definite things to focus on when she talks to you on the phone. What's not to like !
Don't forget to ask her to save all the old photographs !

superpup

Errata wrote: »

Your nan now has something to look forward to, a new life instead of same old same old and something to look forward to is a very basic human need. Wouldn't you be feeling perky too ? She's got a new interest planning what stays and what goes, something new to talk about, definite things to focus on when she talks to you on the phone. What's not to like !
Don't forget to ask her to save all the old photographs !

Yes, I think you're right. I do worry that she will always prefer her old life to a new one with me. She said she'd mentioned moving in with me to her youngest sister and she 'didn't seem very interested'. Then she chattered on about the sister's son staying with his mum half the week as he's only staying with his wife for the sake of their daughter. I must admit, I got a bit confused at times but I think I said 'ooh' and 'really' in the right places.

I already have a lot of the old photographs. She was going to throw them all out about 5 years ago :eek:

I used some of them to make up an album for my Dad for Christmas when he came for a visit. He loved it. I'm going to get a load of frames at some point and put a massive collection together over my stairs. (Maybe I should put them somewhere else where Nan will be able to reach to dust...;) )

sp x

Errata

Here's a job for your nan ! Ask her to write the names of all the people in the photos on the back. My niece now holds the family archive, have loads of family photos going back to my great grandparents but there are quite a few people in them that not even me can put a name to.
She's asked me if I'll spend some time this winter writing down the jobs the people did that I can recognise and anything interesting and /or juicy gossip that happened to them.
Your offspring might find a family record like this quite interesting, and your grandkids will be totally fascinated.

superpup

Errata wrote: »

Here's a job for your nan ! Ask her to write the names of all the people in the photos on the back. My niece now holds the family archive, have loads of family photos going back to my great grandparents but there are quite a few people in them that not even me can put a name to.
She's asked me if I'll spend some time this winter writing down the jobs the people did that I can recognise and anything interesting and /or juicy gossip that happened to them.
Your offspring might find a family record like this quite interesting, and your grandkids will be totally fascinated.

Brilliant idea! I know little bits of history but there's so many gaps. My Granddad started to tell me stuff when he was getting ill but he couldn't remember everything. I'll have the box of photos ready, with a pen!

sp x

Merrywidow

Not only that, now is the time to gleen all that stuff for a family history. I came upon this history lark a little late and my mother's information is a little vague as dementia is creeping in. Ask her to write down everything she remembers - even if you don't use it for a while.