Marriage over don't know where to start

scottishfreebiehunter

:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad: great my benefits been paid into his accounts awaiting on people getting back to me

scottishfreebiehunter

as I cancelled all this last week

GeorgeUK

Keep on at them SFH. If things don't progress quickly, make an official complaint in writing. This gets more attention than phone calls.

Hope it's sorted soon.

furball

SFH contact your local MP email or phone them. After 10 weeks of being messed around by tax credits mp sorted it within 3 days, they make the same mistake again this year mp sorted it out within 24 hours. Tax credits !!!! up story is a long one but the long and short of it is they said DH was living in Australia. NHS payment card still gets sent there, Hope this works. Hugs

trancebabe

Hi Kizzy,

Just wanted to say that at least now you know you can be sure that this was nothing you have done, and equally nothing you could have done to stop it from happening.

My Ex DH had a couple of affairs and (both mooses!) lied, blamed me, shouted and abused his way through it until the truth was out.

A family member told me about the first one, but only after I left him taking our daughter with me after he'd had the second. I still loved him when I walked out on him but enough was enough. We deserved better and I made sure we got it

(he also had a gambling habit... blah blah blah)

He said that everyday he felt like he'd been kicked in the nuts after I'd left, he never thought I'd find the strength I think.

Now, 8 years on I'm remarried to a wonderful man and he has found someone who loves him too. We're not exactly 'friends' but despite the hurt and pain he caused me I don't hate him and wouldn't want to see him suffer either.

I have always put our daughter first and we both wanted it to be as pain free as possible for her (she was 5 at the time)

I'm sorry this man has been so silly to put everything good he had at risk, but I guess sometimes they just think with their crotches!

Stay strong and remember to look after yourself. Those kiddies need their Mum to be on top form

:grouphug:

bank_of_slate

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad: great my benefits been paid into his accounts awaiting on people getting back to me

Give em hell SFH!
As if you haven't got enough to be dealing with right now!
...Linda xx

gerturdeanna

Right finally caught up and yes we are very much in the same position, me, you Kizzy and SFH!! Big hugs to us all!!!
Kizy - very sorry to hear that he has been cheating - I hope he catches something from her and it shrivels up, dries up and drops off!!
SFH - Did you contact the police - you really should - he has no right at all to make you feel scared - get in touch with the poice, domestic violence places everywhere - ok? Do it for yourselves!!
My h is currently sleeping in the kids room whilst the kids sleep with me - he has been advised by his legal advice people at his work that he has to continue paying the mortgage for the house - he s going to start looking for somewhere to live when he gets home from work - I've already bookmarked soem sites for him - I want him out now so I can get on with my life and get things sorted for myself.
My thread is here if anyone wants to read - runs very similar to Kizzys!! http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1017929
We all have to be strong for ourselves and our kiddies!!
Power to the independant women and don't forget to join the 'husbands are rubbish - lets ditch them club"!!
Sending hugs to us all!!!

mummum2

Kizzy/SFH, sending hugs and wellness to you both.

kizzykizzywizzy

Huge Huge developement, I finally got him to say he loved this other woman, & I said would there be any chance we could be together, he said no, not after what I've done you'd never forgive it or forget it. I said I would & I honestly believe I could. I did the " I love you" he said I know you do, which is why I feel so bad for what I've put you through. He said he should've talked to me years ago as he hasn't been happy & it's his fault because he didn't talk.
He said he doesn't even know whether he will end up with this woman, won't give details still.
He is really ill, the same as me at the moment & said he's worried as he can't even do his job.
He's been to CAB & is also opening a bank account today, I just said stop being so secretive & so hard towards me & perhaps we can do this without all this stress, because I feel really ill today, I manged to get the kids shoes & get the shopping, how I don't know!
I told him I couldn't cope with the kids, all he's got to cope with is himself & he said I told you I'd do anything I can to help you, I'll take them out & give you some time, I said no, you don't get the fun things, so I catch up on housework, he said I'll help them tidy thier rooms while you go out then.
It was all very amicable & has made me feel so much better, I'm hoping if we can work this out without the bitterness, & we can spare the kids a lot of heartache as they are my main priority.
He will be punished enough by the fact although he will always be in the childrens lives, he will only be a visitor, he will only be able to afford to rent a room in a shared house, so won't be able to have them to stay, & will have no money as he has promised me he will pay as much as possible ( leaving enough for him to live ) towards everything as he doesn't think the kids or I should suffer for his mistake.
As I've said before this angry evil person he has been is not him at all & now he's changed back into normal him, I said I've lost my best friend, he said you haven't I will always be here for you & the children, I want us to be friends, you may not be ready for that now.
We were both crying, it's just so sad......

mumoftwins

Oh kizzy