Single and in debt.

Lula-Hula

Hi BGB -

so sorry to hear your news... to be honest that's why i have no bebo or facebook, to open to other peoples idea of 'humour'.

If a 'friend' did that to me I would be incandescent :mad: & questioning whether I wanted the friendship to continue. Hold you're head high & remember that you are not the spiteful one causing discomfort & humiliation & if challenged by anyone say the magic words : F cough I'm fabulous :A



On a lighter note; had an email from the loser this morning saying he would'nt ring any more & would leave it to me to make contact....

the phones' been ringing every 20 minutes since 4pm :rolleyes: staying strong though & following paulgonnabedebtfrees advice :T

bathgatebuyer

Lula-Hula wrote: »

Hi BGB -

so sorry to hear your news... to be honest that's why i have no bebo or facebook, to open to other peoples idea of 'humour'.

If a 'friend' did that to me I would be incandescent :mad: & questioning whether I wanted the friendship to continue. Hold you're head high & remember that you are not the spiteful one causing discomfort & humiliation & if challenged by anyone say the magic words : F cough I'm fabulous :A



On a lighter note; had an email from the loser this morning saying he would'nt ring any more & would leave it to me to make contact....

the phones' been ringing every 20 minutes since 4pm :rolleyes: staying strong though & following paulgonnabedebtfrees advice :T

Cheers! I'm glad it's not just me who thinks it's out of order Problem is that it's one of my mates from way back at school so I've known her for 27 years :eek: (yep, I'm that old!). I get so frustrated by other people at times. I mean, my other mate from Uni lives 70 miles away. Invited me down to hers one weekend. Got down there for 9 am as we had a whole host of things planned. She opens the door in her dressing gown, "Oh, I should have phoned you..............I've got flu so staying bed all day" so I then had another 70 mile drive straight back home. So, about £20 in petrol gone (which is difficult to find when you're skint) for a door slamming in my face. That was my best mate from Uni :rolleyes: Same person didn't invite me to her wedding as she knew I 'had no one to go with'.

Another mate from Uni was the guy who stood me up at the Millenium Hogmanay.

I mean, what is it with people that they think I'm a piece of crap and can treat me like that? Is it any wonder that sometimes it's just not worth the hassle with people? I'm not perfect, but I would never EVER treat people the way some of these people have.

Oh my two best mates, neither of them have ever visited me since I've lived in Edinburgh. I realised that bar the estate agent who was here last week, the meter reading Scottish Power guy and my Mum, I've not had a visitor in 7 years :eek:

It's official, 32 and already one of those old ladies who lives on her own with a cat.

(Another few years of this and I'm gonna pounce that meter reading guy :rotfl:)

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Hi BGB
Sorry to hear about your Bebo posting. Your "friend" is obviously not a friend to have done that to you.
I hope they have the decency to apologise for posting something so private.
Take care
X

Lula-Hula

BGB - at least you have a cat, I just talk to plants.

You need to do something called "cutting the deadwood out of your life" I've had some really rubbish friends over the years... used to cling on in case I never found another but now I can talk to you guys & freddie the fig tree ;)Go on... get your pruning shears out

need to provide a meal so will be back later, I want to hear some snipping

norbydog

I'm single too.... My debt started cause I tried to help my Mum who'd lost her home though a failed business venture....
I've mad some very bad decisions...trying to help others when I deep down I couldn't afford to......I've kept my head in the sand to long..... but I hope too turn this round,but feel so lost and alone.
Thank you to all...this is the first day I've ben on this site and it is encouraging to see so many peolpe managing.

makeup

BGB - That is really horrible. Do you think it will be as bad as you think?? Maybe not everyone checks their bebo regularly. I don't use it myself so not sure how it works but would they have it to see right in front of them or only if they went onto your page. Fingers crossed you caught it in time before too many people read it.

Sometimes people can be very unthinking in what they say and do and can be very hurtful without being malicious.

I am quite sociable and like having friends over and wish could do more of it as I rent a room so not really enough room for many people!! However if you don't feel the need to invite people over then I wouldn't worry about it. Everyone is different and if you prefer spending time alone then that is fine.

I spend quite a bit of time alone, I do a lot of stuff but quite often on my own (cinema, theatre etc) so sometimes, to my family, I sound a lot more social than I am!

I've had quite a nice day, went to a farmers market and got some meat (so fingers up at Mr T!) and some lovely pear juice. Then have been mooching around house, did some cleaning and worked on my cross-stitch and have eaten 2 creme eggs - yum!

I'm going on holiday soon so have also been planning for that.

makeup

norbydog wrote: »

I'm single too.... My debt started cause I tried to help my Mum who'd lost her home though a failed business venture....
I've mad some very bad decisions...trying to help others when I deep down I couldn't afford to......I've kept my head in the sand to long..... but I hope too turn this round,but feel so lost and alone.
Thank you to all...this is the first day I've ben on this site and it is encouraging to see so many peolpe managing.

Hi Norby

We are all in the same boat here and it is indeed really helpful to see other people going through the same things.

It must be very hard not to help family members who need it, I know I would find this very difficult indeed so I can understand how your debt built up.

Stay calm and try and poke above the surface of the sand, it is a good feeling (once you have got over the shock of your debt figure) to have a plan in place and to feel like things are in control again.

sarahb123_3

Hi all, BGB what a horrible thing to happen. :mad: I really feel for you, I am a very private person as well and avoid all those sort of sites for that reason. I hope you take Lula's advice and do some "pruning," in order for there to be a new growth of friends you need to rid yourself of the toxic ones first to make space.

You said your friend did it carelessly, it wasn't careless it was thoughtless, a true friend would have considered the implications and your feelings first. That was very unkind of her and if you keep in touch she will assume it's ok to behave like that. I wouldn't make your "friend" aware that you are annoyed in case that appears on bebo as well, I would just gradually withdraw yourself from the relationship. She didn't bother to let you know you didn't need to drive to her house, nor did she invite you to her wedding, she is not worth keeping as a friend.

Try not to be too worried about what other people think, it may feel very embarrassing and hurtful to you, but to other people it will just be mildly interesting, if at all, and then something else will come along and it will be forgotten about. Just rise above it and don't let anyone see it bothers you in any way.

I know it feels really carppy now, but sometimes if we don't do the things we should, life gives us a big kick up the **** to make us do it. People change and move on, you don't need these people in your life anymore. Onwards and upwards! You have so much to look forward to with your new house, don't let anything or anyone get you down:D

Shoe_Gal

Hi BGB

I agree with Sarah, things happen for a reason, to make us see what we need to do. In your case, detox your life of people who are bad for you. It will be hard but you will so much better after

I also agree that people may well be less interested than you think! Sometimes other people don't even give us a thought! :rotfl:

Don't do Bebo or Facebook or anything but I assume you cna get rid of it now you've seen it?? Damage limitation

Take care

Shoe Gal x

Shoe_Gal

My beloved United won !!! :j :footie: and I've just spent £3 downloading a wallpaper of it for my phone

I will never be debt free :rotfl: