OS Daily Sunday 3rd of August

redruby

squigly, hugs to your dd, what a terrible thing to go through xx

Squiggly_Diddly

Thanks all, I think definitely DD and all her friends just being together is doing them good, supporting each other. I think they are posting messages on bebo & similar at the moment, don't think it will hit home until the funeral, which could be up to a couple of weeks away I think.

Welcome to the newbies by the way. Chrisca, I can do that with a film if it's not too far in, you can generally pick up the plot If it's not boring..
WMF, country show sounds great, hope the baby sheep handlers have got over their disappointments now.

Sunnyday

Evening peeps,

Squiggly Diddly - it makes me so sad to hear your news. It`s really good that the children are all supporting each other.

PenPin - ((((HUGS)))) there`s nothing that i can say really, everyone else has said it all.

Well i`m whacked and ready to turn in, i made more jam and then sorted the kitchen out so that i`m organised in the morning, the alarm will go off at 4am and i`ll want to curl up and stay in bed, at least DH will be back tomorrow night so he can help out a bit.
Night everyone.
SD

KAAT_LADY

KAAT

Dazi

Sorry not posted for a couple of days, have tried to keep up with thread but head in the shed. soooooo

for those birthdays I have missed
and
for those who have needed one

We had a dreadful saturday, OH worked most of it, came home about 5 and got phonecall from his DD, she wanted a tent as she is having a sleepover for her b/day later this month, he said he would buy this as a b/day pressie, cue the exW . She says this is not acceptable, he does not spend enough on her for b/d and xmas, DSD wants wiifit for b/day.

We cannot afford this. Cue exW saying its MY fault as not working now so DSD misses out because OH has to pay extra. when will this woman live in the real world, we cannot afford to pay X amount as we have 5 DS/DD between us, plus 2 DGD. I felt like I wanted to crawl into hole and hibernate, have lived with OH for 5 years now and we get calls like this all the time. OH pays his maintenance without fail, even when he was off sick and only getting £70 ssp, she still had her money.

he also gives DSD £15 a week allowance. But we are still made to seem we don;t pay,

DSD hates my OS cooking, doesn't like HM stuff cos its not like mum buys at morrisons. Sometimes I want to just give up and run away. DSD has said that as we cannot buy her a tent AND a birthday present, she still wants the wiifitt, she won;t come down next weekend, OH is in bits, dunno what to say to him......think he may just put in on a credit card and am so upset as since I have not been working I have cut spending and done really well. Ho hummmmmmmmmmm:mad::mad::mad:

Am soooooooooo sorry for this rant, I know there are others with much bigger problems than mine, but just needed to offload somewhere.

Squiggly_Diddly

((((((Dazi))))) This is the place to offload.... Sorry you have had a rotten time, it's so difficult in these situations & I know from past experience you end up having to do exactly the thing you don't want to... Perhaps you & OH can have a chat, when things are calmer, and discuss how you could tackle it another time? I know it's easier said than done though. Sorry, am not making much sense, bit tired & emotional today.

Dazi

I understand Squiggly, have now read back a bit, must be difficult for you with all thats going on with your DD, so difficult for them to come to terms with a death amoungst their friends, think you are doing great just letting them be together, they will know you are there if they want to talk. xxxxxxxxx

With my situation, have had words with OH, he is still on the track that we treat all kids/grandkids equal, allthough we both treat grankids a bit more equal, shades of animal fam there! he has issues with this because when with is exW his sons from previous marriage were not treated as so. I actually told him he was lucky that his sons still speak to him (when with exW and DSD they went to disney, rhodes etc and did not take them) Since I have been with him, we have 5 kids betwen us, they all get same amount of money spent on them at birthday and xmas he has DGD and now I have DGD they all get the same. This has meant a big dip in money spent for his DD, our budget this year was for £30 per child, I think this is reasonable. The exW says she has spent £200, but that is up to her, I am not even going there where I can say how she can afford this as she does not work, not my problem, I can only deal with our income.

I love this place, if I could not post this here I would be biteing nails, tearing hair out etc etc,

Thanks to all the mse boards, but most especially our OS and our daily thread xxxxxx

meanmarie

Sorry so many of you are have a bad time at present,

Squiggly, hugs to your DD

PenPin, concentrate on taking care of you, your sister will have to find her own way out of the mess she's in.

Dazi...you have to do what you can afford, blackmail is not a nice thing.

sistercas...hope that you have had a nice day.

Hugs to all,

Sleep well.

Marie