Single and in debt.

very_silly_and_scared

at_my_wittsend wrote: »

I too am single and in crap loads of debt and mid 30's. Not quite what I had in mind. :mad: Everyday a struggle. Annoyed as can't send off DMP papers until have new bank account sorted, how come getting a basic one takes far to long???? Am in dire need as no payments made this month not even token as can't alert main bank to a problem....grrrrrr. Hoped todays post would bare the fruit I needed, nope. Just mail I hide that I didn't want to open.

absloutely am where you are. EXACTLY. Applied for that bank account 3 weeks ago and still waiting for it to be confirmed! I opened my mail though. 3 credit card statements and a letter from barclays who mis sold me PPI 8 years ago telling me to forget it as had been too long! Oh the joys...

sarahb123_3

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

Oh God i know exactly what you mean. I can't go out cos i am skint, can't get a boyfriend cos I don't go out. all my friends are married. yep apart from two. I go to weddings on my own, first birthday parties with out a baby! one kid at a party actually asked me where my child was :rolleyes: and I have to deal with everything to do with money and what have you all by myself.

strop strop pace pace.

done now!

I am going to change this. I AM.

We are separated at birth!:rotfl: Or maybe this is how all single people feel, I find having to turn up everywhere by myself embarrassing really. A child recently asked me if I had a baby in my tummy. Have since lost 7lb.

sarahb123_3

very_silly_and_scared wrote: »

absloutely am where you are. EXACTLY. Applied for that bank account 3 weeks ago and still waiting for it to be confirmed! I opened my mail though. 3 credit card statements and a letter from barclays who mis sold me PPI 8 years ago telling me to forget it as had been too long! Oh the joys...

Hi, well done for opening the mail, it can be so scary at times! Hope you are ok and remember we are all here to support each other x

very_silly_and_scared

I am not so bothered about turning up places on my own if am honest.

Spend Christmas day with my family when is my mum and dad, brother and fiance, grandmother and grandfather and ME around the dinner table. They get the 6 matching chairs and I have to sit on some odd paint splattered stool that comes from the attic once a year just for the occasion...! You can take anything after that!!!

very_silly_and_scared

and another reminder of why I am in the situation I am... Kept telling myself that my debt was result of postgrad studies.... Just walked away from computer to light Diptyque candle bought on weekend away (alone but very very entertaining nonetheless) in Paris.

This is becoming a very rude awakening!

PrincessPeach_2

I have been going out a fair bit - but that has now stopped in my bid to save money.

And even when i was out - i hardly met anyone as i was always in a group of friends. - maybe i was just going to the wrong places...

Did have a date a month and a bit ago - i sat there - opposite this guy...and realised that
a) he was boring
b) what a waste of money the date was and
c) the hours i lost there ha ha

- after that it really made me glad to be single. lol

runmichellerun

PrincessPeach wrote: »

I have been going out a fair bit - but that has now stopped in my bid to save money.

And even when i was out - i hardly met anyone as i was always in a group of friends. - maybe i was just going to the wrong places...

Did have a date a month and a bit ago - i sat there - opposite this guy...and realised that
a) he was boring
b) what a waste of money the date was and
c) the hours i lost there ha ha

- after that it really made me glad to be single. lol

I had a date tonight!! I took money with me but he was a gent and paid for the lot. Just wouldn't let me pay for anything. It was sweet.

But I'm not looking for sweet unfortunately, I like a man who offers me a challenge. Yes, I'm one of those girls who likes a bad boy. So I'm stuck in this limbo - the nice boys like me too much (clingy, usually) and the bad boys don't like me enough (don't hear from them for weeks)

What can ya do? :rolleyes:

Buffythedebtslayer

very_silly_and_scared wrote: »

I am not so bothered about turning up places on my own if am honest.

Spend Christmas day with my family when is my mum and dad, brother and fiance, grandmother and grandfather and ME around the dinner table. They get the 6 matching chairs and I have to sit on some odd paint splattered stool that comes from the attic once a year just for the occasion...! You can take anything after that!!!

he he for years at Christmas it was Mum and Dad, sis and hubby, sis and boyfriend and Me and.... the dog. who unfortunately died. so then it was just me on the mis match chair without any one to sit with me!

xxx

Buffythedebtslayer

runmichellerun wrote: »

I had a date tonight!! I took money with me but he was a gent and paid for the lot. Just wouldn't let me pay for anything. It was sweet.

But I'm not looking for sweet unfortunately, I like a man who offers me a challenge. Yes, I'm one of those girls who likes a bad boy. So I'm stuck in this limbo - the nice boys like me too much (clingy, usually) and the bad boys don't like me enough (don't hear from them for weeks)

What can ya do? :rolleyes:

seriously? get over the bad boy thing. vauable time is wasted on scum!
:rotfl: :rotfl:

I dont know why i am saying this it took me years and two devastating heart breaks to stop.;)

Deep_In_Debt

Gosh! This thread so relates to me! I'm single and 40. Yikes! I've got quite large debts, a mortgage and an average salary. It is a struggle. I do quite enjoy being single though. It was my ex BF who dragged me down financially so at least I can deal with the debts on my own now.

Bad boys - mmmm! That's why I'm still single at 40 - got involved with too many bad boys!

Anyway, glad there are loads of other single women here. Thought I was the only one.