Marriage over don't know where to start

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scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

really down in the dumps and scared I have no life left to live,I know that is stupid but how I feel

Same message to you what I just posted to Kizzy... Come on Girls... we are strong... bounce back ... show them what they dont deserve anymore... because hell you are sooooooo too good for these..mother...truckers xxx

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bank_of_slate wrote: »

You're closing a really long chapter of your life SFH.
Just because the next chapter isn't one that you chose to enter, doesn't mean there's no life left to live!
you're literally grieving for the loss of what you've had together as well as having to go through all the finality of dividing assets, who sees the kids when etc which can really bring it home, BUT you do have a life to live, you never know what's round the next corner, this could end up being the best thing that happened to you.
...Linda xx

I AGREEEEE...Its a new start...

basketcase

scottishfreebiehunter wrote: »

When he left it was as if he was doing me a favour etc unreal

Who knows? Maybe in the long term he WAS doing you a favour!

Hang on in there all of you - and try not to get bitter. Bitterness only twists you up; then THEY move on and you're left dwelling in a past of sorrows.

Blessingsuponya
Elizabeth

scottishfreebiehunter

basketcase wrote: »

Who knows? Maybe in the long term he WAS doing you a favour!

Hang on in there all of you - and try not to get bitter. Bitterness only twists you up; then THEY move on and you're left dwelling in a past of sorrows.

Blessingsuponya
Elizabeth

Thats the thing he can walk away and I am left here trying to pick up the pieces with my ds and he will no just think he will be one of those favours who does MCDonalds etc then leaves again.
If he wants to be part of my sons life he will have to be there when he needs him not when he feels like it,though as he keeps saying he will be:mad:
I do not mean to go on though very day after the few hours sleep I do get it gets worse,though listening to everyones help etc ,I know it will not be that way forever

kizzykizzywizzy

SFH - Hang on it there, you've been so strong so far, do not waste another ounce of energy on your husband.
You will have to be like I was today, I needed to get on & just stop all the what ifs & maybe's get him to say once & for all what was going on, but I think you've now decided you don't want him back after the abuse of last night!
Then you can move on & you will find some strength from somewhere, don't know where mine's come from today, but you will feel more able to cope & look after DS & yourself.
I have small moments of excitement for the future, perhaps meeting someone else one day & feeling the first rush of love again, maybe doing things I want to do, that he wouldn't have wanted to, it's just a new adventure, & maybe we will get back together, but I'm not thinking that my life will end if we don't, now we are being amicable. I wish your husband would come to his senses & do the same, I expect he's the same as mine & is blaming you for his HUGE MISTAKE one day he'll realise what he's done, he's chosen that old sl$pper over you & your Son & it's so strange that someone can be so mesmerised by another woman, when he was a real hands on Dad for your Son.
Your Son must be feeling so rejected, I really feel for him.
Did he see DS today or not?
Take care - this is a rollercoaster I would rather not be on, but today was a bad day, but in a good way iyswim

Buffythedebtslayer

Hey Kizzy you are one seriously impressive woman you know that right?

xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

poorly_scammo

Ladies please read this!

It made me chuckle, Revenge is a dish best served cold

http://uk.news.yahoo.com/afp/20080814/tts-australia-adultery-auction-internet-3560b40.html

Skint_Lynne

Hi Kizzy,

I'm glad you are feeling stronger this evening, the best thing to do is to look forward, you are right. As I said in an earlier post, every day that passes will get easier. That's for you as well SFH.

I was away for an interview today, but didn't get it, it's their loss!!

SL x

Mrs_Dawn

Hello kizzy, SFH and all us other poor women(sorry any guys on here) who have gone through what you are going through.

I found out about my DH's affair on the 21st June this year although I suspected for a few days from something someone said to me.

We are all grieving, for the lost companion we thought we knew, our soulmates, our best friends. That is what these men meant to us all.

I just wonder how their standards are so different to ours.

I'm nearly two months down the road and still haven't got the foggiest idea what i'm going to do.

I know that one day it will all become clear and i'll do what's necessary when the time comes. Until then I'm getting through each day, thankfully I've stopped blubbing whenever any one asks if I'm ok. My children are enjoying the summer(wet I know) and that is all that matters.

What my DH wants or feels is of no consequence to me at this moment in time, all that matters is me and the children having fun and being together.

I feel for you all, know that it does get better with each passing day. Also we are not alone, as this thread has proved, we are all out there.

I hope you all find the strength and determination to sort out your lives.

OOPS I'm crying on my keyboard now. Only because I can empathise with so many of you.

God can I waffle or what. I'm gonna shut up now ok.

HUGS!!!!!!!! to all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111

Dawnxx:o

scottishfreebiehunter

Thanks Dawn xxxx thats the thing I feel like my life has ended I have no real friends round here as moved her due to his job etc and glad to know you are getting through youre hard timexxx


Kizzy well he saw him and guess what ds distraught again:(