Single and in debt.

Shoe_Gal

sarahb123 wrote: »

Weighed myself this morning and haven't lost anything:o but haven't put any on. At this rate I will never get those jeans:rolleyes:

Don't worry Sarah, after last nights boredom Hob Nob binge I'm sure I'll have put weight back on again! Am back on track now, hope I can 'stay the same' by the end of the week - fingers crossed :rolleyes:

Buffythedebtslayer

Lula-Hula wrote: »

Aw thanks hon, that's very sweet of you :kisses3: I just happen to know what it's like trying to have a conversation with kidlets, only one of my frineds has them ( I chose the others far more wisely )


sarahb - to answer your earlier post about xbf/loser ( do tell me to shut up if anyone's sick of hearing about it, I know i am :rolleyes: ) I think you are right & he is truly bonkers;

The last conversation before I decided to follow PaulGBDFs advice ended with me saying "it's over so just get that in to your head & F O - wasnt so nice with my words then - he text on sat afternoon to say he had lots of eggs if I wanted them :rolleyes: & ignored it but made a note that his mobile now back in operation. He called a couple of times from home & I just had a feeling he was going to turn up so that's when we dimmed the lights etc... He started circling & going up & downs the road & calling the home phone & mobile alternately then eventually went :T . This morning I had an email saying " what happened last night, have I done something wrong again ? I wont phone you, will wait for you to make contact" . then as I posted earlier he started ringing the home phone & mobile again every 20 minutes for over 3 hours. He is totally & utterly barking mad. I'm not scared at all & yes am keeping a record of all calls. It just baffles me as to how "F O" can be misinterpreted as " oh please come over on saturday night & rather than knock on the door just keep ringing & driving up & down the road" Idiot :rolleyes:

I decided to keep the nifty fifty he posted & have already paid it off my credit card :rotfl:

Lula I know you aren't frightened by him but are you sure you shouldn't be phoning the police?

his behaviour is really freaky. It would worry me a lot

please take care hon xxxx

Paulgonnabedebtfree

Lula-Hula wrote: »

Let's hope not ...

Pauldgonnabedebtfree's advice to just ignore very good, hope his prediction about loserr upping the ante not quite so accurate .

Off to bed now, night night xx

Don't want to sound scarey but upping the ante is pretty typical in situations like this. That doesn't necessarily mean that he would be harmful but it can't be ruled out - perhaps even self harm.
His behaviour towards you is about power and control IMO. Once he realises that his poower has gone, it is possible that he may try to regain it (though not inevitable).

Has it occurred to you that what he is doing is probably illegal?

I realise that you may be unwilling to go the legal route in case that causes him to up the stakes but that might happen anyway. I was pleasantly surprised when I eventually got the police involved. I'm quite big beefy guy and she was very petite, pretty etc etc. I expected some reaction like "You should be so lucky" and for the police to generally take the pee out of me. In the event, the police took my complaint seriously and acted upon it. It wasn't necessary to initiate court proceedings thankfully. The reality was that the stress of the situation was making me ill. I was parking my vehicle perhaps a mile away from home and walking back the last bit. I even stayed out all day once when I saw her car parked outside my home. That bit was quite funny though as it turned out that one of my neighbours had bought a similar looking car the day before. What started out as her being a bit of a pest ended up with me staying at friends' houses when I have a perfectly adequate (though pretty basic) place to live of my own.
No-one can tell you what to do but I know that if I knew then what I know now, I would have taken steps to get it stopped a lot sooner. Would have saved me nearly going round the twist.

InkyCats20

Hello Buffy

Did you enjoy the meet ?

Certainly sounds like everyone had a good time

Lula-Hula

InkyCats20 wrote: »

Hello Sarah - did I read somewhere that offered Lula a place to hide in your wardrobe from xbf ?

Surely you haven't sorted out that much stuff that you actually have space in there :eek:
(Lula - I'm not trying to say you'd take up alot of room - honest :rotfl: )

cheeky mare

To be honest i think the clothes would suffocate first at the moment Back to walking the streets tomorrow, at a rough guess I worked out that i'll be doing approx 6 miles a day :eek: - average adult walks a mile in 20 mins & I have to do 2 hours a day in order to deliver the 2000 leaflets a week _pale_ so should have lost at least 2lb by friday / be hospitalized for dislocated legs :rolleyes:
either way I cannot go on being this size :mad:

sarahb123_3

InkyCats20 wrote: »

Hello Sarah - did I read somewhere that offered Lula a place to hide in your wardrobe from xbf ?

Surely you haven't sorted out that much stuff that you actually have space in there :eek:

:rotfl: I have taken some stuff to the charity shop and will probably take some more soon, rest assured there is still no space at all but should Lula need to hide in there I will simply move things to ironing/washing/storage baskets until the danger has passed:D

eco

look on the bright side Lula walkings the best exercise you can get, walking my dogs keeps me sane, it's the only time I can think properly, so you'll be getting paid and losing weight at the same time.

InkyCats20

I think the walking will be good, I try & do 2 1/2 miles most days, which is quite a nice walk where I live, sometimes I really can't be bothered but always enjoy once I make the effort (& it's the only exercise I do)
Have you got an MP3 you can listen to while doing your deliveries ?
Can you cycle any of it at all (it is you who's got a bike - isn't it ?) or is that not practical
Answered my question there really, you'd spend more time hopping on & off delivering leaflets than cycling wouldn't you :rotfl:
There isn't any risk of bumping into xbf on this delivering marlarky is there ?

God I'm nosey, aren't I :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Paulgonnabedebtfree

Lula-Hula wrote: »

Aw thanks hon, that's very sweet of you :kisses3: I just happen to know what it's like trying to have a conversation with kidlets, only one of my frineds has them ( I chose the others far more wisely )


sarahb - to answer your earlier post about xbf/loser ( do tell me to shut up if anyone's sick of hearing about it, I know i am :rolleyes: ) I think you are right & he is truly bonkers;

The last conversation before I decided to follow PaulGBDFs advice ended with me saying "it's over so just get that in to your head & F O - wasnt so nice with my words then - he text on sat afternoon to say he had lots of eggs if I wanted them :rolleyes: & ignored it but made a note that his mobile now back in operation. He called a couple of times from home & I just had a feeling he was going to turn up so that's when we dimmed the lights etc... He started circling & going up & downs the road & calling the home phone & mobile alternately then eventually went :T . This morning I had an email saying " what happened last night, have I done something wrong again ? I wont phone you, will wait for you to make contact" . then as I posted earlier he started ringing the home phone & mobile again every 20 minutes for over 3 hours. He is totally & utterly barking mad. I'm not scared at all & yes am keeping a record of all calls. It just baffles me as to how "F O" can be misinterpreted as " oh please come over on saturday night & rather than knock on the door just keep ringing & driving up & down the road" Idiot :rolleyes:

I decided to keep the nifty fifty he posted & have already paid it off my credit card :rotfl:

Lula.
I made my other posts before getting to this one.
I'm going on gut feeling here and sticking my neck out a bit.
I think you need to get the police involved ASAP.
Your choice of course but a sad case can become a bad case. The line between the two isn't so huge IMO when it comes to this sort of behaviour. It may be that he's more likely to harm himself (or at least pretend to) than anyone else but all his behaviour smacks of power/control. Not a good combination when someone feels spurned.

sarahb123_3

InkyCats20 wrote: »

There isn't any risk of bumping into xbf on this delivering marlarky is there ?

I hadn't thought of that, does he work or could he be hanging around during the day as well?